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03-13-2010 10:53 AM
SomebodyElse Why not?
03-13-2010 07:30 AM
draconian
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Originally Posted by fadeaway1289 View Post

Have you looked at meetup.com? There was a vegan meetup group on there that you might be interested in.



OMG! I joined a vegan and vegetarian meetup group. Went to ONE meeting and haven't been back.
03-09-2010 01:29 AM
DaVortex I have been on Veggiedate.org, Veggiefishing.com, and spiritualsingles.com, on and off over the last seven years. I went traveling for a good part of that time though. But here's what I discovered.

Veggiedate.org has a lot of very OLD postings from women, and a lot of new ones too. Their search functions are quite good now, although they weren't when I first joined. it's a hassle to sort through them all, find one that seems great, then notice that she hasn't even logged in in three years ! I think a lot of women vegetarians are very idealistic, and rather uncompromising about what they want from a man - someone to bankroll their wildlife rescue farm or such pipe dreams - unrealistic expectations need an outlet, and this seems like the perfect place...



Veggiefishing is less search-friendly, but also FREE. FREE means that more people post who aren't serious about finding someone to build a relationship with. I haven't had much experience with it, but it seems to have some potential- lots of members at least.



Spiritual Singles has given me the finds that I have actually dated. It is frustrating though, because I can't sort for vegetarians AND for key words. And many women there hit on me and are NOT vegetarians. I have concluded that people become "spiritualized" shortly after becoming traumatized. I saw some very serious PTS going on with these women. But I have also found some VERY INTERESTING artists/ musicians on here. I currently have two women interested in me from this database.



I just wish someone would start a service for single vegetarians in the performing arts.



Mind you, I live in a large metropolitan area, where this kind of database is bound to have some close matches... Best of luck to you. Being firm about wanting a vegetarian partner ( or at least primarily vegetarian) makes perfect logical sense- but try not to extend yourself into thinking this is the mine where to find the perfect gem that you dreamed about as a Disney-hypnotized child...that's really part of our society's oppression tactics... keep people separated and weak by making them think they have to wait for perfection to show up. Remember the song Desperado by the Eagles, and you will do well.
02-20-2010 10:58 AM
fadeaway1289
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Originally Posted by Pegasass View Post

Yes, it is a tough area to meet vegans, I have a 26 year old son and a 23 year old son, them and their wives and 2 kids are vegan, but we are all we know of in this area..yet



Have you looked at meetup.com? There was a vegan meetup group on there that you might be interested in.
02-20-2010 08:20 AM
Pegasass
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Originally Posted by Waikikamukau View Post

Sorry... I'm 26! I know it's a tough area for vegans.



Yes, it is a tough area to meet vegans, I have a 26 year old son and a 23 year old son, them and their wives and 2 kids are vegan, but we are all we know of in this area..yet
02-19-2010 12:07 AM
Nishani
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Originally Posted by rapt View Post

you also have to keep in mind that some people have things that they dont wanna compromise on, like age range for example, & they will consider it bad netiquette for you to send a msg when you dont fit their parameters.





My sis is always getting messages like that from guys. Some of them are so different from what she is asking for that you end up thinking you knob, why did you even think she'd be interested in you but then other times the guy sounds really suitable for her apart from one little thing like a small age gap and she totally dismisses him as well and refuses to compromise! I think sometimes you have to adjust your parameters a bit cos you could be missing out on meeting a nice person if you don't.
02-18-2010 06:17 PM
GhostUser
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Originally Posted by Calhoun07 View Post


And people need to NOT take the site so freaking seriously (such as the girl who lives near me...would it kill her to reply to a personal message even if I am not in her age range of choice?)



you shouldnt take her not replying to you so freaking seriously !!

nah, im j/k dude its cool when people take the time to respond cuz its just a polite thing to do isnt it, but i think one reason why women dont always respond is that they can get full on pestered by guys even when they havent shown that much interest & it gets a bit much for them sometimes. some female friends of mine have told me that some guys see any kind of response to a msg as a come on & they dont wanna give them false hope so they say nothing.

you also have to keep in mind that some people have things that they dont wanna compromise on, like age range for example, & they will consider it bad netiquette for you to send a msg when you dont fit their parameters. its like if you put in your profile that you werent interested in hearing from meat eaters & meat eaters still responded. itd probably piss you off a bit & youd end up just ignoring their msgs which is probably what shes done to you.
02-17-2010 08:19 PM
Calhoun07
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Originally Posted by Begonia View Post

OKCupid veg friendly?????????????



Sorry, but I beg to disagree, wholeheartedly... Look at a lot of the stuff written on the so called "friendship" thread, i.e., the thread meant for veg*ns to come together for "friendly" discussion

http://www.okcupid.com/forum?tid=6155540970710691976



There is also a thread on that site where omnis freely bash veg*ns with a great deal of viciousness, not hesitating to use coarse and obscene language. They do not hesitate to bash vegetarians/vegans on the "friendship" thread either.



