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I recently decided to go vegan [about 2 weeks ago]I've stuck to it, I went cold turkey, and I feel great I don't however have the support of my family and everytime I turn around they are trying to tempt me into something that they know that I don't want to do...my mom even tried to force feed me beef-ball...my dad has told me that this vegan crap has to stop...it is very frustrating to have no support at home I do however have a few friends who support me one of whom has been vegan for about a year and a half now she takes me to Amazing Grace so I can get food [can't drive yet], and we eat together at school and have the occassional dinner together. I have not asked them to change or even do anything for me.<br><br>
I cook for myself and help prpeare food for everyone else I have explained why I want to be vegan to them. Their disapproval puzzles me. They are dealing though thinking that this is just a phase and that come summer it will be gone. Can I have some advice on how to deal with them?
 

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<div class="quote-block">"All truth passes through three stages: First, it is ridiculed; Second, it is violently opposed; and Third, it is accepted as self-evident." - Arthur Schopenhauer<br></div>
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welcome to stage one.
 

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My parents disapproved in the begining, but I just talked to them a lot about the reasons I had for eliminating animal products (health, sustaniablilty) and gave them a detailed list of where I was getting all my nutrients. I also cook a lot, which helps and after a while they grew to accept it. I think they eventually (though they'd never admit it) began to respect me for sticking with it. They're still embarased to eat in public with me, but I've only got a few more months here...
 

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you might need that. also remember since you dont have the support of your family, you have the support of everyone here. since your parents are worried about your nutrients, ask them to write down how much they get and where and then really see whos getting less nutrients(exluding vitamin b-12, the only reliable source for that is if its synthesized, its called cyanocobalamin) for that you can eat nutritional yeast or take a supplement
 

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welcome to stage one.</div>
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I don't know, David Icke applied that quote to his ridiculous theories so I wouldn't throw it around too much.
 

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I don't know, David Icke applied that quote to his ridiculous theories so I wouldn't throw it around too much.</div>
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what were some of his theories?
 

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I have dealt with my mother on this, and am still dealing with her after being veg for three years. Your family may never change their minds. There are, however, some ways that you can make them a bit more comfertable with your chouse to be vegan. For example, you can cook your own meals, do your own shopping, include your mom in decisions such as "should I make a stir-fry or veggie burger for dinner", and let them know that you arn't mad at them for eating meat, and that you arn't mad at them for raising you on meat.<br><br><br><br>
I think the latter is one of the mane reasons why it hurts parents when there children go veg*n, it's like a slap in the face. It's like we are saying that the way they eat and raised us is wrong, and so we are going to go down a different path, and every time we make a veg meal, it just reminds them of that.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck! PM me or email if you want to vent or talk,<br><br>
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Buy them the book ""The complete idiots guide to vegan living" Tell them it either this or drugs ( just kidding). Say hay if it's only a phase then why worrie let me see for my self and when the phase is over we we all be happy. again.
 

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;1482642]my dad has told me that this vegan crap has to stop...it is very frustrating to have no support at home.<br></div>
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My dad has done exactly the same with me. He thinks that my diet is just a phase, and keeps telling me how silly I am being. I try to tell him how my diet is benefitting others, but he still won't listeb. My mother is more supportive, but still feels as though my diet is too restrictive. I can understand their concerns, but definately don't agree with them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/huh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":confused:"><br><br><br><br>
The best thing you can do is try to explain to others why you have changed your diet. Perhaps their disapproval is more due to lack of understanding. Alternatively, try showing them what you eat by cooking them a meal.<br><br><br><br>
Good luck! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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I remember at the budding of a very abusive relationship being told that my beliefs were stupid, and that I was stupid for believing it. And I was *forced* to not be vegan. ...this was someone I lived with! That's over now, thankfully! Which is why I am back here (I am a poster from way back) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"> You just have to kinda stick to your beliefs and stand up for what you believe in. Why live without believing in something? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> When I realized I couldn't adhere to my beliefs for once, then I just stood up for myself and said, "You know what? My beliefs are not up for your scrutiny. Take me or leave me." Depends on how mean the person is. heh. My true friends never once questioned my beliefs. You just need to know/be confident in your beliefs, and their jokes/comments don't hurt if they do, indeed, make any.<br><br><br><br>
Anyway, as far as family. My dad would always want me to eat "normal" food.. My dad was weird, but he would always make sure I could eat! And I was blessed with a very supportive mom. My brother would also help me a lot! He would be the first to take me to vegan/vegetarian restaurants, and take me to try new things! He would always try my cooking and love it, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Fafa, I wondered where you went and what happened with that situation. I'm glad you're back. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)">
 

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Yay, it's meatless! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"> A familiar face! Things have changed a bunch around here! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":eek:"> hehe. Good to see you..
 

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I remember at the budding of a very abusive relationship being told that my beliefs were stupid, and that I was stupid for believing it. And I was *forced* to not be vegan. ...this was someone I lived with! That's over now, thankfully! Which is why I am back here (I am a poster from way back) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/grin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":D"> You just have to kinda stick to your beliefs and stand up for what you believe in. Why live without believing in something? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"> When I realized I couldn't adhere to my beliefs for once, then I just stood up for myself and said, "You know what? My beliefs are not up for your scrutiny. Take me or leave me." Depends on how mean the person is. heh. My true friends never once questioned my beliefs. You just need to know/be confident in your beliefs, and their jokes/comments don't hurt if they do, indeed, make any.<br><br><br><br>
Anyway, as far as family. My dad would always want me to eat "normal" food.. My dad was weird, but he would always make sure I could eat! And I was blessed with a very supportive mom. My brother would also help me a lot! He would be the first to take me to vegan/vegetarian restaurants, and take me to try new things! He would always try my cooking and love it, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/smiley.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":)"></div>
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My brother makes is hamburgers talk to me. He's 22 years old.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/toilet.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":flush:">
 

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Thanks...I've stayed with it and I even found something to eat at Texas Roadhouse...[a steak house] and Popeyes Chicken...[they even put meat in the rice...the RICE!] but other than that I'm doing fine and mom is starting to accept it and dad -gasp- bought vegan food for me! I was sad it find out that the veggie patties at Subway were Morning Star man I loved those...[even as an omni] but I suppose thats the way it goes. At dinner they do still make unnessicary noises while eating meat...I just sit there and smile.<br><br>
Thank you all<br><br><br><br>
1 month tommorrow!
 
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