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My husband and I are having marital problems, so what does he do? He goes out and stays out all night. He came crawling in at 6 am, while I pretended to sleep, and today he's telling me that he came home at 3. It's now 2 pm or something, he's still in bed and his wallet is completely empty. Is he insane? His best friend is an accessory to this, and his step-dad is telling me that nothing is going on and not to worry about it. I'm going to crash at my brother's house for a few days. Y'know, my brother, the bachelor who has nothing in his fridge but alcohol and condiments.<br><br>
Are they insane? Seriously, could men survive without us chicks to keep them from scratching there backs w/ forks and wearing the same outfit everyday? I mean wouldn't they eventually just die out from the beer and condiments diet or driving too fast or any number of the crazy things they do? And what in the hell is the reason for all the condiments if they don't have anything to put them on? I don't get it.
 

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Maybe like you say 'us men' just like to accessorize 'themselves'<br><br>
with beer instead of true manhood, (and pretend all is okay)...<br><br><br><br>
And also what to do to make use of the said pathetic attempt at<br><br>
'condiments' supposedly to relieve a weary situation pertaining to making the most of what they've got going for them but which falls to the wayside.<br><br>
Subsconcious need for misguided luxury perhaps???<br><br><br><br>
so instead they don't see sense and miss their opportunties to sort things out I guess is what you mean.. since probably alcohol goes to their heads before they can make any proper decision about things & prefer to settle for the lame/lazy option due to their drinking weakness and inability to relate to a woman as an equal, to be respected, right??
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by Cougar</i><br><br><b>He goes out and stays out all night. He came crawling in at 6 am [...] It's now 2 pm or something, he's still in bed and his wallet is completely empty. Is he insane?</b></div>
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Sounds like a good night to me. For him, not you. Sounds horrible being married to someone who won't take you with him when he rocks out all night.<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by Cougar</i><br><br><b>I mean wouldn't they eventually just die out from the beer and condiments diet or driving too fast or any number of the crazy things they do?</b></div>
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Perhaps, but at least we'd die happy.<br><br><br><br>
Wait a second, did you say a "beer and condiment diet" ??? Okay, that's not a man-thing. That's not even a human thing. Men may live of beer and whatever, precedence given to the beer, but you gotta have something to put the comdiments on, and to be washed down by the beer. Even if it is another condiment.
 

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Max - I partially disagree.<br><br><br><br>
When I was single, the refrigerator only contained beer and condiments. Why? Well, the reason for the beer was obvious. I kept the condiments on hand in case a girlfriend wanted to come over and cook for me.
 

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Are all men insane? No. Some men are dead, or in comas, or under the age of 3. The rest of us are insane. We have to be, to deal with women!<br><br><br><br><br><br>
BTW, I don't wear the same outfit every day. I have, however, coordinated my wardrobe so that every shirt matches every pant...and I have 7 kinds of mustard and no food. Sometimes I DO cook, like tonight I am making my special 5-pepper potato soup. And it isn't always beer, either...it is sometimes bourbon or Scotch.
 

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I'm sorry you're going through this, Cougar. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"> Sounds like a situation I was in with an ex of mine. Not fun at all.<br><br><br><br>
As far as the main question, yes, I think most men are insane. However, I also think most women are insane. So, I guess you could say I don't have much faith in the sanity of all humankind. Save *most* of you beautiful people, though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 

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I ain't against what other postees here may say in jest about beer & drinking for fun etc... but remember Cougar has something<br><br>
serious to think about here on the same topic ->> <a href="http://www.veggieboards.com/boards/showthread.php?s=&threadid=6738" target="_blank">http://www.veggieboards.com/boards/s...&threadid=6738</a><br><br>
What about you Cougar, do you drink any bevvies?... I guess not<br><br>
else that would encourage more drinking by your guy/s.
 