I put up a profile on OKCupid without much hope for finding anything serious. In all my searching I found only one I really wanted to contact...I mean, she (from her profile, at least) seemed to be perfect for me in so many ways, including being vegan. And she lived not too far from me. It turns out if you're over 30 (yup, that's ME!) that she won't even respond to you. Our age difference wouldn't be that extreme...I've seen bigger age differences in couples.



But vegans and vegetarians are far and few between. At least around me. The highest match I found anywhere is a girl who lives in Turkey. So, yeah, no luck for me either.



What I think: vegans and vegetarians that post here need to take over the site and start posting their profiles on there. And we need to promote that site as a great place to meet vegetarians. And people need to NOT take the site so freaking seriously (such as the girl who lives near me...would it kill her to reply to a personal message even if I am not in her age range of choice?)
02-15-2010 11:04 AM
Waikikamukau
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Originally Posted by Pegasass View Post

Hey Waikikamukau, I live near Buffalo, NY...



Sorry... I'm 26! I know it's a tough area for vegans.
02-14-2010 06:30 AM
Begonia
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Originally Posted by fadeaway1289 View Post

I've learned that reading forums on dating sites only envokes rage in me and makes me realize how shallow, close minded, and immature people can be. Its not just the veg threads either where people show off what a**holes they really are. I have seen that particular thread you have mentioned though several times. I will admit though that I have become really good friends with someone I met on that site (definetly not through the forums though) online and in person. I've also had some totally creepy messages from people too. My pc also got a nasty trojan virus from that site so I deleted my profile awhile ago (same thing happened to two of my friends also).



I do agree it could be worthwhile outside the forums. Also that the a**hole phenomenom is not restricted to the veg*n friendship/hate threads. I'm very glad you've made a really good friend on the site though am sorry about that nasty virus.
02-13-2010 05:57 PM
amhappy1
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Originally Posted by Pegasass View Post

Hey Waikikamukau, I live near Buffalo, NY..(



Me too!



I met my boyfriend online. I wrote that I was vegan on my profile so he had some idea of what he was getting into. Turns out that he's a very picky eater for an omni, so he understands and never complains about the way I eat.
02-13-2010 05:19 PM
fadeaway1289
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Originally Posted by Begonia View Post

OKCupid veg friendly?????????????



Sorry, but I beg to disagree, wholeheartedly... Look at a lot of the stuff written on the so called "friendship" thread, i.e., the thread meant for veg*ns to come together for "friendly" discussion

http://www.okcupid.com/forum?tid=6155540970710691976



There is also a thread on that site where omnis freely bash veg*ns with a great deal of viciousness, not hesitating to use coarse and obscene language. They do not hesitate to bash vegetarians/vegans on the "friendship" thread either.



I've learned that reading forums on dating sites only envokes rage in me and makes me realize how shallow, close minded, and immature people can be. Its not just the veg threads either where people show off what a**holes they really are. I have seen that particular thread you have mentioned though several times. I will admit though that I have become really good friends with someone I met on that site (definetly not through the forums though) online and in person. I've also had some totally creepy messages from people too. My pc also got a nasty trojan virus from that site so I deleted my profile awhile ago (same thing happened to two of my friends also).
02-13-2010 05:05 PM
sleepydvdr
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Originally Posted by Waikikamukau View Post


In other words, my attempts at online dating result in "let's be friends"



That's the story of my life (online dating or real life)...
02-13-2010 02:45 PM
Begonia
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Originally Posted by SuicideBlonde View Post

I have played a lot on OK cupid. Its not specifically veg but very veg friendly.





I have found some cool people. the only problem is that the ones I realy want to meet are a distance away from me.



OKCupid veg friendly?????????????



Sorry, but I beg to disagree, wholeheartedly... Look at a lot of the stuff written on the so called "friendship" thread, i.e., the thread meant for veg*ns to come together for "friendly" discussion

http://www.okcupid.com/forum?tid=6155540970710691976



There is also a thread on that site where omnis freely bash veg*ns with a great deal of viciousness, not hesitating to use coarse and obscene language. They do not hesitate to bash vegetarians/vegans on the "friendship" thread either.
02-13-2010 02:42 PM
Pegasass Hey Waikikamukau, I live near Buffalo, NY...



Anyway, about the reason for this thread....I haven't had a date in 3 years since I became Vegan, I've kinda gotten set in my ways and don't think I can get used to meat being cooked in my kitchen. I'm beginning to worry I will live alone the rest of my life..:-(
02-13-2010 11:30 AM
Waikikamukau I'm male, vegan, overweight, against using alcohol/drugs myself, although I can tolerate some in others and atheist.



