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03-13-2009 10:25 AM
GhostUser
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Originally Posted by AussieShane View Post

alright, i guess it did seem generalized. I should have mentioned the "my experience" part...



basically i was trying to say:



if i'm to go to a hip-hop/R&B club, trance, dance or techno club, I seem to find girls who're quite into sex but not so particular on the kissing aspect.

On the other hand, when it's Flamenco or Salsa, it seems to be a different story for me.



i think i know what youre saying. to be honest i reckon it comes down to the degree of intoxication. i think women in commercial dance clubs are practised partiers and may be more likely to have higher intoxication levels than the women you might find in flamenco clubs [ who i would say are usually a lot straighter.] when people are intoxicated theyre always more animalistic about sex, so even though i would say nearly all women would prefer the less aggressive kissing under normal circumstances, in a commercial dance club, [especially the type where punters are all drinking alcohol], theyre more likely to be up for a bit more full on action. whereas women who regularly go to flamenco places may be expecting less hedonism and more romance and might not appreciate the same approach.
03-13-2009 10:07 AM
jeneticallymodified i think the thing is, if you go in gentle, they're not gonna feel pounced on and you're not gonna overdo anything and leave them cold or freaking out. then if they really want it all hot and heavy, they can totally dive in there, take charge, set the pace, and maul the crap out of your poor lips- by which point you'll clue into that being what they want and you can recipricate.



as a plus its also kinda teasing and a bit hot to not get entirely what they want at the intensity that they want it right away, its sort of like someone waving a bar of chocolate just out of reach but within smelling and licking range then giving you a teeny tiny taste of the bar but holding the rest an inch from your gob. i dunno if thats a good example for boys to relate to though. if they're makeout nymphos it encourages them to go all powermad and hungry on you and pin you to the wall and ravish you to death. which i'm sure would be absolutely awful.



*takes cold shower*
03-13-2009 07:23 AM
AussieShane
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Originally Posted by kali View Post

maybe your basing that on the women youve hooked up with at the type of clubs you go to, but overall your statement comes across as a massive generalisation about women who go to clubs. it doesnt fit in with my experiences with female clubbers at all. and i really dont understand where you got the idea that the ones who like a lot of sex dont like to be kissed softly. thats sounds kinda bizarre dude



alright, i guess it did seem generalized. I should have mentioned the "my experience" part...



basically i was trying to say:



if i'm to go to a hip-hop/R&B club, trance, dance or techno club, I seem to find girls who're quite into sex but not so particular on the kissing aspect.

On the other hand, when it's Flamenco or Salsa, it seems to be a different story for me.
03-13-2009 05:32 AM
GhostUser
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Originally Posted by AussieShane View Post

Well in Australia, depends on the club. In hip-hop, R&B, drum n bass, trance, electronic, urban clubs (basically any contemporary music), the type of women generally aren't into soft kissing and wat not. Most i've hooked up with tend to be very promiscuous.



maybe your basing that on the women youve hooked up with at the type of clubs you go to, but overall your statement comes across as a massive generalisation about women who go to clubs. it doesnt fit in with my experiences with female clubbers at all. and i really dont understand where you got the idea that the ones who like a lot of sex dont like to be kissed softly. thats sounds kinda bizarre dude
03-13-2009 04:35 AM
AussieShane
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Originally Posted by ajax13 View Post

But don't even club girls need good kisses?



Well in Australia, depends on the club. In hip-hop, R&B, drum n bass, trance, electronic, urban clubs (basically any contemporary music), the type of women generally aren't into soft kissing and wat not. Most i've hooked up with tend to be very promiscuous.



But I was at a Flamenco night when the incident happened. And stereotypically, Flamenco is a very romantic form of music. So I suppose the women there might have certain expectations.
03-13-2009 04:28 AM
AussieShane
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Originally Posted by Envy View Post

Meant their comments, like "follow the woman", "do as the woman want", "follow the woman for the rest of your life, while wearing a set of bunny ears and singing opera".



hahaha.. that "follow the woman", "make her feel like the next queen of england", "be her sex slave" etc. is one thing... but I was more so wanting to know what turns off women during kissing and what turns them on.
03-13-2009 12:18 AM
GhostUser
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Originally Posted by sybaritik View Post

I'm not averse to a good bit of tonsil-hockey either....with the right guy.



03-13-2009 12:03 AM
SomebodyElse
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Originally Posted by ajax13 View Post

But don't even club girls need good kisses?

