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12-12-2004 11:14 AM
GhostUser
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Originally Posted by renaissancesun View Post

I actually did try to toilet train my cat. It didn't work. Every time I removed the litter bowl from the toilet she would get worried and hovery.



So now I am confused. Am I talking to a cat right now? :P



No, it is me. She will probably be on later, though.
12-12-2004 11:06 AM
renaissancesun
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Originally Posted by FalafelsRule View Post

I am just going to train my cats to use the toilet and too flush it when they are finished.



Buttons has great PC skills. She somtimes logs in as me and posts here. You can tell when she does because my posts usuallly have a "nicer" tone to them when she does.



I actually did try to toilet train my cat. It didn't work. Every time I removed the litter bowl from the toilet she would get worried and hovery.



So now I am confused. Am I talking to a cat right now? :P
12-12-2004 10:35 AM
GhostUser I am just going to train my cats to use the toilet and too flush it when they are finished.



Buttons has great PC skills. She somtimes logs in as me and posts here. You can tell when she does because my posts usuallly have a "nicer" tone to them when she does.
12-12-2004 10:33 AM
renaissancesun
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Originally Posted by FalafelsRule View Post

Yeah, I feel like I am their slave, lol. Are there any good places a kitty can go and work for?





How are their word processing skills?



OR



I have been trying to get someone else around here to change the litter box. I would pay big money to see a CAT do it!
12-12-2004 08:34 AM
GhostUser
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Originally Posted by girlystar View Post

My cats and I are getting allong great. I just wish that they brought more money into the houehold.



Yeah, I feel like I am their slave, lol. Are there any good places a kitty can go and work for?
12-12-2004 08:30 AM
GhostUser Ok so I lied in my last post... my boyfriend (about to be ex) and I don't have communication anymore. And I just realized this in the past 24 hours... you when you're sitting there talking to friends and all of a sudden it hits ya? Well I've been there and done that and I am not going to subject myself to another relationship in which there is no communication b/c those are THE worst! I'm only 21 so I've got plenty of time to find a guy who will communicate but until then I will enjoy my absolutely fabulous single life.



Other than that all of my other relationships are AWeSOME. Parents, friends, my sister, best friends, rooommate, and def family... so God has blessed me.
12-11-2004 01:06 PM
SuicideBlonde My cats and I are getting allong great. I just wish that they brought more money into the houehold.
12-10-2004 08:33 PM
vegbunny83 this is an interesting thread!



my relationship with my boyfriend is going wonderfully- over the last year and a half we have been through a lot, and there were times where it seemed that we weren't going to make it, but now we are doing great and are very much in love with each other. yay!



my family- i don't really talk to them as much since i moved out, so things are great there.



my roommate- it would be a lot better if she cleaned, but generally pretty good.
12-10-2004 04:34 PM
MezzoEmi synergy - friend-wise? Or romance-wise?



Here's the stuff on me...



My parents - love them love them LOVE THEM. They are two of my best and closest friends. My boyfriend can't stand them, but I tell him I won't shun my family because they are SOOO important to me.



Sister - Mostly good...we share so many secrets and blackmail, but we're like night and day different. :P



The man - Pretty good, most of the time. I have a feeling that starting today things might be lookin' up.
12-10-2004 01:08 PM
synergy My relationship with my ex has become awesome over the past few months.

It's really bizzare.
12-10-2004 12:48 PM
GhostUser
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Originally Posted by huajiro2 View Post

Lack of communication = slow death

Huajiro... that is SO true! I was in a couple of relationships that deteriorated over lack of communication... this made it horrrible b/c they were great people. But now I have a great boyfriend and communication is there... finally!
12-08-2004 04:20 PM
kirkjobsluder
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Originally Posted by huajiro2 View Post

Would you say that your relationship is working? Why (or why not)?



