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AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. I have been talking to everyone about my lovely vegan wedding to be, but now that its getting closer, I'm kinda freaking out...... Its less than a year away, but my fiance's family is from Puerto Rico, and they are accustomed to a slightly larger affair than I was hoping for, so now I'm searching for a place to have the ceremony and the reception together (about 60-70 people). I have found a few places that have vegetarian options but they don't understand that Parmesan IS cheese, which is DAIRY, etc. So basically, my big question is, how have all you handled the wedding situation? How have you maintained any semblance of sanity in the face of a world where your only choices are steak or chicken???? :) Thanks, I look forward to hearing your stories :)
 

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Yay Boston!<br><br><br><br><br><br>
Sorry. No input. Just cheering on my old home. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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a lot of people I know have compromised and served meat at their weddings anyway. I just can't do that. :-( We want our wedding to be as "green" as possible....
 

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Sorry, I don't have much to offer... We had a mostly vegetarian buffet but did offer 2 omni choices as well. All of our side dishes and salads were vegetarian. 95% of our guests were omni (half were Jewish, the other half Italian-Americans) and we had a lot of children there as well (the vegetable-hating variety) so we were just trying to find some middle ground so that everyone would enjoy themselves.<br><br><br><br>
I hope you can find a way to make it work! You may have to bring an outside caterer in (as opposed to having the reception place supply the food) because then you'll have a lot more options. And in Boston, I'm SURE there must be some caterers who are creative and skilled at making vegan dishes. I know there are a ton of veg*n restaurants in Boston (maybe ask around in the Massachusetts forum) and you could ask for their help. If they don't typically cater, I'm sure you could place a huge take-out order and have some friends pick it up and deliver it to the reception. It might result in a more casual affair, but if making it vegan is important to you, that may be the way to go.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I just did a Google search and I read somewhere that Country Life does catering. I know the food is casual but you may want to give them a call to see what you can do.<br><br><br><br><a href="http://www.countrylifeboston.home-page.org/" target="_blank">http://www.countrylifeboston.home-page.org/</a>
 

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Congrats, bstutzma!<br><br><br><br>
The best advice I can give you is to not give in to expectations from either side of the family for your wedding. It's your party, you make the decisions. Be as pleasant as can be so you don't ruffle any feathers, but the decisions are you and your hubby-to-be's to make. I would think both families would be just pleased to be able to be there celebrating your union, no matter how you do it. If all you can afford is a lovely vegan wedding cake and some punch, then that's what you'll have. Your wedding day is own of the most important days of your life, but at the same time, it's not worth getting into years of debt over. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 

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Congratulations on your up coming wedding! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br><br><br>
Yes, I compromised and served meat at my wedding. I was one of 3 vegetarians at my own wedding. However, I was not going to settle for the usual crappy institutional "Pasta Primavera" that seems to be ubiqutious on banquet hall menus. I brought my own recipes to the chef at the reception site. He was wonderful to me and delighted in having a new culinary challenge. I ended up created a veggie friendly dinner that pleased not only me but all three veggies present at my wedding! We had eggplant medallians sauteed in olive oil with a marinara sauce. Tres yummy!<br><br><br><br>
Here are some suggestions for you....<br><br><br><br>
Get what YOU and your fiance want, keep shopping until you get both of you want.<br><br><br><br>
Stay away... I mean RUN away from your standard banquet halls. Normally they do not have a trained chef on staff, they have a bunch of "cooks" who press buttons on a microwave. That is why they seem so unwilling to change anything on thier menu.<br><br><br><br>
Find someone who caters independantly, they tend to be more creative, willing to compromise and try new recipes.<br><br><br><br>
I suggest the book, Vegan in Quantity. The author slips my mind, but it's the same author who wrote "Vegan for One or Two"<br><br><br><br>
Go Buffet style, Hors D'overs or consider having a brunch as opposed to dinner. (sp?) it may cheaper, you have more veggie-friendly options and you will make people happier.<br><br><br><br><br><br>
I also second ordering en masse from your favorite restaurant. Have a trusted friend pick up and deliver the food to the reception site.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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hmmmm I'm seeing vegetable primavera everywhere!!! very scary. Maybe I should go with a brunch. Any suggestions of things to serve? :)
 

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Tofu quiches! If not bothered by eggs, you could have some traditional recipe quiches, too.<br><br><br><br>
BTW, who is paying for the wedding? If it is you, then girl, it is 100% your party. If you want to walk down the aisle naked, covered in silken tofu, then it is YOUR choice. Don't let others push their expectations on you. Your money, your party.<br><br><br><br>
However, if someone else is paying for the wedding, or parts of it, then I admit you have to compromise. Pick the most important things to you (ie the food vs number of guests vs location, etc).<br><br><br><br>
Pasta primavera is sooooooo boring!<br><br><br><br>
You could have a champagne brunch (if you drink). Seasonal fruits, sweet breads, quiche, tofu/traditional cheesecake, finger foods, etc. If you don't drink, fruity and bubbly non-alcoholic drinks are lovely, too.
 