I suppose so, but I don't see how any of the advice in this thread is going to work on someone you've known for maybe fifteen minutes.
03-12-2009 11:59 PM
brazilnut Just go easy until you're both comfortable w/ eachother. I don't think you need to start out kissing really deeply. Just let things go which ever way. If you're well matched I am sure it will only get better. Don't worry so much, someone has to be confident or you'll never get anywhere, but coming on too strong physically might not be the best thing, depends on the girl, and how she feels about you.
03-12-2009 11:28 PM
ajax13
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Originally Posted by SomebodyElse View Post

Haha, especially when all you are trying to do is make out with a stranger you've just met in a club.

But don't even club girls need good kisses?
03-12-2009 11:12 PM
SomebodyElse
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Originally Posted by ajax13 View Post

Whew, this is a lot to keep in mind! So much so that you can kiss spontaneity goodbye. No pressure, OP!

Haha, especially when all you are trying to do is make out with a stranger you've just met in a club.
03-12-2009 11:05 PM
ajax13
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Originally Posted by tk* View Post

A good kiss needs the following preresquites to even BEGIN to be a "good kiss"



1. Good breath



2. Chemistry (there's nothing worse than getting kissed by someone you're not attracted to--big turn off)



3. Timing (don't suddenly french kiss a girl in front of her parents, please)



Once you got those things covered the rest is up to you and your girl. Don't be afraid to experiment. A good kiss for me is one that is unexpected! I love being kissed unexpectedly--spontaneity is the catalyst to passion!



I wouldn't worry so much on technique. Kissing is a learned skill that only you and your partner can hone together. It's a matter of pleasing your partner. Find out what she likes and you'll be always be a "good kisser"

Whew, this is a lot to keep in mind! So much so that you can kiss spontaneity goodbye. No pressure, OP!
03-11-2009 01:10 PM
tk* A good kiss needs the following preresquites to even BEGIN to be a "good kiss"



1. Good breath



2. Chemistry (there's nothing worse than getting kissed by someone you're not attracted to--big turn off)



3. Timing (don't suddenly french kiss a girl in front of her parents, please)



Once you got those things covered the rest is up to you and your girl. Don't be afraid to experiment. A good kiss for me is one that is unexpected! I love being kissed unexpectedly--spontaneity is the catalyst to passion!



I wouldn't worry so much on technique. Kissing is a learned skill that only you and your partner can hone together. It's a matter of pleasing your partner. Find out what she likes and you'll be always be a "good kisser"
03-11-2009 10:14 AM
sybaritik
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Originally Posted by Envy View Post

Meant their comments, like "follow the woman", "do as the woman want", "follow the woman for the rest of your life, while wearing a set of bunny ears and singing opera".









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03-11-2009 10:11 AM
Envy
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Originally Posted by Sevenseas View Post

It might have something to do with the title of this thread which specifically wants women's opinions on this.



Meant their comments, like "follow the woman", "do as the woman want", "follow the woman for the rest of your life, while wearing a set of bunny ears and singing opera".
03-11-2009 09:29 AM
LadyFaile slobber or bad breath = huge turnoff

you could be the best kisser in the world but if you have booze breath forget it
03-11-2009 09:18 AM
wutaweirdo My ex always kissed with her eyes open. At first I was a little uncomfortable, but then it became the norm for both of us. It wasn't a staring thing, it was just a very intimate thing. I wouldn't kiss anyone with my eyes open now unless I was completely comfortable with them, of course. There are pros and cons to both. I do enjoy kissing with my eyes closed too, because my other senses (like touch) would be heightened and it's nice to just float off into your own little world with the one you're locking lips with.



My now squeeze doesn't kiss with his eyes open, and I'm waiting for him to catch me with my eyes open sometime, haha.
03-11-2009 09:07 AM
Nishani
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Originally Posted by AussieShane View Post

I remember one of my Exes would say i was a bad kisser but I always overlooked it and never payed attention to what she's say.



Why?
03-11-2009 06:06 AM
Sevenseas
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Originally Posted by Envy View Post

Errh, why do I have the feeling that the womans opinions are about the only things that are taken into consideration here when kissing?

It might have something to do with the title of this thread which specifically wants women's opinions on this.
03-11-2009 04:07 AM
Envy Errh, why do I have the feeling that the womans opinions are about the only things that are taken into consideration here when kissing?
03-11-2009 03:02 AM
AussieShane alrighty... lot of good info on here.

So it should be passionate, gentle, not overusing tongue but at the same time using it... and if i think it's going wrong.. then do the mirror thing....



damn, I wish my ex was around.. i could start practicing PROPERLY..hahaha
03-10-2009 11:21 PM
Chrysalis
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Originally Posted by Chrilynhawk View Post

Mine too, it weirded me out a little. At one point he asked me why I didn't open mine too, so I tried it and it was just...I don't know I just couldn't do it.



