I can kinda relate.
Originally Posted by Cassiel
1. I hate wearing skirts to the point that I almost have a panic attack.
I grew up in the early 60s with 50s female role models -- "female" to the max. I'm still rebelling against this culture to this day. The housewife-please the guy -- be beautiful -- spend 3 hours in the bathroom curling eyelashes stuff. It could be that you have been imprisoned in such a culture and want to get out. Nothing abnormal about this. I haven't worn a skirt or dress in years. If I have to go to a wedding or a funeral, I wear black pants and a black blazer with a black T shirt.
2. I hate anything that reminds me that I am female.
Like she said, it's only about the XX chromosomes, assuming you aren't an anomaly. Otherwise it's all in your mind and can be rearranged and/or jettisoned.
3. I am 28 and still a...yes, a virgin. Partly for religious reasons; mostly because I am terrified.
I know the feeling. I was a virgin until I was about 24 or so. What country are you from? The first experiences most US girls have (using myself as an example, probably wrong) is in high school or college, and to be frank, most guys just want to, well, put it in there and finish and brag about it to their friends, or worse.
4. I have a detachment disorder.
I'm not a psychiatrist, psychologist or any type of therapist, but #3 and #4 suggest...I hope not...some kind of sexual trauma in your past or a loved one or friend's past or present, for which I hope you are in therapy with a professional specializing in this kind of thing. Such a thing would certainly bias you against certain things you thought of as "female" IF you saw women as subjects of abuse.
6. I'm not a lesbian; I generally dislike other women for the same reasons I dislike being one. I do have close female friends, however, who I love very much. I just have a general dislike of women. I do like men and have good relationships with them.
I'm not fond of "women" per se in general either, but I think you are talking about a certain archetype or stereotype and not all women per se. I suspect your friends are the opposite of whatever this is. Also sexuality is not an either-or thing. I call myself 80% heterosexual at this point in time.
7. I'm not transgendered. I don't wish I were a man, though from the ages of 6-14 or so, I would actually pray I'd wake up in the morning and have been born a boy. I don't wish I were a man, I just wish I weren't female.
Hmmm. You and a whole lot of Orthodox Jewish men, who thank God they have not been born a woman.
Does any of this come together to suggest anything pathological to anyone? Or is it just general weirdness? Or something very common?
I suffered from a minor version of this until recently (I'm 53). Unfortunately, it comes down to, just like the Nike commercials, saying no to the culture or stereotype or whatever it is that is your anathema. I suspect your pain is because you are in a situation in which you can't get away.
I don't know if I can be much help, but feel free to PM me any time.