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|11-14-2009 07:12 PM|
I read once that when you're depressed, clean your house. Maybe it will take your mind off of what is getting you down, maybe it won't. Either way your house is clean and that's always something to look forward to.
|11-14-2009 07:08 PM|
|GhostUser||smile more and at strangers....I noticed if someone looks down or angry if you smile at them 99.9% they smile back|
|11-09-2009 02:46 PM|
|Chrysalis||So in response to my own thread, I think the best way to keep a positive attitude is to CHANGE your negative life circumstances. And if that doesn't work...umm...go to the gym or go for a run outside until you're too tired to be angry anymore.|
|11-09-2009 02:26 PM|
Yes, that is a good idea.
|11-09-2009 02:07 PM|
|Envy||I try to be indifferent.|
|11-09-2009 12:13 PM|
Originally Posted by imahag
At least you're realizing what's happening. Good for you. Don't let this person drag you down. This person will always stay negative. What a downer. And take your dogs or somone's dogs for a walk. That will help and of course like someone else said, vent on here. My last, very last advice is to quit your job. I had to. I know that's bad but my mental health depended on it. I worked with a monster for one full year and I almost succumbed to her ugliness and then one day I said "no more!" Luckily I found another better job immediately. My anger and ill will toward this person has actually faded away. She was poison. Good luck!
I'm glad you got away from that person, and it's too bad you had to leave a job because of it.
I did not work with a negative person. I was LIVING with one. She's not a bad person, and I don't hate her or anything. I had to learn the hard way that living with an insecure woman is a BAD idea. She's not happy unless she is happier than other people (especially other women like me). I had to move out to get away from the situation, and thank goodness I did!
|11-09-2009 05:40 AM|
|KelleyMarie||Whenever I feel a little down about circumstances in my life not going my way, I think about all the good things in my life that I am thankful for. I realize how blessed I am to be living in a 1st world country and to be free to create my own happiness.|
|11-08-2009 05:18 PM|
|imahag||At least you're realizing what's happening. Good for you. Don't let this person drag you down. This person will always stay negative. What a downer. And take your dogs or somone's dogs for a walk. That will help and of course like someone else said, vent on here. My last, very last advice is to quit your job. I had to. I know that's bad but my mental health depended on it. I worked with a monster for one full year and I almost succumbed to her ugliness and then one day I said "no more!" Luckily I found another better job immediately. My anger and ill will toward this person has actually faded away. She was poison. Good luck!|
|11-08-2009 09:01 AM|
|Kiseki||I am grateful I at least have a job...|
|11-08-2009 08:42 AM|
The negative person is no longer in my life. I am starting to feel a million times better. I feel like I can finally be myself again and don't have to walk on eggshells every day. It's hard to explain the whole situation, but I never realized before that being around a negative person every single day, for almost a year, can make such a big impact (in a bad way!).
|10-21-2009 05:16 PM|
|super veggie||1 i look at a pic of michel phelps 2 i think of something funny 3 i think that some ppl have it worse 4 i think of someone insprational|
|10-20-2009 05:19 PM|
|papayamon||i never get caught up in the negative. let it go in one ear and out the other. i focus on the future and what i can do to get there.|
|10-20-2009 04:20 PM|
I was fortunate enough to work at a school for severely disabled children several years ago. They faced enormous challenges and some of them even died. As awful as that was, they still had the joy and zest for life that children have.
If people going through those kinds of difficulties can still find a way to smile, so can I.
|10-19-2009 11:36 PM|
|GhostUser||I am a Sarcastic Person By Nature and sometimes have to force the positivity....LOL....but I have learned something as basic as smiling at someone else...they usually smile back or just to myself and I feel good....|
|10-19-2009 01:46 AM|
I guess for the most part I'm naturally upbeat. I just know that whoever I run into is doing the best they can with what they have to work with, if they are negative I just feel that much more compassion for them because I know they must really be hurting.
You can give quiet thanks for getting the opportunity to radiate love and compassion even when its hard (those are the times when it really counts). Practice makes perfect.
|10-18-2009 10:31 PM|
|Purp||I go for long walks to get over the blues, which I get a lot of in autumn and winter.|
|10-18-2009 10:28 PM|
[QUOTE=Starblossom]Thanks for the ideas! I have started writing in my journal again and it seems to help.
I Journal too....I have Journal-ed since I was in the 6th grade....I love to write short stories, poems, ect....put down on paper whatever I am feeling at the moment....Just Talking about Wrighting Makes Me
|10-14-2009 10:16 AM|
|Arthurian||I meditate, or I sleep.|
|10-14-2009 07:20 AM|
|peace||Imagine you control a real-life "ignore button" or "mute button." When the person starts bothering you, sing a silly, simple song in your head or focus intensely on something else (I will type this document, I will type this document) so you in effect block them out entirely.|
|10-14-2009 05:08 AM|
|major.walrus||I make a cup of tea.|
|10-13-2009 12:27 PM|
#1 I usually cut negative people out of my life to the fullest degree that I can - it doesn't matter whether they're friends, family, coworkers, whatever. I know it's impossible sometimes to get rid of them entirely (I am in a situation like yours where it is not an option) but a little cold shoulder goes a long way.
Also, every time your negative friend says something negative, just roll your eyes dramatically and say things like, "Gah, you're such a Debbie Downer!" or "Oooooookay, Negative Nancy!" or "Geez, drama queen much?" or even, "If you keep bringing your soul-suck to me, I'm going to have to start charging you for intensive therapy."
It's lighthearted and a little goofy, but it also draws attention to that person's negative behavior and brings their attention to it. They might not even realize they're being so obnoxious (or they might not care, in which case see #1).
As far as positivity goes, I enjoy yoga or other forms of a good stretch, losing myself in fiction, lots of exposure to the natural world, meditation, writing, and surrounding myself with people who are chipper and optimistic as an antidote.
|10-13-2009 12:18 PM|
|dwnielsen||Perhaps I'm the negative person, because, besides my mother, I've never had them in my life. I'm grateful for most anyone in my life who enjoys communicating with me. Eating spicy food and hot, muddy tea helps. Thinking about the ways people show they care about me. Working on projects. Remembering how much I've accomplished. Remembering that I know what I want, and that there are opportunities out there somewhere for it. I guess it all becomes thinking about me, me, me.|
|10-13-2009 09:54 AM|
|Yamato||Gradually get negative people out of my life.|
|10-13-2009 09:02 AM|
|07-13-2009 11:10 AM|
well i was feeling a bit chirpy until i came in here :P
|07-13-2009 08:01 AM|
|rabid_child||I don't even bother trying.|
|07-13-2009 06:07 AM|
I think about all the bad shit and how it really doesn't matter.
Simple as that.
|07-13-2009 03:39 AM|
i find that situations like that are best handled by refusing to give them energy/attention. happiness is often an internal proposition, with people about as happy as they've made their mind up to be.
so... the scowling, negative persona? has no effect on me or my success. otherwise i could never get anything done.
|07-12-2009 07:34 PM|
|Chrysalis||Thanks for the ideas! I have started writing in my journal again and it seems to help. I'll have to try some of these suggestions, too.|
|07-12-2009 05:06 PM|
If you're ever feeling up to it, give it a try sometime. It can change your whole life
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