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I'm paying for the wedding definitely, my parents have no money :) I'm planning on a dry wedding too, I'm straightedge :) I might allow some champagne or wine though, I think my mother will want some ;-) For me though its sparkling apple cider or grape juice, hehe :) I kinda like the idea of the campagne brunch. it sounds nice and classy, yet still down to earth. Now I just have to find a place that will allow me to bring in an outside caterer or something ;-) Anyone in Boston?????? :)
 

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Sparkling apple cider, dealcoholized wine and sparkling grape juice make awesome elegant drinks.<br><br><br><br>
Also, instead of a brunch, you can have a candlelight snack at night. Of course, it would make more sense if you were getting married in the evening <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Congratulations!<br><br>
I applaud you for sticking to your guns and making it all vegan. Do what you want and if it isn't what some people are use to - oh well. Introduce them to something new.<br><br>
I can't really give any advice, but I do wish you the best and hope you post pictures of the wedding and the food.
 

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Ok just an FYI for everyone, I've posted questions several places and here's the info I have -<br><br><br><br>
organicgardencafe.com is the organic garden cafe in beverly, they cater. same with country life, but I haven't been thrilled with their food when I've eaten there, so I'm going to pass on that for now unless i get desperate :) And the most exciting (perhaps until I hear the price) is The Basil Tree in Somerville, which is a natural and organic caterer, which isn't all vegetarian, but the boston vegetarian society tells me that their members have used them in the past with great success. so i sent them an e-mail and we'll see how it goes!!! if i do use an outside caterer, now i just have to find a place to have the wedding!!!! most halls i've found online dont allow outside catering... when I am done with this I think i'm going to start a website to help vegetarians with their weddings!!!!!!
 

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Your Money=Your party!<br><br><br><br>
What to serve, not a menu but some suggestions to give you an idea.<br><br><br><br>
Breakfast Tarts, made with Tofu<br><br>
Tofu Scramble<br><br>
"Soy Sausages"<br><br>
Granola and Soy Yogurt<br><br>
Whole Grain Pancakes topped with fruit<br><br>
Fruit Salad<br><br>
Some steamed or grilled veggies on the side<br><br>
Bagels and English Muffins with assorted toppings.<br><br><br><br>
I think you should serve smoothies to drink!<br><br><br><br>
Toast with sparkling grape juice is a good idea, there are lots of good ones!<br><br><br><br><br><br>
Reception sites: Have you considered a local park, college or university? A friends backyard? Historic Mansion? Art Gallery?<br><br><br><br>
*Down with Pasta Primavera!!*
 

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Pasta Primavera? In THAT dress? Come on! You can't eat food like that when dressed up.<br><br><br><br>
You need fancier foods! There is a law somewhere about that...
 

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I've sent out a million e-mails to places but no one is writing back to me!!! :-( Maybe they are really busy with wedding season or something.... I'm so anxious to hear back, I can't stand it!!! :)
 

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Agree with MonkeyandBunny, your money=your wedding.<br><br><br><br>
Omnis can eat vegetarian food, but vegetarians CAN'T eat omni food.<br><br><br><br>
A Mediterranean feast is great for everyone. Lots of complex flavors and good looking salads/falafel/hummous/olives/spinach pies/baba ganouj (sp?)/etc., not to mention the wine!<br><br><br><br>
Just stick to your guns. Your guests will have a great time, and if you put enough booze in them with some great music, they'll never notice the lack of meat.
 

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I wish I could offer some advice, but I really can't because my wedding was a small and casual affair, and our parents paid for it. We had three buffets: omni, lacto-ovo, and vegan. For the vegan buffet (the largest, naturally) we served a vegetable and fruit platter with dips (of course!), hummus with pita wedges, Thai vegetable wraps, fresh salsa and tortilla chips, a variety of olives, peanut butter sandwiches on pumpernickel, triple berry tarts, and several other items. I know you're going for something much fancier, but maybe that can help you a little. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> We had a lot of guests at the reception, so we made it a garden party in my mom's beautifully landscaped backyard.<br><br><br><br>
Best of wishes!
 

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I would LOVE to do that. I just dont have a nice backyard to do it in :) I was thinking that at first, hummus and pita triangles, but i'm getting a little bit of pressure... if I can do something breakfasty it could be simple without looking "too vegan" :)
 

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I'm from boston and last years boston vegetarian food festival had some samples of some amazing vegan wedding cake. I wish I could remember the name.<br><br><br><br><a href="http://www.vegetarianwedding.com" target="_blank">www.vegetarianwedding.com</a> has some tips and whatnot.<br><br><br><br>
i say keep it vegan and keep it sXe.<br><br><br><br>
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