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I'm bicurious, I suppose. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/tongue3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":p"><br><br>
Unfortunately I don't have advice for you; sorry. Just thought I'd say hello and let you know it's entirely normal to be confused, and if it takes you some time to figure this out, that's OK!
 

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I don't know, I'm merely guessing.
 

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I am def bisexual. Well I was a closet christian for my whole teens and didnt know much about anything - after school some bad stuff happened which in a way also opened my eyes.<br><br>
In the end I think one fall in love with a person not a sex.<br><br>
I have a lot of intimacy problems and thus think it some ways it would have been easier for me to be with a woman.<br><br>
Sometimes our fears also pushes us into a direction.<br><br>
Sorry probably doesnt really make sense - private message me if you want.<br><br>
Dont really want to discuss things here.
 

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There are actually around thirty genders, roughly split down the middle between physical males and females into fifteen or so subtypes.<br><br>
I guess I'm sexually attracted to three or four from the female side and one or two from the male. Does that make me "bi-sexual" despite the fact I'm actually attracted to five or six types of people?<br><br>
I have no clue. I think it's an arbitrary, worthless terminology but whatever floats your boat.<br><br>
What help do you think you need from total strangers on the internet, exactly?
 

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Well said Josh James... I always have all these expressions/feelings in my mind but hard to type what I mean. You did it perfectly.
 

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For me, gender doesn't factor in and I only care about the type of person they are. I guess that makes me bisexual. I'm monogamous (currently with a male) and haven't yet dated a woman but I'd most certainly be open to it if I were single, we were compatible and found each other attractive (and I do find both men and women attractive). Also, I'm not sure if I like the male/female gender split or the term bisexual because there most certainly are people that are somewhere in between or neither which I would be open to as well. Maybe a better term for me would be gender indifferent? Right now, I'm happy with the person I'm with. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":up:"><br><br>
Edit: Might want to ignore me. A better term for gender indifference and a focus on personality rather than appearance/gender would probably be pansexuality. Sorry!
 

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I'm bisexual. I know because I'm sexually attracted to men and women. Sexuality is usually defined as being on a continuum with some people solely attracted to women, some people solely attracted to men, and everyone else falling somewhere in between. I am probably closer to the gay side of the equation, however I'm in a long-term monogamous heterosexual relationship.
 

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You know how a really hot guy can take his shirt off and you're like "Yes! OH, THANK YOU for this treat right before my very eyes!!! Yes Yes Yes Yes!!!!!! *drool*" Well, I was having the same mental reaction when a girl would change her shirt in the room, or even leans forward enough to give me a peak of side-boob or cleavage (side-boob rocks!!!).<br><br>
Another big clue was that through my whole life, as far back as I can remember, about 50% of my dreams would have me as a male character. Ha-ha! In one dream, when I was about 7 or 8, I was rescuing a very hot girl from some "bad guys." I couldn't run very fast because I was carrying her, so I put her down so we could both run fast and escape, but she was wearing heels and was quickly recaptured by the "bad guys."<br><br>
There's that, and I continue to feel a pang of jealousy whenever I see a long-term lesbian couple. My relationships with women are very short. I tend to pick the crazy ones who suddenly freak out and try to run me over with their car.
 

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my boyfriend, now husband suspected something was up when he said : Honey, some guys and I are going to a strip club on Friday and my response was :<br><br>
Let me just grab my handbag.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)">
 

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I just knew.<br><br>
Sorry, I know that doesn't help... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/undecided.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":-/">
 

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third one down, sums it all up nicely.
 

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I kind of always knew I was bi. But I was raised with the values that it didn't believe it was a real orientation so I had to figure it out for myself.<br>
Anyways from the time I started feeling attracted to men/boys I noticed I got the same feeling about other girls. I had to resist the urge to check out other girls in the change rooms. I would have... I'm trying to think of a PG way to say this... fantasies about both genders. When flipping through magazines I would notice the girls and the boys. Since there are now considered to be more genders than just boys and girls I'm probably considered pansexual because my attraction isn't influenced by reproductive organs.<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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There are actually around thirty genders, roughly split down the middle between physical males and females into fifteen or so subtypes</div>
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Can you direct me to a source of this. Google is being useless.
 

