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So its my ladys birthday and I want to make her happy and in my former life I was pretty good griller if I do say so myself. She wants me to make her a T-bone and bernaise sauce etc....I dont know how I feel about this but I am 100% not tempted to eat meat by it just dont know if morally I can justify it...help!

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My boyfriend eats meat. I don't make it for him, though, and if he asked I would say no.

If you're uncomfortable with it, tell her. If she cares about you, she'll respect that.
 

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When I first became veg I continued to make my one son meat, then let him cook it, now no dead animals are allowed. I felt obliged because I raised him on meat, and felt I needed to help make the transition. Your girlfriend doesn't qualify for that.
If ethics are part of why you're veg, than cooking meat says it's not that important.
Taking her to a concert, movie, or play that isn't what you like shows you care about her. Throwing away your ethics shows that you can be bought, and really just not trusted to stick by your beliefs. If you can do that for her, you would do that for other things, later in the relationship, that will come out.

By all means take her out if that what she wants, but don't compromise yourself. She should respect that. If you were of different political views, would you endorse the others candidate?.

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I was veg*n for several months while my wife was an omni. I would not cook her meat...not even for her birthday. If you don't eat meat for ethical reasons, and it makes you really uncomforatble thinking about cooking it, tell her. My wife is vegan now so it's not an issue for me. If she understands your reasons for not eating meat maybe she wouldn't even ask you to prepare it. My wife never asked me because she knew how I felt about it.
 

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I would feel uncomfortable preparing meat too, but when I was dating an omni a few years ago, I did take him out to a steakhouse for his birthday. Even though it's really all the same, at least my stomach didn't turn.
 

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if you don't feel comfortable don't do it. you can still make amazing stuff on the grill though; no meat necessary.
 

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Instead of a steak make her a special non-meat grilled meal to reinforce that it is the textures and flavours of the condiments and seasonings that make a meal tasty and not its animal content.
 

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Instead of a steak make her a special non-meat grilled meal to reinforce that it is the textures and flavours of the condiments and seasonings that make a meal tasty and not its animal content.
http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/grilled...ms/detail.aspx or something like it. Num.

My bf knows I will cook whatever and how much he wants but I do not cook meat and he is fine with that. I just hope it is still cool when we get our place together.
 

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My ex was an omni. He did all the cooking which I loved
and miss
but on occasion when I cooked his meats I would put on my latex gloves, season & cook it. I live with my father now and do the same for him.
 

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I wouldn't cook it... but then, I know my boyfriend would never ask me to. Just weigh up what you're comfortable with and make your decision... if you decide not to, and your girlfriend can't accept that, then she's probably not right for you in the long run.
 

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So its my ladys birthday and I want to make her happy and in my former life I was pretty good griller if I do say so myself. She wants me to make her a T-bone and bernaise sauce etc....I dont know how I feel about this but I am 100% not tempted to eat meat by it just dont know if morally I can justify it...help!
Here's the plan ...

1. Ask you girlfreind if a 'three way' with her sister/mum/best freind as a treat from her on your birthday would offend her moral code.

2. Do the sleeping on the sofa, "your dinner is in the dog", thing for a fortnight or so ..

3. Kiss and make up.

4. Negotiate a truce whereby neither of you asks for birthday treats that offend the others moral code.

No charge. Best of luck
 

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First off what was the title before I missed it? Anyhow my Birthday is coming up and My husband is taking me to Olive Garden for Pasta and Salad and breadsticks in a few weeks I asked him. If it was his Birthday he would pick a steakhouse like Texas Roadhouse. Maybe ask her if she wants to go out instead and what place she would like. Don't have a problem paying for something which is her Birthday.
 

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I prefer to live each day as if it is my last ( I nearly died for 6 months straight ) so my perspective is weird. My belief at this point is if this is my only life (not sure it is) then why do anything I dont want to or have to do. For example why work 10 years for a company that makes one miserable, why eat meat if you don't want to, why compromise your morals...truth is you dont have to....life can be whatever you want it to be though at some points this lifestlye can be hard for me.
 
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