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For the third time now a doctor has asked me if I have been evaluated for Asperger's Syndrome. I understand where he is coming from... I've had issues ever since I was a kid and I exhibit most of the symptoms of Asperger's. But at this point (age 49) what good would a diagnosis do me anyway? It's not like I'm going to change anytime soon and what I am is what I am. Why would I want to proceed with a diagnosis when it likely won't help me anyway? I've come to terms with the fact that I am just plain wierd... and have been so ever since I was a kid... how will a diagnosis of Asperger's help me at this point? What therapy can be had?
 

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I wouldn't, but that's just me =/
 

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If it's just a light version, aspergers shouldn't be <b>that</b> much of a bother anyway.
 

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I don't know, but have you tried asking him (your doctor) that? Or, you could get evaluated, since it doesn't harm (unless it costs?) you, and you can ask that person and they will probally be in the best position to answer. Then I guess you could just say you didn't want to know the outcome if it came to it.
 

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Er, I dont know if I should be coming out of the closet here, but I have Aspergers. I have a diagnosis. From my discovery, a diagnosis is not really useful unless you are unable to work and need to access social services. Otherwise you are just paying $X00 to sit across from some patronising psych person who will later use the money for their golf membership, or overseas travel fund.<br><br>
Some people get a diagnosis out of curiosity, which is fine, but I never seeked one for that reason, as it was pretty obvious to me as several family members also have it.<br><br>
If you want to find out more about Aspergers, a good way to go is read online blogs by people with Aspergers and see if anyone writes stuff you can relate to. Also you could try joining as AS group in your area if you want to meet people with AS.
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Freesia</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3069569"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Er, I dont know if I should be coming out of the closet here, but I have Aspergers. I have a diagnosis.</div>
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<br><b><i>It seems like it took a lot of courage for your to admit your diagnosis. Thank you for your honesty.</i></b><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">From my discovery, a diagnosis is not really useful unless you are unable to work and need to access social services. Otherwise you are just paying $X00 to sit across from some patronising psych person who will later use the money for their golf membership, or overseas travel fund.</div>
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<br><b><i>Well that sounds hopeful</i></b>.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">If you want to find out more about Aspergers, a good way to go is read online blogs by people with Aspergers and see if anyone writes stuff you can relate to. Also you could try joining as AS group in your area if you want to meet people with AS</div>
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<br><b><i><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/yes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":yes:"> Aspergers is so common now that there are many groups out there.</i></b><br><br><b><i>Personally I would want to know but I understand why you wouldn't really care to find out.</i></b>
 

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If you want to find out, just out of curiosity, go for it. Is it really a big deal if they diagnose you with it?
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>fadeaway1289</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3069617"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><b><i><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/yes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":yes:"> Aspergers is so common now that there are many groups out there.</i></b><br><br><b><i>Personally I would want to know but I understand why you wouldn't really care to find out.</i></b></div>
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Well it is basically whether to get a professional opinion about it or not. Many people with AS feel that if you read enough up about it, and meet people with it, you can get a pretty general idea of whether you have it or not, and if you are still unsure, you can seek an opinion if you want. The tests that the psychs get you to do are all available on the internet anyway, so what you are paying for is for someone to take you through these tests, and offer you an opinion based on the experience they have. And then there is the cost, which varies depending on the psych.<br><br>
It can be expensive, which is kind of crappy because often people who need the diagnosis the most because they need to obtain social services, are likely to have the least money.<br><br>
If you decide to go for one, it is best to go to a psch who specialises in AS, as psychs who dont will not know what to look for.
 

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If you won't gain anything by finding out, I wouldn't do it. What kind of self esteem punch would that be. If you love yourself for how you are, (which you should!) then I don't see the point.
 

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My son's occupational therapist suspects he has it.<br>
I am reluctant to have him evaluated, all that will do is slap on a label he has to grow up with. He will always be eccentric and controlling (OCD) and super smart. With a label he has what is presented as a "disorder" which is nothing of the sort. Its a personality.<br><br>
Digger- (and others)- thank you for sharing this. I worry that it will make his life hard and that her will need special treatment and services, but I see that you all are normal healthy adults and are doing fine without the label. I am so on the fence about this. I needed to hear from others.
 

