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#1 Old 04-13-2015, 09:44 PM
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What to do when . . .

I'm a mostly-vegan, meaning I eat only vegan except when I am ABSOLUTELY positive that the cheese or eggs are humane. Anyway, my family was mostly supportive in the beginning, but there have been some challenges lately. Mainly, my parents seem to think I need to accommodate their omnivorous needs. They said that 'they respect my choice' but 'really, I'm the one who's different' and other arguments like that. They try to get me to be in the room with really strong smelling meat, which I just CAN'T do. I really can't. So they seem to think I'm in the wrong, and I need to put being with family for a few hours over everything important that goes along with being vegan. It's hard to explain, but hopefully you vegans will understand what I mean. So when my parents try to guilt me (or some other way) into being with meat, or really anything to do with my vegan status, how should I respond? They're my parents, and I can't just not do what they tell me to do. If there isn't a good response, any reply from other vegans is helpful. Thanks!
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#2 Old 04-13-2015, 10:11 PM
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The whole paradigm of eating meat seems to be based on encroaching on the lives of others. It begins with animals, then finds its way to people too. No doubt, your family wants to be with you, but trying to shame you into it is flat out wrong. I think your family is trying to transfer their own feelings of guilt, over what they do to others, onto you. Don't let them. The shame is theirs.

I'm really sorry you're having to go through this, and I hope they learn to connect with you in a more positive way.

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#3 Old 04-13-2015, 10:34 PM
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You know, when I wrote this post I was kind off on edge and overreacting. My parents didn't do anything bad. I just got sort of frustrated and wanted to vent. Also I wanted to know how to react in this general situation, not really specific. I should have made that more clear. Sorry for any confusion. I try not to write things when I'm on edge or angry but sometimes I forget.
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