I used to always keep my eyes closed, but with my guy i like to open them every once in a while and take a quick peek into his eyes. It makes it feel more intense plus his eyes are just gorgeous. I love looking at them. But I don't stare at him when we're making out. That would be a bit creepy
03-10-2009 10:48 PM
dani_cat I think there should be a lot of feeling behind a kiss. Soft, passionate, sensual, respectful kiss.
03-10-2009 10:42 PM
lynnxoobrink If you really dont know how she likes it and you cant figure out how to follow her lead ask to play mirror with her... I did that with my boyfriend because he was well... not the best kisser in the world... So yeah.. i was just like.. lets play mirror.. and he just had to do whatever i did... it got pretty intense but it works... and he learned exactly what i liked and how he should do it.. ever since its been amazing...
03-10-2009 08:39 PM
heidiny77
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Originally Posted by Poppy View Post

"I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days. "



~Crash Davis



Poppy, you are my hero!





(Bull Durham is one of my favorite movies....)





And yeah, kisses like that are good...
03-10-2009 08:30 PM
Skylark There's really not much of a view! Kissing feels a lot better than it looks from up close and personal!
03-10-2009 02:43 PM
GhostUser
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my ex would keep his eyes open, it made me feel kinda uncomfortable.

Mine too, it weirded me out a little. At one point he asked me why I didn't open mine too, so I tried it and it was just...I don't know I just couldn't do it.
03-10-2009 02:39 PM
MZCsmpsns
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Originally Posted by Chrilynhawk View Post

I agree with the people saying that it has to be something SHE likes. Every woman is different and therefore like different things. For instance, I like a kiss that is slow and passionate but I admittingly am a tongue kind of girl lol. I like that and then if the guy (obviously in my case, my husband lol) kind of nibbles my bottom lip. I also can't have him opening his mouth so wide it's like he is trying to eat my face.



EDIT: I also like when he kind of lifts my head with his hands and runs his fingers through my hair



Ditto that. I'm a tongue chick, too. I've kissed a lot of guys that don't know how to use their tongues when kissing, though... like there's a lollipop at the back of my throat or something. One thing that kinda annoyed me, my ex would keep his eyes open, it made me feel kinda uncomfortable.



To me, a good kiss, as others said, is passionate, not aggressive. IMO, touching is also what makes a good kiss. As quoted, running fingers through hair, gently gliding fingertips down my jaw to gently raise my chin, a sweet sensual embrace, etc... Syncing up w/whoever you're kissing makes a good kiss great.
03-10-2009 01:09 PM
greensgood
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Originally Posted by AussieShane View Post




I remember one of my Exes would say i was a bad kisser but I always overlooked it and never payed attention to what she's say.



So, i'd like to hear from the women on this one.



do you remember any of the things she would say about how you kiss?



also, girls aren't the only ones that can give good advice about kissing, i didn't even know i had been getting crappy kisses for years until my bf first kissed me, i never knew kissing could be so amazing.



here are some points to consider when kissing:



- bad breath. if you have been drinking alcohol or smoking cigs brush your teeth or at least pop a mint b4 lip action. eventhough we don't eat meat, our food can be stinky too...garlic and onions etc.



- chapped lips.



- drool, spit, slober. a good way to avoid too much spit is to remember to swallow every so often when kissing.



- speed, kissing too fast is awkward, slower is always better.



- depth, if its a first kiss it can be too much to start off with whole tongue action. ive had a few first kisses like this and i couldn't help but think that the guy was a bit too anxious...



these may help, if not they will at least make you laugh:



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UNr_APrRmpY

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NfiGr...eature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hQkI0...eature=channel
03-10-2009 10:19 AM
wutaweirdo Yeah, I think the best advice would be to follow her lead. Especially as beginning kisses (where you're not aiming to get hot and heavy right there?) I like a lot of lip stuff, a little bit of tongue. But damn, let me breathe! Don't just invade my space and throw a squirmy tongue down my throat. Ew.



I kissed someone once where, seriously, I think he had a saliva-production problem. I mean... at one point there was HIS drool running down my chin. Gag gag gag!!! Never again, thank you.



The man I'm with now, our first kiss was amazing. I think his kissing style is a little more aggressive than mine, but he immediately took my cues and followed my lead on the lip play and all that. ALSO... kissing is not just about the mouth area, it's the whole experience! Rub her back or arm lightly, touch her hair, make her feel like she's supported and cared about and that ALL of your attention is on her, not just her mouth.
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