Originally Posted by hoodedclawjen
if couples 'normally' didn't need lube, why do they sell so many different types and brands and flavours of it? lube use is really very common. i back up everything dmzdogs said too..... and its not just about different women, but the same women at different occasions and on different days/times in her life. lots of factors play into lubrication.
to all of this. Quite obviously, many women find lube helfpul. If you're looking for something natural, you could try one of many kinds of oils. Coconut oil is nice because it "melts" as it warms from your body heat, smell nice, and is harmless for your girly bits. It's not so great with latex condoms though, so beware.
As for telling him what you like, be specific, and try to make it fun for him too.
I mean, maybe he can be working his magic on you, but your fingers are still free to explore.
Try to remember too, that sex is like most activities...your skill level goes up the more you practice. No one (despite what the romance novels say) is at their peak at the beginning. Soon, he'll know what sorts of things really get your motor running (and you his). You can experiment and find out what works, and what doesn't, which is almost as fun. Eventually (probably), you'll get to the point where the 5 minutes of kissing can be enough. Even then though, you wouldn't want to do that all of the time, it's just nice sometimes.
Also, not to be too Oprah, but guiding your thoughts during foreplay or just before can help with the lubrication issue. Think about the positive things...neck kisses, fingers running down your thighs...whatever it is that you really look forward too. If you close your eyes and think about it enough, you may find that you don't even need the man. (kidding