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#1 Old 11-28-2015, 04:44 PM
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Kinda Bummed, Single Vegan :/

Lonely long time member checking in. I've tried online dating, even scoured places on reddit. I met 3 people online, all of them meat eaters. Two of which were decent guys enough, but that underlying connection and passion for animal rights I crave to share with a special someone just couldn't be filled. A 4th person online was actually vegan, extremely attractive, passionate about veganism, and I was hoping, the one, but he had a very nasty side which included verbal abuse to a level that would put most internet trolls to shame. I still miss him, but ah well, it's always the hot ones, and I know that's not a good road for me.

I'm young, I know I still have plenty of time, but it just mentally gets kinda lonely, not being able to share and be open with someone else about a lifestyle that means so much. There's just not either enough single vegans, or the people that I need to meet aren't found online. Could be worse I know, my brothers are over 30 and have never been in any sort of relationship or had any intimate contact with anyone. They are pretty bummed about it too lol.

Just came to vent. Haven't been on here in a long while. Good to see that it's still alive.
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Hi 4everaspirit,

I'm happily married now, but I also found that online dating sites were not very useful.

I think it's better to find a vegan social group near you. If you go to http://www.meetup.com, and search for "vegan" near you, you might be pleasantly surprised to find such a group near you.

Vegan social groups are much better than vegan dating sites, because there isn't all of that pressure. And these groups are free. You just get together with the group of people at restaurants, cafes, movies or whatever. You get a chance to talk with different people, get to know them. In time, you might find someone you like, and they'll be vegan! This is how my vegan wife and I met.

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Hey 4everaspirit!
I'm sorry you feel lonely, you've always came across as a really great person to be around. Saying that, keep yourself as your best friend!

We've had a lot of threads started recently about crossing the line dating, and situations where people had to get out of relationships due to lack of respect.

I am glad that you keep in touch here. You've always been a very valuable member.
Keep your head up, your eyes open, and your heart out there for the opposed as you've always done. You'll meet someone!
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#4 Old 11-29-2015, 05:47 PM
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Hi 4everaspirit,

I'm happily married now, but I also found that online dating sites were not very useful.

I think it's better to find a vegan social group near you. If you go to http://www.meetup.com, and search for "vegan" near you, you might be pleasantly surprised to find such a group near you.

Vegan social groups are much better than vegan dating sites, because there isn't all of that pressure. And these groups are free. You just get together with the group of people at restaurants, cafes, movies or whatever. You get a chance to talk with different people, get to know them. In time, you might find someone you like, and they'll be vegan! This is how my vegan wife and I met.
Thanks David! I actually participate in some DXE events where I get to be with other animal activists. I also run the vegclub at my school, so I have some veg company, just not a lot of early to late twenty vegan male company. One of my friend's went to a vegan meet up and said he didn't really enjoy it because most of the people were a lot older. Nothing wrong with that really, but I also don't want the age difference to be awkward for them either. It's certainly worth looking into the vegan meetups though I suppose
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Hey 4everaspirit!
I'm sorry you feel lonely, you've always came across as a really great person to be around. Saying that, keep yourself as your best friend!

We've had a lot of threads started recently about crossing the line dating, and situations where people had to get out of relationships due to lack of respect.

I am glad that you keep in touch here. You've always been a very valuable member.
Keep your head up, your eyes open, and your heart out there for the opposed as you've always done. You'll meet someone!

Thanks silva! I've noticed the number of relationship posts. I can't imagine what it's like for some vegans in a relationship that ends up making them uncomfortable, that must be even harder and heartbreaking. I sure hope I meet someone, I guess I just gotta do me and what makes me happy and the right people will find me. Maybe I got to do more vegan activism to increase the number of fishes! :P

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Maybe I got to do more vegan activism to increase the number of fishes! :P
Ah, I have some insight for you here. Without getting into the topic of gender politics, it's my experience that few men are involved in actual vegan activism. Vegan activism is important, but it's not the best way to meet vegan men.

On the other hand, vegan social events (Meetups) are regularly attended by men.

Every Meetup is different, as far as the ages of participants go. Some groups are younger, some are older. You can look at the group photos to get an idea about this.

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I've been single for 3-4 years now. Welcome to the club.

