So, a few weeks ago, my husband told me that we had been invited to go to a baseball game with his sister and BIL. Very exciting for Ryan (he's a HUGE Twins fan), kinda neat for me (I don't mind the occaisonal baseball game).
K and R were given 4 tickets to this game, which apparently was immediately a problem because they have 3 kids, which means, even if they went as a family, they would have had to buy one extra ticket anyway. They tried to buy 3 extra tickets so that we could all go, but apparently the game was sold out. And one of their own kids was really excited about going, while the other two weren't.
So, they decided to leave two of the kids at home and uninvite me. Not a big deal for me, since the game was on a friday night and not going gave me a chance to go train at my dojo instead (I rarely pass on a chance for more training). Of course, I did joke with Ryan that had I not known that my SIL and BIL really did like me, I would have been offended.
On Wednesday, Ryan tells me that my BIL, R, would be calling me to ask a question and I should make sure to call him if he doesn't manage to call by 8 or so. At first he (Ryan) wouldn't tell me what R was going to ask, but it got to be kind of late and there had been no phone call, so he told me that K and R wanted to know if I would babysit for the 2 kids who weren't going to the game, since I wasn't going either.
Honestly, I thought it was a bit tactless to first uninvite me to something and then ask me to babysit since I "wasn't doing anything anyway" (never mind the fact that I was doing something. Maybe I'm just annoyed that they didn't bother to consider that maybe I had already made alternate plans). Ryan didn't seem to think it was a big deal, since they really did need someone to watch the kids. I wouldn't have minded so much had the original plan been to just take Ryan to the game and leave me to my own devices, but both being uninvited and then being asked to babysit was a little much.
They did manage to get someone else to watch the kids, so everything worked out fine, but it just sort of bothers me that Ryan doesn't seem to see what the problem was. He also mentioned to K and R that I was a little offended at their actions and they justified it by saying that they didn't have anyone to ask, so they don't really see what the problem was either.
Honestly, I'm going to let it go since I'd like to keep the generally good relationships that I have going with my in-laws, but it does make me wonder if maybe I was over-reacting.
I'm curious to hear from those of you with kids, was it out of line for them to ask me to babysit after revoking my invitation to the event in the first place?
K and R were given 4 tickets to this game, which apparently was immediately a problem because they have 3 kids, which means, even if they went as a family, they would have had to buy one extra ticket anyway. They tried to buy 3 extra tickets so that we could all go, but apparently the game was sold out. And one of their own kids was really excited about going, while the other two weren't.
So, they decided to leave two of the kids at home and uninvite me. Not a big deal for me, since the game was on a friday night and not going gave me a chance to go train at my dojo instead (I rarely pass on a chance for more training). Of course, I did joke with Ryan that had I not known that my SIL and BIL really did like me, I would have been offended.
On Wednesday, Ryan tells me that my BIL, R, would be calling me to ask a question and I should make sure to call him if he doesn't manage to call by 8 or so. At first he (Ryan) wouldn't tell me what R was going to ask, but it got to be kind of late and there had been no phone call, so he told me that K and R wanted to know if I would babysit for the 2 kids who weren't going to the game, since I wasn't going either.
Honestly, I thought it was a bit tactless to first uninvite me to something and then ask me to babysit since I "wasn't doing anything anyway" (never mind the fact that I was doing something. Maybe I'm just annoyed that they didn't bother to consider that maybe I had already made alternate plans). Ryan didn't seem to think it was a big deal, since they really did need someone to watch the kids. I wouldn't have minded so much had the original plan been to just take Ryan to the game and leave me to my own devices, but both being uninvited and then being asked to babysit was a little much.
They did manage to get someone else to watch the kids, so everything worked out fine, but it just sort of bothers me that Ryan doesn't seem to see what the problem was. He also mentioned to K and R that I was a little offended at their actions and they justified it by saying that they didn't have anyone to ask, so they don't really see what the problem was either.
Honestly, I'm going to let it go since I'd like to keep the generally good relationships that I have going with my in-laws, but it does make me wonder if maybe I was over-reacting.
I'm curious to hear from those of you with kids, was it out of line for them to ask me to babysit after revoking my invitation to the event in the first place?