Which one?
12-08-2004 03:55 PM
renaissancesun Re-7 yr itch...I read somewhere, and don't quote me on this becuase it was a while back and I can't remember the source, that it takes approximately 7 years for all of the cells in our body (atoms?) to have changed out and renewed. I read that when I was having that rough 7th year and I remember thinking maybe it's not a coincidence becuase we are all new people every 7 years and sometimes we just don't fit together.



For me, it could have all flown apart then, but my husband and I have made choices to have that not happen.
12-08-2004 09:02 AM
Jessica
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Originally Posted by MsRuthieB View Post

Freaky. My relationship is at the beginning of 8 years and I'm 37. My eyes are roaming too...is it the 7 year itch? I also worry about my stepdaughter (she's 11). The man is clueless..especially when it comes to taking care of his daughter. I'm not exaggerating when I say I honestly don't know what they'd do without me. The same things are crossing my mind that's crossing yours. Don't be surprised if I pm you someday..feel free to do the same.



Could be the 7 year itch..... but what I want to know is, can you scratch it away, or is it just gonna be itch itch itch from now on??!!



Ruthie we sound to be in very similar positions. Feel free to PM, it might do us good to vent to someone who's feeling the same thing.
12-08-2004 08:20 AM
GhostUser
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Originally Posted by Jessica View Post

Mmmmm, sad to say but things are a bit the same for me (in a 7 year relationship). I love him very much but..... my eyes have started roving. It's not a good sign. I want things to work out because quite frankly I can't face the idea of a break up, emotionally or financially. I just seem to spend all my time saying 'this needs to change' or 'that needs to change' and he agrees then.... nothing changes.



*sigh*



Sometimes I think I'm too old to be starting over again (37) but I know that's a stupid way to think. I'd also worry about my stepson.



Freaky. My relationship is at the beginning of 8 years and I'm 37. My eyes are roaming too...is it the 7 year itch? I also worry about my stepdaughter (she's 11). The man is clueless..especially when it comes to taking care of his daughter. I'm not exaggerating when I say I honestly don't know what they'd do without me. The same things are crossing my mind that's crossing yours. Don't be surprised if I pm you someday..feel free to do the same.
12-08-2004 07:47 AM
Elena99 With my dad - yes, it's working fine, we've never really had problems.



With my mom - better than it used to be. Sometimes we still get annoyed at each other, but at least I don't hate her anymore like I did when I was a teenager.



Sisters - they're both in other provinces. One I get along with better over the internet, somehow. The other one I get along with in person and over the internet.



Fiance - We're doing just fine, except we're separated by about 1000 miles until Dec 29th. >_>
12-08-2004 07:13 AM
Miss Meg with my mom-yes and no, we are too much alike sometimes and that drives us both nuts



with my dad-absolutly except that I think he works waaaay too much and I worry about his health



with my brother-yes, he's 17 I'm 24 and it is the perfect age difference, we have things in common but we don't step on eachother's toes



with my man- yup, he is my best friend and aside from my PMS days we have a blast.
12-08-2004 06:15 AM
Jessica
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Originally Posted by MsRuthieB View Post

nope..not working at the moment. It's been rather sucky for about the last 6 months or so. I'm waiting to see if this is just one of those rocky periods relationships go through of if it's dieing a slow death. We'll see..



Reason? Lack of communication...actually no communication.





Mmmmm, sad to say but things are a bit the same for me (in a 7 year relationship). I love him very much but..... my eyes have started roving. It's not a good sign. I want things to work out because quite frankly I can't face the idea of a break up, emotionally or financially. I just seem to spend all my time saying 'this needs to change' or 'that needs to change' and he agrees then.... nothing changes.



*sigh*



Sometimes I think I'm too old to be starting over again (37) but I know that's a stupid way to think. I'd also worry about my stepson.
12-08-2004 05:43 AM
renaissancesun
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Originally Posted by The Rev View Post

You've been married for 13 YEARS!! How old were you when you got hitched? Nine?



