I highly recommend qualified midwives. I felt very lucky to give birth in New Zealand, where a midwife can more easily be your medical person of choice. Sure, there are bad midwives and fantastic specialists, but I wanted my care to be provided by someone who saw pregnancy as a natural event in life, not a disease state.
I was able to find a midwife who was quite accepting of the fact that I didn't eat animal foods, had an episiotomy rate was astronomically low, attended home, hospital or birth center births, and was very comfortable with the fact that I read widely about things and was unlikely to accept the Standard Line as given to pregnant women. Oh, and she was a qualified lactation consultant and a member of LLL. She remains a friend seven years later. I hope you are as lucky.
Aw, I'm so happy for you. Everything's sounding like it's coming together.
my friend from the US who also birthed in NZ twice had a similar experience with her midwives. her second some came early and was a hospital birth, but she was there with her and a great support all the way.
You seem like you have a handle on life. I think that you could handle a child. You might not think that now, but when (if) you have it in your arms you might change your mind. That is just my opinion.