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I can't believe my life right now. I had planned to go to India in october for 2 months, having booked it in may. The guy i got together with in July knew this, we were pretty good friends already and before i left we discussed it many times & what it could mean. He was pretty devasted at me leaving but knew i'd be coming back, we had a tearful parting & i went. Everything was fine for the first month but the something changed, he became always too busy & was rarely in contact, it became obvious to me something was wrong but he never said anything, even when i asked. He said we had become distanced from each other & that we could talk when i got back. Even so it felt more like the relationship didn't exist for him anymore & i knew i couldn't do anything till i got back but that would mean going back which i didn't want to do unless i had something to go back for (the opportunity to extend my trip had come up). Despite my doubts i did come back, where he dumped me 2 days later after refusing to see me or talk to me on the phone, doing it on msn instead. He said he no longer had feelings for me, that it had been the case for a while & he hadn't wanted to tell me while i was in India because i'd been ill (which was actually only for the first few weeks i was there) & he didn't want to make things any worse for me than they were (but i was enjoying myself so that doesn't make too much sense..)<br><br>
So now I'm back when i don't want to be (there are benefits though- xmas!!, seeing friends & my family, though i don't get on w them) not sure what to do w the next however months having come back for somethings thats not there anymore. I feel really alone though another ex is there for me (but he is only seeing it as an opportunity for sex, which yeah he is open about, its not just my view of guys at the moment)<br><br>
And to top it off i might be pregnant with his child, its getting more likely as the weeks pass by but i haven't taken a pregnancy test, i guess i should but i don't want to know<br><br>
argh <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("> sorry everyone just a bit of a rant really, any advice anyone could give would be much appreciated<br><br><br><br>
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hi, how goes it.... (not good huh, but as to India per se and you~ did that go well otherwise for your own personal wellness/ joy, despite your lack of health in the first few weeks, why were you ill btw??.... )<br><br><br><br>
K, main.....<br><br><br><br>
msn <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"> way <span style="text-decoration:underline;">not</span> for him to do it even IF he is distanced from your home area <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"> anyways, he knoweth not of the pregnancy right, as is quite apparent I guess?<br><br><br><br>
I'd be tempted to buy him a magic wand and send it to him in the post, and write a note with it, saying fix this in person, before I (you) send "myself" in da post thru to you (him), as a way to speak with him in person to send home the reality of how you feel and wotnot!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/yes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":yes:"><br><br><br><br>
So, trip away, India, you were enjoying yourself KINDA (for some of the time anyway).....and la dee dah, stuff happens, and his (seemedly piss poor?) excuse expired about not contacting you whilst you were abroad, for the fact you were only ill for the first few weeks, so I agree it does not make sense enough that he did not contact you sooner, but to assess his caring or lack of, why would HE think good of even bothering to assess your mental state and waiting til your return, only to drop you by means of MSN, termination of his care for you thereof was that do you think, or does he have his reasons for contacting you via that faceless method do you think maybe?<br><br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:">
 

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oh, and your ex~ Sex, just what you need right now!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"><br><br><br><br>
He's open about it for what, to reassure you all he wants from you is the sex of an ex?....Rad, right when you're possibly pregnant. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"> Although maybe he's thinking ahead for any future 'opportunity' with you (valid hope or not), and is perhaps *just(?) supporting* for now in that hope is he, Your EX?....hmmm/eep.
 

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sorry that you're going through this.<br><br><br><br>
and eventually, you'll know one way or another. take good care of yourself.
 

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oh, and your ex~ Sex, just what you need right now!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"><br><br><br><br>
He's open about it for what, to reassure you all he wants from you is the sex of an ex?....Rad, right when you're possibly pregnant. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":rolleyes:"> Although maybe he's thinking ahead for any future 'opportunity' with you (valid hope or not), and is perhaps *just(?) supporting* for now in that hope is he, Your EX?....hmmm/eep.
 

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Gosh, hurry and find out if you are pregnant..Im not sure where you live but you dont want to wait so long some of your options are eliminated..unless of course you are set on keeping it no matter what..in which case still find out because if you want to keep it you need to be taking care of yourself.
 

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<b>MOD ATTENTION</b> (wtf<b>:</b>)<br><br><br><br>
CAN MAYBE a mod tell me/ pm me and tell me why my second shorter post in this thread has disappeared... ?<br><br><br><br>
IF or not (either which way) there's something critical I need to know, LET ME KNOW, and PM my POST to ME, before/after deletion (don't matter, just edit, copy and send me in future <i>PLEASE!!!....so I can see my alleged error and possibly alter for reposting Or Whatever....THANKYOU....</i> ) so I can see why and WHAT FOR....Damned if I'm gonna spend time helping somebody, only to have a post deleted and then not be told about it.... and in addition not have a clue why that was.<br><br><br><br>
My current view of that= Stinks!! (<b>BECAUSE:</b> I am not ~at all~ in anyway clued up just now what the reason could be).<br><br><br><br>
Sheesh Mods, what the hell did I say? My second post came after Zoebird, and I AM <i>*very sure*</i> it posted...<br><br><br><br>
I demand explanation please!!!
 

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sorry its taken so long for an update, its been a busy season<br><br>
i'm not preganant which is really good, it would definitely have been the wrong time<br><br>
I'm also dealing w everything, i've had the support of some friends & while its still difficult, i'm feeling pretty good about stuff <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br>
planning my nxt adventure already...<br><br>
thanks for responding
 
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