Originally Posted by Envy
I don't consider this thread to be offensive, and I'm overweight.
I am overweight and I dont find it offensive either.
At the risk of upsetting people still further...
I think people without weight issues geniunely find it difficult to comprehend why people are overweight. It may come over as rude but it generally isnt meant to offend. I think its a curosity, and a puzzle. For them it seems simple. Eat less. Excercise more. Fact.
I have had a life long relationship with food that had nothing to do with wether I was hungry or not. It was only when I was honest about this that I could work on curing it. I have tried every diet in the book including one on which I survived on eggs and grapefruit and the dreaded one where you swallow vats full of cabbage!!! I blamed everybody and everything for my weight.
But whatever I did I never, ever addressed the fact that I ate for comfort. I ate when I was lonely . I ate when I was scared. I ate to celebrate when I passed my exams. Basically food was my comfort blanket, and my reward and my pacifier.
Then I took stock, I had numerous health problems all culminating from the fact that my body was over taxed by my weight. I returned to a Vegetarian diet , quickly developing into a Vegan one . This was the first step for me .. all the things I 'treated ' myself on were suddenly off limits. In re thinking my diet to exclude animal products I began to re examine my diet generally.
I had a revelation..not a major one really, unless your life revolves around food. Just a simple recognition of the difference between my diet and that of my 'skinny' mates. They ate when they were hungry. And when they had enough they stopped. They didnt finish the meal, or the packet of biscuits. They just stopped. For them food is fuel. No more no less. Not a filler for some unquenchable emotional emptiness.
Armed with that simple,yet amazing discovery I tried to tackle my weight ... and no this isnt some wonderful tale of how I lost weight and changed my life in three months. I am not cover girl on Vogue or weightwatcher slimmer of the year. BUT...I am losing weight, slowly very slowly in fact. I dont weigh myself anymore but last time I did I had lost two stone. It will take a long time and it isnt easy as anyone who has tried to lose substantial amounts of weight will know. But..I have started.
Most importantly... I have started to exercise . Because as the OP rightly points out weight loss and increased excercise need to work in unison. Nothing major just walking and Tai Chi at present but enough for me to feel my body firming up.
Personally..and I can only speak for myself (I dont want to offend anyone here!)
I never brought the 'big is beautiful' hype. I was never happy being fat, in fact I was decidedly miserable. I was unhealthy and unhappy. I was pre-occupied with losing weight and thought of little else. It deprived me of confidence and self esteem. It stopped me doing almost all the physical activity I could ever want to participate in. It prevented me running and jumping around with my children when they were small. It led me into disastrous relationships . It has left me with health problems that will impede my health for the rest of my life.
It was the monkey on my back and slowly, but surely I am beating it off with sticks!!!
So...for me the answer to the OPs question 'what stops people from losing weight?' is ..their mind.