:



The Rev



Close enough. 23...or 24, can't remember. It was a long time ago.
12-08-2004 12:05 AM
Nicky The relationship I have with my boyfriend is very strong, since we have been through so much bad stuff in such a short amount of time. Being sexually active is how some of the problems came about. I love him so much, but things are really tough. I don't want to lose him or give up, hopefully we can just hang in there and things will get better, I find it really hard when things get tough, but on the other hand there are so many good things about our relationship too.
12-07-2004 08:56 PM
CountessKerouac My relationship with my boyfriend is working, yes, although we had some problems that I know will come up again in the future. But, things are good now, so seize the day I say.
12-07-2004 08:49 PM
GhostUser
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Originally Posted by renaissancesun View Post

We had our 13 year anniversary last week.



You've been married for 13 YEARS!! How old were you when you got hitched? Nine?



:



The Rev
12-07-2004 01:28 PM
renaissancesun
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Originally Posted by The Rev View Post

My relationship is an enigma to me.



On the one hand, we have similar tastes in many things, similar senses of humor, we're both on the bright side of the bell curve, etc. Plus, we have similar backgrounds, so we understand each other on some pretty deep levels (like facing abuse as children).



However, we both cope with our insecurities differently. I tend to lean to the passive side (letting things slide, being too nice in the hopes that others will be nice to me, not saying anything when she hurts my feelings, etc) whereas she leans more to the agressive side (overly hostile and defensive when I try to confront issues, fights mean alot, etc.)









Sounds like home, kind of. I tend to be the assertive one here but not in all ways. My husband gets pretty mean and sarcastic and I am weepy.
12-07-2004 01:26 PM
renaissancesun Well, my relationship (marriage) is WORK, but I guess time will tell if it is really working.



I am learning a lot and it is costing a lot of money. It has been a hard road from nearly the start. About 7 years in we were both giving up. "7 year itch" is no joke. We plugged along because we have children and we both wanted it to work out. We started couples counseling over a year ago, hence "costing a lot of money", and things are going well.



We had our 13 year anniversary last week. We are actually going to celebrate it next month by spending a weekend in a bed and breakfast (with a jaccuzi in our room! and massages...and champagne...and roses). It will be our first whole weekend away from our kids for over 12 years. I am not sure I know how to act, but I will figure it out.



Sunny
12-07-2004 12:35 PM
Tash
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Originally Posted by huajiro2 View Post

wow, that bad?

No..It's actually pretty good idea-wise..I haven't had a single laceration/police report/or restraining order that I've had to file since......
12-07-2004 12:20 PM
GhostUser One thing is for sure. If we split and he moves out, I will never ever ever live with another man again. Ever.



And if I date he's going to be able to take care of himself 100%...stand on his own two feet. If he can't and he needs a mamma, well..he can keep steppin.
12-07-2004 12:17 PM
GhostUser My relationship is an enigma to me.



On the one hand, we have similar tastes in many things, similar senses of humor, we're both on the bright side of the bell curve, etc. Plus, we have similar backgrounds, so we understand each other on some pretty deep levels (like facing abuse as children).



However, we both cope with our insecurities differently. I tend to lean to the passive side (letting things slide, being too nice in the hopes that others will be nice to me, not saying anything when she hurts my feelings, etc) whereas she leans more to the agressive side (overly hostile and defensive when I try to confront issues, fights mean alot, etc.)



So, while the good is really good, the bad is equally bad. Now, she has tried (and improved) with her agressive tendencies over the last five years that we've been together, and this gives me hope. However, the older I get, the less crap I'm willing to put up with, so, we might also end up breaking up or becoming one of those couples who bickers constantly.



I really have no idea what the jury's gonna say.







The Rev
12-07-2004 11:05 AM
carnelian I have amazingly satisfying relationships with all of my cats!
12-07-2004 10:37 AM
beth My relationship's working out wonderfully right now. There was a point a long time ago that I thought we wouldn't make it, but we've both grown up a lot since then, and we've learned to appreciate each other. Never been better.
12-07-2004 10:35 AM
huajiro2
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Originally Posted by Tash View Post

Much better now that we don't see each other.ever..yes.*laughs*



wow, that bad?
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