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I'm a 21-year-old male, who is desperately trying to become fully vegetarian, and vegan if possible. I have rather a lot to say, and I feel kind of ridiculous for telling all this, especially considering my age, but I would be very grateful for any advices. Also english is not my native language, so apologies if something doesn't quite make sense.<br><br>
Back when I was 17 I started to become interested in becoming vegetarian, primarily for the sake of animal welfare. I did however later on discover that the health benefits are quite significant as well.<br><br>
When I turned 18 I moved out, away from my mum. Shortly after I started eating vegetarian and sometimes vegan. There was/is however still a huge obstacle preventing me from being a complete vegetarian; dinners at my parents' place and family dinners. My parents are divorced, and both are meat-advocates. Telling any of the two that I want to go vegetarian, would result in a big confrontation. Both have the perception that meat is essential to human life, and its the only way to obtain the right amount of proteins.<br>
Its rubbish of course, but they do have the strong belief that excluding meat from your diet is extremely unhealthy - I guess it's a fairly common misconception. Taking the big confrontation is sort of against me; I get embarrassed very easily and I'm horrible at counter-arguing. My dad is a surgeon, and believes he knows everything there is to know about nutrition. I think however that a lot have happened on that area since he studied back in the days. Announcing my change of diet to him would be the worst - he is just one of the people that wont give up arguing until he has won; he believes that he is always right and never wrong. I'm pretty confident that he would start mocking me for having the idea, sadly. He absolutely loves meat, and does not care about the suffering it cause. My mum however just thinks it's a necessity to consume meat, I guess she has been raised on that belief, and convincing her would seem nearly impossible.<br><br>
All this comes down to the question: how do I tell this to my parents? what's the best way to approach this?<br><br>
It really shouldn't be such a big deal as I am making it to, but it seem to be a pretty sensitive topics to my parents, and Im terrified that the outcome would be bad.<br><br>
Much appreciated if you have read all this, and I would be grateful for any advice. Thanks!
 

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I have a hug for you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"> and these words: You are your own person and an adult. You will either embrace that and stand up for what you want or you won't (I hope you do).
 

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It looks like you have two major challenges right now:<br>
1. Going vegetarian/vegan<br>
2. Telling your parents<br><br>
The first step is deciding which you want to do first.<br><br>
I'd suggest that since you're an adult and since you don't expect to receive their support, you choose to <i>go veg first</i> and then after you've successfully done that, <i>then</i> tell your parents. Because, you know, it's just a little easier to convince someone that you're not going to fall over dead from not eating meat if you'd been not eating meat for a while. They kind of have to believe it's possible when you're standing there in front of them telling them you're vegetarian and - get this - still alive <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)"><br><br>
So, to go veg you'll probably need a bit of sound nutritional advice. Am I right? Check out these links for solid info:<br><a href="http://www.pcrm.org/health/veginfo/vsk/food_groups.html" target="_blank">http://www.pcrm.org/health/veginfo/vsk/food_groups.html</a><br><a href="http://www.theveganrd.com/food-guide-for-vegans" target="_blank">http://www.theveganrd.com/food-guide-for-vegans</a><br><a href="http://www.chooseveg.com/vegan-food-pyramid.asp" target="_blank">http://www.chooseveg.com/vegan-food-pyramid.asp</a>
 

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I have a hug for you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"> and these words: You are your own person and an adult. You will either embrace that and stand up for what you want or you won't (I hope you do).</div>
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I'd suggest that since you're an adult and since you don't expect to receive their support, you choose to <i>go veg first</i> and then after you've successfully done that, <i>then</i> tell your parents. Because, you know, it's just a little easier to convince someone that you're not going to fall over dead from not eating meat if you'd been not eating meat for a while. They kind of have to believe it's possible when you're standing there in front of them telling them you're vegetarian and - get this - still alive <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/wink3.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=";)"></div>
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Like Elaine said...go veg first. I can only suggest, that if you know you're supposed to eat over to their houses, to make and take food that you can eat, that is safe for you without butter or gravy or meat products. THEN explain what you've chosen, why, and you've brought your own food to eat, and that you'd still like to be in their company. If your mom is receptive, discuss what foods are animal based, and that you don't use them in your cooking, etc. It sounds like your dad is going to be the tough cracker to break.<br><br>
Go through Elaine's <a href="http://www.pcrm.org" target="_blank">www.pcrm.org</a> links (physician's committee for responsible medicine). As a physician, maybe he'll listen to them!
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>*AHIMSA*</strong> <a href="/forum/post/2965894"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br>
I have a hug for you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title=":hug:"> and these words: You are your own person and an adult. You will either embrace that and stand up for what you want or you won't (I hope you do).</div>
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