I know- I'm very angry, because she initially had said it would be fine, but today she recanted and said that we're going to have 2 menus. I think it's bogus that people can't survive one day without animal by products, especially at the expense of who the party is being thrown for!
and yeah, i'm doing all the cooking- I'm a pretty good cook actually. I wanted to make lentils w/ caramelized yellow onions and basmati (good for a 'crock pot' dish, and soooo tasty!), then black bean burgers, some tofu-veggie nori rolls, hummus + pita, and maybe some sloppy joe's with smart ground or other meat analogue. other food tips would be appreciated since i've never actually cooked vegan for this amount of people anymore (most of the time its just cooking for me!)