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On a serious tack...when guys get 'lost' they run to their friends, they turn to drink and debauchery. After all, us guys are much more emotional than women.
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by Johnny Mayberry</i><br><br><b>On a serious tack...when guys get 'lost' they run to their friends, they turn to drink and debauchery. After all, us guys are much more emotional than women.</b></div>
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Certainly, that is possible... we just lack the intelligence to go with<br><br>
it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"> (ie, emotional intelligence)...and hey there's no point us acting the blokey on this thread though... We are trying to help, right? OMG, now I'm thinking like a woman!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"> but hey its not so bad!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 

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Cougar,<br><br><br><br>
I don't know how long you have been married, how old you are, or if there are children in your marriage....all of these things make a difference.<br><br><br><br>
That being said, I have been married for 15 years, and have had my share of stuff (however, my husband would never stay out all night if he wanted to stay married to me). I am finally in a place where I believe, like Dr. Phil says, we teach people how to treat us. When my husband does something that really incenses me now, I am very clear that it is unacceptable, and that it will not be a part of our marriage.<br><br><br><br>
We have a wonderful daughter, and I wouldn't ever want to split them up. Also, I love my husband - he is my best friend. BUT, if he behaves in an "insane" way, I no longer fight or fuss. I no longer get involved with big discussions. I don't cry, I don't scream, I don't get pitiful with the "if you loved me" stuff. I tell him very clearly that his behaviour will not be tolerated again. I tell him that the door for him to leave is always open, but if he is going to stay, that I won't allow him to treat me or my daughter with disrespect. I say those things and I leave the room. If I am really, really pissed, I tell him that he'd better just walk out that door right now, but if he does, don't bother coming back. The locks will be changed.<br><br><br><br>
The thing is this: he knows that I am not screwing around with him. I don't make idle threats. I never threaten to hurt him or to cheat on him, whatever, I just make it clear that I won't be in a relationship where I am treated with disrespect or with no considerations for my feelings.<br><br><br><br>
The is very important: I DON'T TRY TO CHANGE HIM. I simply let him know what I WILL do, if he makes the choice to do that again.<br><br><br><br>
This has changed a lot of things in our relationship. BTW, I also try to do the same for him. I try to treat him as a friend and a loved one, but I don't try to tell him what to do, or how to do it. it is his life, and he has to make those choices.<br><br><br><br>
It's not that we are insane, it is that how we react to things, on both ends, is often unclear, emotionally driven, and made to create a conflict.
 

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Good post Equipro<br><br>
(I love Dr. Phil - my mom sends me tapes of his show because I don't get it here)<br><br><br><br>
On a lighter note: I think forks are the best back scratchers (though I have a designated back scratcher fork a friend put a hole in the end and I hang it on my key hook <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">)
 

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Ahhh, men...can't live with 'em can't leave 'em on the curb when you're done with 'em.<br><br><br><br>
I've been in and out of crummy relationships and a couple of good ones too and I agree with Equipro, communication is something a lot of people aren't really good at so we react badly and people think we're insane.
 

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I never ever will understand the men/women debate/fight. Men will say something about women. Women will say something about men. Blah blah blah. If you don't like something your man is doing, tell him! Otherwise you're giving him permission to do it!<br><br><br><br>
And let me tell you, a woman with a good set of batteries and maybe a sperm donor down the line will never need a man... Then again maybe thats just me.
 

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Yes, yes they are. After years of research, I have come to the unequivocal conclusion that men are, as a breed, comletely insane, and women would do best to give up trying to figure them out. (Note: I'm a bit jaded at the moment, so my professional opinion may be biased, but I stand by it!)
 

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Oh, I'll probably get some abuse for this, but here goes.....<br><br><br><br>
Isn't a p***s a little smaller than a brain? Perhaps the thinking process is a little off down there? Maybe that contributes to what we think is INSANE?
 

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Well this is an interesting thread.<br><br><br><br>
In answer to your question, No, all ment AREN'T insane but I have read your other post, it is clear yours is. I hope you decide soon what to do. You really need to come to a clear decision about this and then follow through with it.<br><br><br><br>
We DO teach others how to treat us.<br><br><br><br>
Oh, and since we're employing empowering phrases here's another: If someone shows you who they are, believe them!"--Maya Angelou. In other words, stop waiting around hoping the situation will improve...You take steps to improve your situation.<br><br><br><br>
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It looks to me that your husband is running away from the problems.<br><br><br><br>
Drinking beer and eating junkfood can be the same thing as woman eating loads of icecream to feel "good".<br><br><br><br>
BTW: I suggest you get a second user-id from Michael so you can discuss what you want on VB, maybe via a work-pc.
 

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<div class="quote-block"><i>Originally posted by Johnny Mayberry</i><br><br><b>On a serious tack...when guys get 'lost' they run to their friends, they turn to drink and debauchery.</b></div>
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So what does that do for you? Does it help? Supposedly, women like to talk their way through it; should we try debauchery? :/
 
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