Pick up some video games :P I am playing a lot of those.
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Hi 4everaspirit! I don't have any real words of wisdom to add, but just wanted to drop in and say hi! It's great to see you posting here again. I always enjoy your posts.

I am in the opposite situation, struggling in a relationship I am not too happy in but just not sure if I am ready to leave yet. The grass always seems to be greener on the other side, doesn't it?

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I'm married to an omni but I completely understand why you specifically want to date a fellow vegan. I second David's suggestion of attending social groups aimed at vegans and vegetarians: mixers, lunch outings, potlucks, that sort of thing. Have you searched Facebook for groups in your area? They can get very specific. Before I moved to the UK, I had already made friends with another pregnant vegan in the exact town where I'm living, thanks to Facebook! There are niche groups for just about anything you can imagine-- and you can't find one, you can start one!
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my brothers are over 30 and have never been in any sort of relationship or had any intimate contact with anyone. They are pretty bummed about it too lol.
Brothers, you say?? Color me intrigued.... Do they like older women? LMAO


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if only Misha Collins was vegan and my boyfriend.. *dreamy sigh* I don't see myself being in relationship any time soon. It would be nice, but I don't want to go looking for it. I don't like the idea of dating sites because it feels forced. I'd rather know the person before anything happens.

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I believe there is a vegan dating site somewhere???

You could always try CONVINCING people to become vegan.
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Ah, I have some insight for you here. Without getting into the topic of gender politics, it's my experience that few men are involved in actual vegan activism. Vegan activism is important, but it's not the best way to meet vegan men.

On the other hand, vegan social events (Meetups) are regularly attended by men.

Every Meetup is different, as far as the ages of participants go. Some groups are younger, some are older. You can look at the group photos to get an idea about this.

I'm certainly aware that there are not a lot of vegan men activists compared to women. Vegan activism is a huge part of my life though, so not being able to have someone to share it with, is of course making me lonely.

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I've been single for 3-4 years now. Welcome to the club.

Pick up some video games :P I am playing a lot of those.
I played fallout 4 recently....was rather let down. I haven't played many video games in a long time because I don't enjoy them as much as I used to. I personally feel like they are a waste of time, but then again I'm not doing much else in the meantime. I lost my internship and degree progress in social work, so woo...now half of my weekday I have to figure out what to do with myself because I no longer work 8 hours or go to a 3 hours class. fallout 4 was a temporary solution.

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Hi 4everaspirit! I don't have any real words of wisdom to add, but just wanted to drop in and say hi! It's great to see you posting here again. I always enjoy your posts.

I am in the opposite situation, struggling in a relationship I am not too happy in but just not sure if I am ready to leave yet. The grass always seems to be greener on the other side, doesn't it?
Oh gosh, that must be rough. Not sure which is worse, being lonely and single when you don't want to be, or being actually with someone that you aren'tt oo sure about =/

It's also nice to see that you guys remember me from so long ago! Lol

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Brothers, you say?? Color me intrigued.... Do they like older women? LMAO
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LMAO!! Now, you understand I do NOT want to meet other cougars.... and I don't like competitiveness.... or being around groups of people.... Damn, I'm screwed. LOL


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I played fallout 4 recently....was rather let down. I haven't played many video games in a long time because I don't enjoy them as much as I used to. I personally feel like they are a waste of time, but then again I'm not doing much else in the meantime. I lost my internship and degree progress in social work, so woo...now half of my weekday I have to figure out what to do with myself because I no longer work 8 hours or go to a 3 hours class. fallout 4 was a temporary solution.
Yeah....most games are terrible. I tried new vegas recently since it was on sale for like $3 because people always talk about how good it is.....eh, I just can't get into it. Course I am not really a fan of bethesda games so I guess I am not surprised. Story games like the walking dead(telltale) can have a pretty big emotional impact on me though it it's on sale on steam for $7CAD ATM.

You could always take up a language. Hindi(india) or Hebrew(isreal) if you're looking for potential vegans :P I personally have spent a fair amount of time on Japanese but veganism there pretty much doesn't exist. Judging by your avatar Japanese might be the language for you as well, though it might not be the people for you.
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Oh gosh, that must be rough. Not sure which is worse, being lonely and single when you don't want to be, or being actually with someone that you aren'tt oo sure about =/

It's also nice to see that you guys remember me from so long ago! Lol
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