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|07-27-2015 07:30 AM|
Also, how do you feel about your own father as far as bringing you into this world? I ask this as my own father is visiting from out of state for the weekend, and at this point I am going to bow out of the conversation and go visit for the day.
|07-27-2015 07:06 AM|
|no whey jose||
There's nothing wrong with making the decision not to have children (particularly if you're responsible about it) but being "childfree" doesn't grant you the right to act like a douche.
Also, hashtags don't work here.
|07-27-2015 06:32 AM|
|07-27-2015 06:27 AM|
glad you asked...not today, not tommorow, not ever IN. THIS. LIFE.
Is that clear enough for you?
|07-27-2015 06:04 AM|
Back to the original subject, Necter, I am interested in your views on fatherhood.
|07-27-2015 05:48 AM|
And also, as someone who was personally castrated at a young age
What? u were castrated?
|07-27-2015 05:43 AM|
I agree that we need to control our human population on this planet. The world is overcrowded as it is. But c'mon, kids are going to happen. No need to shame a person over it. varun is doing far more than most people do as parents and humans inhabiting this planet. And also, as someone who was personally castrated at a young age and never got a chance to even consider having a child, I know the pain of not having experienced birth and motherhood on such a natural and profound level. Adoption has not been an option for me for a variety of reasons. At least have a little compassion towards others. That's a pretty important thing to have for our planet too you know?
|07-27-2015 05:41 AM|
|07-27-2015 05:09 AM|
|Necter||pretty selfish to have a kid in this world man|
|07-26-2015 11:30 PM|
|no whey jose||Oh @varun I don't know if it's the pregnancy hormones or your lovely writing, but this post hit me "right in the feels," as they say. [emoji24] I can't wait to meet our little one! [emoji177]|
|07-26-2015 08:27 AM|
Musings of a new Dad-in-training
It was a perfectly calm Saturday last October, the weather was just right & the time was the festive season of Diwali, a festival of lights in my country. That Saturday changed my life forever, I became the dad of a very beautiful baby girl who looks just like her mom. I've read & heard this so many times that this moment will seem absolutely disorienting, a mix of every emotion hitting you all at once. In my case it was more of a punch in the face, I was ecstatic, scared, clueless, speechless and literally numb all at once. I even feared holding her, she seemed so delicate & precious even though I never wanted to let her go. I've heard this bit before many times as well, and true to it almost like a dad-switch was turned on I adapted to my new role faster than anything I've even done in my life.
The first 2 weeks made me understand what love meant, a different form of love. I know I love my wife more than anything else on this earth but this was different, it felt like a surge of emotions, feelings of being there all the time for the baby, dedicating each passing minute to making decisions for her. I'd ask myself questions in my head each night as I sleep, questions like how best to make her happy each day, about what we should feed her, whether we should teach her about the concept of "God" or let her figure it out herself as I did. Maybe I'm just too much of a thinker to live in the moment but I knew that this love is gonna keep me awake more than a few nights all my life.
One of the questions that is relevant to this forum is "what should we feed her". It was a no-brainer as far as I'm concerned, I have always been a vegetarian all my life as also my wife (who used to be an occasional white-meat eater). I see so many to-be-parents and new parents asking this question and my answer is simple.. I love my daughter so much that I will do everything I can to keep her happy. Vegetarianism is the best diet for a baby, a toddler, a kid, a teen, an adult, you name it. As long as any child learns early on to take a well-balanced diet like vitamins, fibre, calcium, protein etc which are found bountiful in veggie diet, they should have no problems growing up healthy. Love for animals & people both, in my opinion is one of the most beautiful things a human being can learn and nothing is better than starting off as a veggie to do so. This is my new-daddy story. What's yours?