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I think many bisexuals would technically need to identify as pansexual if they really thought about where they stand, so I don't see any issue with pansexuals sharing their experience here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> I'm also technically pansexual. I only identify as bi because I tend to be attracted to people who fall neatly into the male or female gender (don't know about this thirty gender thing), but that's mainly because there are more of those around! I've always tended to like guys more often simply because there are more males around who could be potential mates. I don't get interested in straight girls, and as groups lez + bi girls are more rare than straight + bi guys, since most people identify as straight. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"><br><br>
As for how I knew, it just dawned on me one day. I just realized it in an instant, "I'm bisexual." I felt sick to my stomach, it was such a shameful thing to me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("> I never had any confusion over, am I straight or gay? etc. I always knew I liked guys, it just took me longer to realize I liked girls, too. Society, my family, etc. had already been reinforcing the message that I'd be liking guys, no one said I might like girls... Heterosexism. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/sad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":("><br><br>
I would just say not to worry too much about pinning down an identity on yourself. Some people completely reject the idea of identifying, period. They say they just fall for whoever they fall for, and don't feel the need to say they're bisexual or anything. I feel comfortable with the label, but that's what it boils down to for me, too: it's about the person, and just like there's no necessary hair or eye color, particular build (though I have preferences there!), etc. there's no necessary sex. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I think sexuality runs on a continuum. I find women sexually attractive and have had sexual fantasies about women. I am married to a man and have never been with a woman. I would try dating women if I were single though. Guess what? I find men attractive too. I have never considered myself bi though. To me, you date who you want and have sex with who you want. Don't worry about labels just yet.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/yes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":yes:"> ^^ to the label thing. I just had a very similar conversation on the weekend (actually it was about this thread I was showing my friend the 30 genders thing and asking him if he knew about it). Any ways we came to the conclusion that sexuality is VERY confusing, so just go with it.
 

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sexuality is VERY confusing, so just go with it.</div>
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I agree entirely. I've always classified myself as gay. But lately, idk. I've been thinking more about women then I have men (I have a boyfriend.) I've had very vivid dreams about women. And lately I've been checking out women. But I still like men a lot. So idk what the f*** is up. Pansexual? maybe? BLAH.<br><br>
Sexuality is dumb. This world should just turn into one big orgy and we wouldn't worry about this.
 

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I'm interesting. Well, not really. But in any case, I'm attracted to men. Why am I posting here?<br><br>
I like looking at women. I like being around them, and I like seeing pretty ones, although I'm more of a boudoir than undressed type person in what I like to see. However, the thought of touching them, or being touched, repulses me. I don't know if it's wired in me just to look, or if I would have been attracted to them physically before some things happened to me, but either way, I'm a look but not touch sort with girls.<br><br>
I suppose it wouldn't really matter if I were attracted to women anyway though, since I'm in a committed relationship with a man that I don't intend to end, and if it does, I can deal with attractions more then.
 

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I agree entirely. I've always classified myself as gay. But lately, idk. I've been thinking more about women then I have men (I have a boyfriend.) I've had very vivid dreams about women. And lately I've been checking out women. But I still like men a lot. So idk what the f*** is up. Pansexual? maybe? BLAH.</div>
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I find I often go through phases where I find myself thinking more about men, or more about women. I might go a long time without thinking about one... doesn't make me any less bisexual, though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"> It's an identity, not a requirement that I be equally into both at all times. Overall, I am. I'm a 3 on the Kinsey scale; I don't find one more attractive than the other. But at any given moment, I might find myself more interested in one, just like I might crave sushi more than pizza or vice versa. (Right now, it's sushi, haha. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">)<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Cowseathumans</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2905673"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
Sexuality is dumb. This world should just turn into one big orgy and we wouldn't worry about this.</div>
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Heehee, not judging, but there are a LOT of people I ain't interested in getting it on with. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D">
 
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