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My son's occupational therapist suspects he has it.<br>
I am reluctant to have him evaluated, all that will do is slap on a label he has to grow up with. He will always be eccentric and controlling (OCD) and super smart. With a label he has what is presented as a "disorder" which is nothing of the sort. Its a personality.<br><br>
Digger- (and others)- thank you for sharing this. I worry that it will make his life hard and that her will need special treatment and services, but I see that you all are normal healthy adults and are doing fine without the label. I am so on the fence about this. I needed to hear from others.</div>
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My good friend's son was diagnosed at about 14 with Asperger's syndrome after having been heavily medicated for years with ADHD meds of all kinds, none of which were effective. Danny is in his mid-20's now, still brilliant and 'painfully gifted' as a teacher described him once. He's one of my favorite people. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I friend of mine has Asperger's. She doesn't see it as a "disorder", but just part of who she is. That said, it does pose some unique difficulties, especially when it comes to social interaction (such as reading and utilizing body language, tone and facial expressions). She's intelligent and has a job and a master's degree, but certain things like job interviews are a lot more difficult for her.<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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My son's occupational therapist suspects he has it.<br>
I am reluctant to have him evaluated, all that will do is slap on a label he has to grow up with. He will always be eccentric and controlling (OCD) and super smart. With a label he has what is presented as a "disorder" which is nothing of the sort. Its a personality.</div>
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As a parent I would definitely want to know about something like that, because that may give you a better ability to help him with whatever difficulties he may be having. I don't it's quite accurate to describe Asperger's as merely a personality type. That said, it is good to be wary of diagnoses and keep in mind that every individual is different and that people aren't defined by labels.
 

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Wow.<br><br><br>
To the OP: You sound like you have a beautiful soul, and you are lovely whether or not you have it. A diagnosis is expensive, if you are fine not knowing, then maybe it's just fine that way.<br><br><br>
Don't listen to someone who says you're trying to be a hipster hypochondriac, it appears people like that are just so sad with their own like they need to dredge all over everyone elses. *hugs*
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Josh James xVx</strong> <a href="/forum/post/3069864"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><a href="http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-real-diseases-that-have-somehow-become-trendy/" target="_blank">All the hip kids have ass burgers.</a></div>
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^Rude.
 

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Don't listen to someone who says you're trying to be a hipster hypochondriac,</div>
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Wow.<br><br><br>
To the OP: You sound like you have a beautiful soul, and you are lovely whether or not you have it. A diagnosis is expensive, if you are fine not knowing, then maybe it's just fine that way.<br><br><br>
Don't listen to someone who says you're trying to be a hipster hypochondriac, it appears people like that are just so sad with their own like they need to dredge all over everyone elses. *hugs*</div>
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^Rude.</div>
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Seriously.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/yes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":yes:"></div>
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*like* to all these.<br><br><br>
I don't have anything more to add, but I wanted to show Digger not to listen to a rude someone in this thread, who's just being mean. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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how will a diagnosis of Asperger's help me at this point? What therapy can be had?</div>
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Let me think...<br>
it might categorize you as a person with a disability and you might therefor qualify for things you didn't previously qualify for (jobs, financial aid, etc)<br>
it would satisfy your or someone else's curiosity<br>
it's possible that you could contribute to the body of knowledge on Asperger's by participating in studies etc<br>
it would probably make interactions with people easier if you could just say "by the way, I have Asperger's"<br><br>
But at the same time...<br>
the diagnosis could be wrong<br>
it might stigmatize you
 

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it would probably make interactions with people easier if you could just say "by the way, I have Asperger's"</div>
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No, it doesnt. They pretty much just look at you as if you have suddenly grown an extra head, then they are awkward around you for a few weeks, and then they forget about it, and behave towards you as they always have.
 

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Thanks everyone...<br><br>
I had previously typed out a nice long response to all of your insightful posts but deleted it because I tend to share too much personal information when I'm drinking.... which I do way more than I should. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"><br><br>
Just to be clear, I wasn't upset by Josh's post and I wouldn't blame anyone for thinking I'm a hypochondriac based on the fact that I really HAVE been diagnosed with a number of real diseases and find myself looking over my shoulder a lot. I had cancer in 2000, and when they performed my pre-surgical testing for that I also found out that I have a rare congenital heart defect that was life-threatening and more serious even than the cancer itself. Follow-up testing from that showed some additional growths throughout my body, including one rather large mass in my brain which they now think I might have had since birth. I have some very nice MRI pictures if you want to see them. LOL. It's just crazy I tell you. I used to joke about having a brain tumor... that'll teach me.<br><br>
Anyway, my social eccentrities go all the way back to childhood, so who knows what caused them.<br><br>
Just wanted to say thanks for all the supportive comments...<br><br>
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