First off, I'm brand new here to this forum.
As two vegans, me and my finance are planning a wedding this spring but being vegan is causing some issues with catering. We both are vegan for health reasons only, but really would like to have a vegan wedding. Mainly because when we go out to restaurants, we're the ones who settle for a frozen Boca burger or a plate of fries, so that other people can have their hamburger or cheese pizza. Since we always make sacrifices for others, we figured that this wedding is our chance to have what we want and make other people sacrifice.
Well, her parents who are helping pay for the wedding, really want us to have at least 50% dishes with some meat. Part of me, sees where they are coming from. The fact is, nobody else in my family is vegan or even vegetarian. In fact, besides me and my finance, I know of 4 other people. I feel like a lot of food will be thrown away if you force everybody to accept vegetarian food.
My cater who happens to have been a chef at a 4-star restaurant, has no issues making some great meat dishes, although she's vegan like us.
Has anybody else planned a vegan wedding? Did you just do all vegan? Half vegan, less than half???
Would love some feedback.
I suggest you give them an idea of what you want to serve there. Prepare a couple of sample meals to let them try, and if it's good enough, they might just give the go ahead. Just be sure to include them every step of the way. The last thing you want is for your marriage to start on a bitter note.
Also, say what you want on this forum, but don't ever couch it in the language that it is the omnivores' turns to make a sacrifice! Reassure them that vegan food can be very delicious and healthy.
If you absolutely have no choice but to serve meat, I still think that bivalves are the best option - oysters, clams, mussels, scallops - They don't suffer like chickens and cows do.
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I am a vegan also trying to plan my wedding :) congrats by the way.
My family also wants us to not have it 100% vegan... but right now its still up in the air. I'm looking for ideas for dishes... let me know if you guys decide on anything amazing :) we can trade secrets! (lol not really secrets)
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I'm not really seeing an ethical problem in all this. If the bride and groom want to eat a (total plant food) vegetarian meal for health reasons, why not? If the guests coming, especially those helping pay for the meal, would prefer a non veggie alternative, why not? In these circumstances, you may think that keeping people happy for the day is more important than feeding people one healthier meal on that day.
It is your wedding so it should be what you two want.
I wouldn't even mention to your in laws and guests that the food is vegan, you would be surprised that some people won't notice at all. Especially with food like pasta dishes, asian dishes, middle eastern and Indian dishes.
Do you have any sentimental meals between the two of you? Like maybe a meal from a first date or when you fell in love etc.