Okay, a few quick responses:
-I should have mentioned that everything was in one tray and everything was touching everything else (think carrot sticks on top of meat).
-It was my aunt's family of four, four from my family, and my grandma, so it was not as if there were a ton of people to think of.
-I am close with their family, and even when I was a meat eater, I ate very little meat, and rarely.
-I always carry food on me (Lara bars, almonds, etc.), and if I had been really hungry, I would have had something to eat, but it was more about the fact that I felt excluded.
-It bothered me that no one said anything, offered me anything, or acknowledged me. If it was merely about eating I would have eaten something out of her fridge, but it wasn't about that.
-In the past, they have called me and said things like, "we are doing bbq, and no veggies, so you might want to bring some tofu dogs," otherwise there is food that I can eat.
-I have brought food in the past, be it for myself or others as well. But with my dad in the hospital, we just simply did not have time for this.
Thanks everyone who made me feel validated, and to some of you, you are right - my feelings are my feelings and I should not need validation. However, being as though I never looked for a place to connect with fellow vegetarians/vegans until recently, I thought I would take advantage of this opportunity to vent! So thanks for hearing me out and responding to my comments!