In other words, my attempts at online dating result in "let's be friends"
02-13-2010 08:35 AM
peachykeen Online dating is a gamble in general, but apparently, so is traditional dating. I think we can thank the internet for the increasing disconnect in the world when it comes to socializing, as was mentioned in earlier responses. There is this website I just signed up for, www.lovetropolis.co. There's a limited time offer going on where you pay a one time fee of $17.95 and get a "lifetime" membership. Let's hope I don't need to be on there for a lifetime, but it's nice to not worry about monthly fees. I think it is an up and coming site, which is why there are not a lot of people signed up yet (I live in NY, and there were only a handful of local men)



The site is not a veggie dating site, but there is a question about favorite food with a drop down menu. I of course put vegetarian. That can probably help clue in who are fellow vegs, although you can always ask if you don't see it on someone's profile.
04-10-2009 09:29 AM
Dave in MPLS I just quit smoking myself and have difficulty with the "do you smoke" question. Usually not a category for "No, but everything I own smells like I do from the 16 odd years that I did ..."
03-19-2009 01:49 PM
sybaritik
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Originally Posted by wordicus View Post

I'm not too good at finding people that are willing to compromise. I'm good at finding selfish people.





Yeah, there's a lot of selfish people out there.



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03-17-2009 10:30 PM
wordicus
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Originally Posted by sybaritik View Post

Hmmm...I see.



Can you not make some compromises about them not following the faith completely if they accept you for not being Mr clean cut? Or is that out of the question?



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I'm not too good at finding people that are willing to compromise. I'm good at finding selfish people.
03-17-2009 11:54 AM
sybaritik Hmmm...I see.



Can you not make some compromises about them not following the faith completely if they accept you for not being Mr clean cut? Or is that out of the question?



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03-17-2009 09:51 AM
wordicus
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Originally Posted by sybaritik View Post

I'm surprised, I wouldn't have thought that finding another catholic person in the US would be that difficult?



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A Catholic person in the US and a Catholic person that actually practice and follow the Church's teachings are two different things. It is much harder to find somebody that actually follows the faith completely.



Add on to that my rough around the edges image(musician, long hair, beard, smoke).. I'm not exactly the poster child for clean cut Polo wearin' Catholic dude.



I'm either "too religious" in the eyes of some, or "not Catholic enough" in the eyes of others.. which is silly, but that's the way of things.
03-17-2009 09:35 AM
sybaritik I'm surprised, I wouldn't have thought that finding another catholic person in the US would be that difficult?



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03-17-2009 09:21 AM
wordicus I'm a devout Catholic, vegan, tall, big guy, and a cigarette smoker(trying to quit).. you guys think you have it hard finding somebody? :P



The Catholic part alone is difficult enough, and now I've added vegan to the list to narrow my choices further.
03-12-2009 01:45 AM
SuicideBlonde
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Originally Posted by evelinadatta View Post

Have you tried Craigslist and just search by word Vegetarian or vegan? Ok, there are many weird posts but it's completely free and quite amusing at times so what the heck...





I get poop and squat when I try that.
03-06-2009 06:56 PM
GhostUser I went out for dinner tonight by myself to a Middle Eastern restaurant and lunch earlier this week to an Indian restaurant without a date and had a great time.
03-06-2009 04:18 PM
GhostUser
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Originally Posted by evelinadatta View Post

Have you tried Craigslist and just search by word Vegetarian or vegan? Ok, there are many weird posts but it's completely free and quite amusing at times so what the heck...

Who me? I posted a personal ad on craigslist about a year ago and I only got ONE response. The woman looked my grandmothers age (70's) although she claimed to be younger. Yeah, right!



I'll try craigslist again. I need more and better photos of myself. I only have one head shot and I don't have a digital camera.
03-06-2009 03:56 PM
evelinadatta Have you tried Craigslist and just search by word Vegetarian or vegan? Ok, there are many weird posts but it's completely free and quite amusing at times so what the heck...
03-06-2009 03:17 PM
LongLashedVeg
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Originally Posted by fadeaway1289 View Post

I don't get it either, well mainly the skinny and scrawny part. I like big guys not ones that look like they'll blow away in the wind.



Yeah exactly. I'm small enough as it is, I don't want a man with the same waist size as me, LOL... I want to feel feminine and tiny next to him (well I already do next to most people, but you know what I mean, LOL...).



On the other hand, I don't want an obsessed gym-rat either. I dated a guy who seriously had muscle dysmorphia - like an anorexic with his muscles... he'd think his arms were "too small" when in reality they were huge and very muscular, and he'd spend hours taking pictures of himself and comparing them to shots from the week/month before... it was just an obsession, and so unhealthy... Eventually this spilled into our relationship and he started telling me I was fat and that he wouldn't marry me unless I developed six-pack abs and weighed 100 lbs (I was and am not far from that anyway! and even if I was heavier, it's still wrong to say). Thank GOODNESS I ended that relationship. He was totally abusive.



Ok, back on topic here, lol...
03-06-2009 01:54 PM
GhostUser
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Originally Posted by hoodedclawjen View Post

yeah, that sounds tricky- what with the carb heavy options in western food. middle eastern or indian places might be good for you- lots of hummus, veggies, flatbreads, pulse and produce heavy stuff, thats not been processed too much.

Ironically I was thinking about going out tonight. I love Indian and Middle Eastern food. Also, there are several excellent vegan chinese restaurants in my neck of the woods.
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