I do not have children so I can't speak from that experience, but I have been vegan and living with an omnivore husband (meat and potatoes guy to boot) for four years. At first the transition was not easy on our relationship. It took a lot of time and patience, and I really needed to find an effective way to explain to him why this was (is) so important to me and why I was doing it. We used to share cooking duties a little more, and I used to make him all his favorite dishes when I was an omnivore. All that stopped when I went vegan. I laid down rules that I would not buy or cook animal products. We also have separate cupboard space and refrigerator space for our own foods. However, over time I did compromise slightly by making him his eggs or a cheese dish for him on occasion (my husband is also on disability and has two illnesses that make it hard for him to cook or eat when they are severe). In most instances I stood my ground because it was important to me to live my values and in doing this it made him respect me more and take me more seriously. But I also learned to make vegan/vegetarian versions of foods he likes, and heartier meals for him that i might not necessarily eat. I would also take some of our favorite dishes and work with the base recipe and then add my vegan stuff to mine and he would add his stuff to his. For example, I would make harde shell tacos, and I would make a bulgur/red lentil taco filling with taco seasonings or a refried bean mix, and then I would add veggies to mine and he would add his shredded cheese and other stuff to his own once they were dished out. Or spaghetti. I would make plain spaghetti and a vegetable/lentil tomato sauce to go over it, and then he would add parmesan cheese to his and I would add a ground nut/nutritional yeast based "parmesan" to mine. Baked potatoes are another dish that is easy to add a variety of foods to. I normally do not buy the fake meats and cheeses, but I have on occasion bought veggie burgers and vegan ch*kn strips for his sake and he actually likes them a lot. A great hit in our house is homemade vegetarian pot pies (you can buy the pie shells vegan or vegetarian at Whole foods/health stores or make your own dough). I can almost guarantee you your family will love one of those lol. If your husband insists on meat, he could make his own and add it to his portion of pot pie once it is dished out.
You don't have to make meat dishes for everyone else. You can still make vegetarian dishes and if your husband insists he wants meat he can cook his own on another burner at the same time and cook for the kids if that is what they want and you can still sit down and eat together.
Also, I am very busy with work and other activities also, so I tend to take my day off (Sunday) and spend an hour or two making my lunches for the week and also making big batches of stuff I know will take time to make, like dried beans or brown rice. I store it in the refrigerator and have it on hand to heat up with stuff for dinner during the week without having to spend hours cooking it. It does require some preplanning as far as meals and when to prepare stuff ahead, but after doing it for a while it becomes second nature and no big deal. It is an effort at first, but one that is well worth it.
Also, it is not impossible to eat soy free as a vegetarian/vegan. I go through periods of doing this. I also cook gluten free soy free meals for my Mom who also has diverticulitis so nuts/seeds/fruits with seeds are out. That too can take a little planning but it becomes second nature. I am a bit anal, but I went through some cookbooks and thought of dishes to make in my head and wrote out lists of various foods without soy, gluten etc (and categorized them as breakfast, side dishes, main etc) that are also inexpensive and high in protein/calcium etc and I often plan off that list. It did take some time but I worked on it little by little and have used it for years, and have added to it also. Vegetarian can be very cheap if you base meals on beans, bulk grains (rice, millet, buckwheat, bulgur, oats, pasta) vegetables and so on. You can even make homemade sauces and "cheeses" using potatoes, canned tomato sauce/paste, canned coconut milk and so on. No need to buy expensive imitation products. Also, I may spend slightly more on plant based milks, but I compromise in other areas. Meat is very expensive unless it is the overly processed variety, so by not buying that I am saving a lot of money. My protein sources are beans, leafy greens, whole grains, seeds, all of which are inexpensive.
I think a lot of it comes down to really learning how to cook and prepare vegetarian food and being confident with enough stuff to make that you are not overwhelmed wondering what to eat. There are tons of vegetarian cookbooks out there and even public libraries are abundant with them. I started there when I went vegan and learned a LOT about vegetarian style cooking and what staples to keep and also how to meet nutritional needs and with food intolerances to boot. I couldn't tolerate tofu for my first two years vegan. I also avoided all vegan cheese except the homemade nutritional yeast/potato sauce variety. I ate soy free for a long time due to thyroid issues. It is doable, but will take a little time to learn how to do. If you are short on time, do it in small chunks. Have a good talk with your husband on how important this is to you and why, and what you need from him. Start with all vegetarian breakfasts for the week and see how your family does with that or how it works for you alone. When you are confident with enough breakfast ideas and so on, move on to lunches, then eventually dinners.
I hope you can take some time to explore the threads on Veggieboards, because there are a lot of people who have been where you are, and who have children they feed vegetarian meals and so on.
Again welcome to the boards! I wish you the best in your transition! You can do this!
In the end, only kindness matters. - Jewel
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