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#1 Old 08-05-2007, 01:09 PM
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Yesterday we invited a bunch of family out to a local Mexican restaurant for my son's birthday. Since it was our "party," we decided to pick up the tab. It was only last night that it occurred to me that we had paid for meat and cheese in doing so! I mentioned that to my husband and he said the thought had crossed his mind also.



Still - we think it was our duty as hosts to pay for the meal. So we have decided that next time we will take everybody to a vegan restaurant and then there will be no issue!



Just curious what others think/do...

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#2 Old 08-05-2007, 01:50 PM
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I would, but I don't think I should. I think that this is a circumstance in which I would amorally cave to social convention. It's not right, but I guess doing the right thing isn't that important to me here. This isn't a ringing endorsement of my character, but ah well... turns out I'm not the second coming of Jesus.
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#3 Old 08-05-2007, 01:59 PM
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^^^ so I'll keep waiting...





I definately wouldn't pay for people to eat meat. A vegan restaurant is an excellent idea if there's one available.
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#4 Old 08-05-2007, 02:21 PM
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Well I wouldnt .....but its good to go through these situations , and work out what you will do next time .
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#5 Old 08-05-2007, 04:28 PM
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Would, have, will again. If I don't pay it doesn't cause anyone to eat less meat, but it does make me look cheap.
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#6 Old 08-05-2007, 04:51 PM
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Yeah, I like to go out with my omni friends and I pay sometimes.
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#7 Old 08-05-2007, 05:01 PM
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yes.
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I see nothing wrong with it as long as it's mutual. I pay for their meat one time, they pay for my veggie meal the next. I may feel a little guilty but I think it is ok to do this in group situations.
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If I only want to offer freely veggie food, then I can take them to a veggie place or make them veggie food. I think those are good ideas. Unfortunately, as much as I do not like to pay for meat, I don't think it's right to offer to buy a meal but then dictate what they get.



I was wondering, what if a Mormon was buying me a meal, should I try not to get caffeinated beverages or alcohol?
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#10 Old 08-05-2007, 07:39 PM
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If my parents pick up the tab for my birthday meal, of course I'll pay for Mother's Day/Father's Day - at a restaurant of their choice. If I meet my girlfriend for lunch downtown and it's my turn to pay, I certainly won't tell her she can't have meat (although, in all honesty, she nearly always orders vegetarian when she's with me because she doesn't mind veggie food and she doesn't want to offend - which is why she's by best friend. )

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I have no problem paying for it.
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#12 Old 08-05-2007, 09:49 PM
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If I only want to offer freely veggie food, then I can take them to a veggie place or make them veggie food. I think those are good ideas. Unfortunately, as much as I do not like to pay for meat, I don't think it's right to offer to buy a meal but then dictate what they get.



I was wondering, what if a Mormon was buying me a meal, should I try not to get caffeinated beverages or alcohol?



Actually, when we go out with my parents, we never order wine or beer (even though we might if we're on a date or out with friends) - because they are Christian and are uncomfortable around drinking. This applies especially if they have specified that they are "taking us out" (i.e. footing the bill) but we always make it a point not to drink around them regardless.



My dad almost ALWAYS orders a vegan meal when we are together though! We have never said a word about it, but he'll order a veggie meal and even take the trouble to ask them to hold the cheese.



Anyway...I agree with most that it's fine to pick up the tab and that I don't have to dictate what others eat when doing so. But I do think it would also be socially acceptable, win-win situation, to suggest going to a yummy vegetarian restaurant. (Luckily where I live there are several good ones to choose from.) More often, we'll just have people to our home and I'll cook up some kick-a$$ vegan food anyway.

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Unfortunately, as much as I do not like to pay for meat, I don't think it's right to offer to buy a meal but then dictate what they get.



Me neither.
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#14 Old 08-06-2007, 04:58 AM
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i would.
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If I only want to offer freely veggie food, then I can take them to a veggie place or make them veggie food. I think those are good ideas. Unfortunately, as much as I do not like to pay for meat, I don't think it's right to offer to buy a meal but then dictate what they get.



Ditto.
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#16 Old 08-06-2007, 10:42 AM
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I have in the past and probably will again.



I actually prefer to cook for my friends and family when I want to treat them.
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No. My flesh eating friends are usually so blown away by my charisma that they always get suckered into paying for me.

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No. My flesh eating friends are usually so blown away by my charisma that they always get suckered into paying for me.



Showoff.



I think I would pay.
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#19 Old 08-06-2007, 04:22 PM
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I have and will again.
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#20 Old 08-07-2007, 08:53 AM
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I always make it clear when going out that I'm happy to pay for veggie food, but I won't pay for meat.
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#21 Old 08-07-2007, 12:06 PM
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For family, I would. For friends, no.
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Why not for your friends Zombie?
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No

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#24 Old 08-08-2007, 06:43 AM
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I always make it clear when going out that I'm happy to pay for veggie food, but I won't pay for meat.





Same here.



I don't go to non-veg restaurants anymore anyway (or at least ones that don't have substantial vegan menus.) I'm lucky to live in a city where there's enough veg places to go that I don't need to go to those types of places. The non-veg places I do go to on occasion are the type where you order a bunch of dishes and share, so we just all eat vegan.
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#25 Old 08-08-2007, 12:10 PM
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does paying for the meal make it "ok" to eat meat in the eyes of the omnis? does it weaken my (and other veg*) position? is it ultimately better to pay than to come off as anti-social? would that matter? how does it impact me personally to pay for cruelty? how does it impact the greater humanity, world?
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#26 Old 08-08-2007, 04:44 PM
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I would and have.



Others are going to eat what they will, and it's not about what's on their plate, but about my desire to be kind and treat them to a meal. To attach conditions to such an offer is, in my view, highly rude.
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#27 Old 08-08-2007, 04:55 PM
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I would only if I was hosting, but I don't know why I would be hosting in a meat-serving restaurant, anyways. I'd most likely be in a vegan restaurant, or cooking myself.
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Usually the only family I take to dinner are the nephews and niece, and usually they bring some money from home. I took them to dinner and a movie recently to celebrate/mourn, depending on how you look at it, going back to school. I used their money for their food and mine for movie tickets and popcorn. If we go to a carnival, I buy the rides, their money buys the corn dogs.



I have bought restaurant gift certificates for omni friends' b-days before which I guess is the same thing as paying for their meal.
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