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Hey guys I've been having really bad distorted body image, for like... ever. I'm 17, 5'1 and 1/2 and weigh 87 pounds. It has gotten so bad lately, i don't even want to go out with my friends any more, because i'm so digusted with myself. I've tried to talk about it with people, like friends and my sister, but they just don't understand, they think i'm just digging for complements, which is really not true, i just want help. I'm not horribly underweight or anything, i'm naturaly small framed and my 'natural weight' if you wanna call it that is like 92 pounds. I think i might be depressed and i've talked to my mom but she says 'its just a phase.' <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("> I just really need some advice, because i don't want to lose more weight, but when i look in the mirror i feel like i have no choice.
 

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Do what you can to get professional help. It's a great thing that you can see that what you see isn't right and it's great that you want help. Have a serious talk with your parents about seeing a therapist regarding this. Are you still in school? I know classes are probably done for the summer, but if your parents aren't helpful, perhaps someone at the school can point you in the direction of help.<br><br><br><br>
Wishing you the best...
 

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It is hard for me to answer because I have had rocks thrown at me for the way I look. I have been slapped around because of the way I look. I have been asked rude questions by strangers on the street due to the way I look. So you are 5-1 and are 87 pounds? Is that normal? I would say stop dwelling on things you can't change. Why do you think you have no option but to loose weight? That is an odd statement. I think personally you should voulenteer at a homeless shelter and really look at people and see what a "real problem" looks like and realise that you are probably a pretty, very good looking, fortunate young person. --thats just me--I know it sounds unsympathetic, but you really need to think about something else.
 

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I'm sorry you feel the way you do *hugs*<br><br>
And I have to agree with April, professional help would be a good start to battle this (since I don't think you want to walk around with this forever right?)...<br><br>
'Cause you might be able to find out where it came from and how to deal with it...or at least learn to function like you'd want to and stuff...<br><br><br><br><br><br>
I definitely know what it's like to not be understood heh, and to be told that what I was going through (which was something different) was just a phase etc. (that phase lasted like 4 years lol).<br><br>
It's really frustrating *hugs*<br><br><br><br>
But hang in there! Eventually they'll understand, though it will take time (took my mom aaaages before she finally could grasp what was going on with me).. and if they don't, we're always here for support<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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. I think personally you should voulenteer at a homeless shelter and really look at people and see what a "real problem" looks like and realise that you are probably a pretty, very good looking, fortunate young person. --thats just me--I know it sounds unsympathetic, but you really need to think about something else.[/QUOTE]<br><br><br><br>
Actually, i do volunteer, i don't know why you would assume i don't, but trying to focus on other things more is a good idea. ahhhh but it is hard to change the way your brain thinks.<br><br><br><br>
Thanks guys, i think i will try and talk to my mom again and mabye try to get professional help. I sick of being irrational and i really do want to have an normal body image. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/undecided.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":-/">
 

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It's so hard, particularly nowadays, when there is so much out there in the media telling us what we should like, and that it's never good enough. I agree, if you can't get your mom to listen, try and find someone who will take you seriously. Good for you that you are wise enough to seek help with a situation that you are having trouble with. Good luck and please keep us posted on how you are doing.
 

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I've certainly been there. I was anorexic during my last year of college, and am now *finally* living my life. I regained a bunch of weight the healthy way, eat tons of yummy and whole foods, exercise almost every day, and spend my workdays saving cats fromt he shelters. I think the biggest turning point was focusing on something outside of my own distorted body image, mental, and emotional problems. I got a full-time job as an assistant coordinator for a nonprofit animal rescue group. Hard work (60-hr weeks), but rewarding as hell. I was able to stop obsessing as heavily over my own issues, and focus on the furry guys. I am stoked you are already volunteering, and totally recommend sticking with it. Working with animals is also very therapeutic, so if you're a huge animal lover and have extra time, I owuld get involved in a rescue group. They always need a helping hand!<br><br><br><br>
GOOD LUCK!!<br><br><br><br>
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I've been through the whole body image thing. One thing that helps me is if I eat healthy and excercise every day. Then I'll know that I'll weight what I am supposed to weight and that I don't have to obsess with it. Yeah, sometimes I still dwell on the, "I think I'm fat," thing, but I know that I have to weigh a certain weight to function properly. If you can't get this resolved on your own definately see a counselor about this. It really isn't fun to obsess over something like weight all the time.<br><br>
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Thanks for the advice and kind words everyone, it really means a lot to me. I will definately tryout your suggestions. Thankyou! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I am repeating what everyone else said, seek help from a counselor. Just make sure that all issues are talked about and resolved. Distorted body image, and depression. Most of the time when a person thinks they are depressed, they are. Do not dismiss any feelings you may have, talk to a counselor, he/she will be able to help you.
 

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Get rid of the mirrors (and scales) in your house. Your reflection is not who you are. It is very liberating to go a long time without a mirror.
 

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I've suffered from a really similar thing...but I really let it go and got really poor grades and just totally cut myself off from the world. Just get help as soon as possible or you will totally regret the decisions you made when you were sick once you're well. You should tell your mom that you're in over your head and you just want to fix it bfore you fall any deeper into the hole. She'll prolly respect your maturity.
 
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