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So fourth of july comes and i get out the tofu dogs me and my sister bought together to cook. Well it was a little bit of a hassle to get them cooked because my brother refused to cook them. So cooking them was a bit of a hassle because my brother kept on pushing me out of the way and saying i was getting in the way. So whatever i wait patiently hoping the dogs aren;t burnt ,and finall after my brother breaking the top fot he grill and casuing a frenzy and me trying to keep my dogs from burning i get them off. My brother being his usually jerky self i told my mom to tell him off(i'm not one to go to 'mommy' when a fight comes up but you have to realize he;s 21, not 5, so there's not much i can do and it only gets me more upset.)<br><br><br><br>
But as i was letting my mom know, she tells me i'm not a part of the family anymore because i won't eat what everyone else eat(i think she was trying to defend my brother because she thought i was in the way as well). I was completely off guard so it took a while to realize what she had just said. Is being vegetarian hurting the relationship with my family just over food? I know my mom shouldn't be saying that over some food ,but she did and she meant it. I just don't understand her. I mean i was there with everyone else and talking and stuff, what in the world does food have to do with it? Someone explain this to me, because it really hurt to have her say that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":(">
 

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Geez.. what a horrible thing for your mom to say. Even if they were right about all the rest of it (which doesn't sound like they are) that would be way out of line. Why would they be willing to make you a second class member of the family over such a minor thing?<br><br><br><br>
I'd suggest you talk to her about it and tell her how much it hurt you. If this is way out of character for her, chances are she didn't realise what she said. This doesn't sound like it's about what you're eating. It sounds more like it's about your relationship.<br><br><br><br>
Maybe in future similar situations, you could cook your food seperately from the others? Could you possibly go inside and fry your hot dogs instead of BBQing? Ideally you shouldn't have to, but it's better than causing more trouble.
 

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That's horrible. There's so much I'd love to comment on everything you said, but I'll shorten it to: YOU being vegetarian is not hurting the relationship. Their reaction to it is.
 

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Oh wow, that's horrible!<br><br><br><br>
If my mum would have said that to me...she would never hear from me until she apologised. That is a really mean and cruel thing to say. Especially over food. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/mad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":mad:">
 
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someone should explain to your mum that being part of a family isn't about sharing the same food, or following the same diet, it isn't about sharing the same beliefs, and isn't even about agreeing with each other- its about caring about each other. i don't think your being a vegetarian has hurt your relationship, i think that some of the people in your family failing to use rational adult behaviour has hurt it though. i'm sorry that your family has reacted to your choice like this, and i hope things improve soon.
 

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I'm sorry, that is such a horrible thing to say.<br><br><br><br>
Now granted I only have this small paragraph to judge your famly but they sound incredibly closed minded.
 

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Wow, that really is terrible. I hardly think that what you eat - so long as you are being smart about it - is hurting your family. And both your brother and mom's reactions were incredibly juvenile.
 

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at a point in one's life they realize that their parents and older siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents have just as many flaws as we do, and make mistakes. i think in this case, your family has just made a mistake, and hopefully with time they will realize it. i am sure your mother has so much love for you, but don't forget, that she's human just like the rest of us. she made a mistake hurting you like that. i'm not saying to be angry or hold a grudge, but sometimes our families will be unhappy with the choices we make, and there's not much we can do about it except try to help them understand in the most constructive way possible.<br><br><br><br>
my suggestion would be to stand your ground, and be who you want to be. you are not hurting anyone by being vegetarian. you can't always please your family. if they have a problem with something you choose to do, you have to let them deal with that problem on their own. explain to them the reasons behind your actions, but don't stop doing something you believe in your heart to be right just because your family or anyone else says so.<br><br><br><br>
it may be rocky at first, believe me, but in the end it will be better for everyone.
 

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I'm sorry your mom was totally insensative (I think I spelled that wrong) she's probably just frusterated because you won't eat the things she makes. What I would do is sit her down, tell her what she said hurt your feelings and ask her to respect your beliefs and if she won't who cares? Shes the one with the issues, not you. Good luck!
 

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Wow, I can't believe how hurtful a statement that is. Like everyone has said, it's not you that is hurting your family relationship- it's their reaction to it.<br><br>
It doesn't have to be that way, but unfortunatly, all you can do now is control your reactions. I think that you should definitely talk to her about her statement, and you are going to have to work really hard to show everyone that being a vegetarian does not mean more work or bland, gross foods.<br><br>
I would suggest cooking for them, or bringing a dish that more people would be willing to try (tofu dogs are usually not on the top of omni lists of food to try).<br><br><br><br>
Be strong, and know you are doing the right thing by not eating animals.<br><br>
Hopefully they will soon accept it, or at least get used to it.
 

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Wow, that's harsh. How did you react to that? How have you reacted since? It seems to me that it's important to let your Mum know that what she said was really hurtful.<br><br><br><br>
Eating meat seems to be almost a moral requirement for some people. Is this the first time that you've gone against something that your family feels is important?<br><br><br><br>
Your best course of action IMO is to sit your Mum down and ask her specifically what her problem is with you not eating meat, then deal with whatever it is she says. If she's concerned about your health for example, then you explain to her exactly what you're doing to make sure that you get all the nutrients you need.<br><br><br><br>
Then explain to her exactly why you've gone veg, and ask for a specific action from her. For example, I had to ask my Mum not to bring up the fact that she's against my vegetarianism, in the interests of family harmony, and she agreed.<br><br><br><br>
You might want to do the same with your Brother, if you think he's mature enough to deal with it.
 

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How old are you? Call child services (or whatever you have in your area) and tell them your mom kicked you out because you're "no longer part of the family." Tell them that she doesn't love you anymore because of the type of food you eat (or don't eat in this case). Tell them you're afraid she's going to do something really drastic if you don't listen to her. They will lock her away in the loony bin and you will get all kinds of stuff for free <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"><br><br><br><br>
Or maybe not... but I don't have any advice to offer except to say that I sympathize... that sucks... but it sure would be cool, wouldn't it?
 

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I get a lot of crap from my family. One sister is very understandng although she is not veggie herself. The other two sisters, my parents, uncles, aunts think "its just weird". So, I do know how it feels, but I also don't rely on them, so I can't imagine how much pressure you are under to "give in".<br><br><br><br>
Maybe we need to start a veg*n shelter for disowned veg*ns?
 
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