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#1 Old 07-14-2004, 06:56 AM
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has this topic been beaten viciously?



what does everyone think of having a non-vegan (or non-veg*an) boyfriend/girlfriend? i've recently turned veg*an, but having someone with a similar mindset in that respect is really appealing.



i guess this is comparable to having friends of different religious denominations and the like: i'm pro-life; some friends are pro-choice. i'm straight-edge; others are out drinking, smoking, and having meaningless make-out sessions just because they're bored (they say it's "fun"...what the heck?!?!).



explanations are welcome. please, enlighten me.



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#2 Old 07-14-2004, 07:01 AM
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well, my boyfriend is omni, and sometimes it is kind of hard. I'd been vegetarian for long before I met him, so when we got together he had to adjust to that, its not something i got into while I was dating him. It was fairly easy because we could still go out to restaurants, I got him started on sushi and we'd go out for it, I'd get a veggie roll...etc. I don't think he had a problem with it, occasionally he'd tell me I'm a hippie, but its all in fun joking and i dont mind. I recently went vegan, though, and i think he does have a problem with that. first of all because it will be harder for us to go places to eat together, and second of all (i just found this out, before i didnt think he had a reason) because he told me he thinks it's just an excuse for me to eat less....well, i dont know, but it's something I want to do, I'm still in the process of the switch...but hopefully he'll accept me, he loves me and i hope will accept my choices.
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i'm desperate and sad and lonely, i'm not pickey. or maybe i AM too pickey and that's why i'm desperate and sad and lonely?
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If someone is an ass about veg*nism, then I can assume they're somewhat of an ass overall, and i wouldn't want them for an s.o. Most guys I know are pretty understanding, and nobody i've taken an interest with has been an "obnoxious omni." nobody can tell you what to base your lover upon. If you're comfortable with an omni, no prob. If you'd rather have a vegetarian, then that's just the kind of person you are. don't sweat it



and pordiva, don't worry! from what i've read, it sounds like you have a sturdy relationship, and i'm glad it's been workin out for you!
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I'm after anyone who isn't superficial. In a town such as Blackpool, findin ga person with these qualities is no easy task.



I'm happy to be with anyone who can respect my choices.if i can get a veg*n lover though, that would be just perfect!
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As long as they respect it, why not? However, at least I'd have some "rules"... Like no kissing within two hours of them eating meat.
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As long as they respect it, why not? However, at least I'd have some "rules"... Like no kissing within two hours of them eating meat.



great rule.



I could see my self dating an omni becuse I was once a slave to there socity and as long as there not a ***** about it im not trying to refrence woman as *****s. but I would like a vegetrain.
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I wouldn't. I wouldn't want them to kiss me, and I wouldn't want to date someone that does not have the same beleifs as me.
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Haha yes I agree with click man, it's all fine as long as they respect my beliefs and diet, but they must not have meaty breath or teeth/mouth!
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I'm after anyone who isn't superficial. In a town such as Blackpool, findin ga person with these qualities is no easy task.



saaaaame with my town, Loki. The hunt is on for a non-superficial mate over here too
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I could introduce an omni love rto falafel, and slowly convert them.



me, someone else and a lot of falafel - I must say that this would be one polyamorous relationship for everyone!
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I could introduce an omni love rto falafel, and slowly convert them.



me, someone else and a lot of falafel - I must say that this would be one polyamorous relationship for everyone!



I honestly wouldn't count on converting anyone. For the time being, I guess i could live with dating omnivores, and probably have to. in the long run though, i don't know that i'd be able to make a serious commitment to someone who doesn't share such a fundamental aspect of my personal convictions.
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When I'm a teen, I see no point in excluding omnivores I guess, but when I am an adult I plan on raising vegan children, and that would be so much easier with a vegan husband..
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see, it doesn't have to do with kids for me though. i mean, i think it has more to do with the relationship. i mean, if i'm going to spend the remainder of my life with one person, how would i be able to do that with someone who has an eating habit in direct ethical conflict with mine? it's one thing putting up with family, that's something you can't choose, and it's another putting up with little quirks of a person just because no one is perfect, but it's another to be expected to deal with such an important ethical conflict.
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exactly. lets go elope.
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He knows he wants to
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see, it doesn't have to do with kids for me though. i mean, i think it has more to do with the relationship. i mean, if i'm going to spend the remainder of my life with one person, how would i be able to do that with someone who has an eating habit in direct ethical conflict with mine? it's one thing putting up with family, that's something you can't choose, and it's another putting up with little quirks of a person just because no one is perfect, but it's another to be expected to deal with such an important ethical conflict.



see, that's a good point. even just discussing this topic with my omni friends can get irritating sometimes and lead to arguments, and in a relationship it's gotta be a hundred times worse. although hopefully your partner would be respectful enough to try to understand your decision even if they don't agree with it. oh well, it's not such a problem for me as romantic relationships don't like me. *tear
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see, that's a good point. even just discussing this topic with my omni friends can get irritating sometimes and lead to arguments, and in a relationship it's gotta be a hundred times worse. although hopefully your partner would be respectful enough to try to understand your decision even if they don't agree with it. oh well, it's not such a problem for me as romantic relationships don't like me. *tear



see, even if it's a "respect your opinion" kind of thing, i don't know that i'd be okay with it. imagine if you and your husband differed on a topic like murder or rape. you wouldn't want someone who "respects your decision not to murder" or "only rapes when you're not around". you don't want him doing those EVER. now i mean, i don't mean to offend anyone, because obviously we all have friends and family who eat meat and love them just the same. however, i don't think that in a marriage, or even just a very serious relationship, i'd ever be able to make a deep connection with someone who still eats meat, no matter how much they "respect" my decision.
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Well, relationship-wise a veg*n would be cool but an omni who respects my veganism would not be too bad, although the thought of kissing someone who has just eaten meat is a huge turn off...actually now I'm just completely confused...
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I'm currently dating an omni and its okay. He respects my beliefs but obviously, he can't really understand what its like for me to deal with the criticism i face. Whenever I eat with his family the meals will be vegetarian (his dad's a chef and makes great lentil loaf ) but when he eats with my family he'll eat meat. It bothers me sometimes but it's not unbearable. I'd also like to raise my children as vegetarian (at the least) so i agree with formerbaboon about marrying a veg*n.
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i must say, i think it sucks that every vegetarian girl i've ever met or known seems to be dating an omni guy...
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i must say, i think it sucks that every vegetarian girl i've ever met or known seems to be dating an omni guy...



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Free vegetarian (Soon to be back to veganism once I leave treatment!) over here!



see, exactly, what's the deal man? all the veggie girls are dating the "omni guys who respect them" when vegan guys like us get left in the dust.
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i think that's because its so hard to find a vegan guy. so, basically we can only really date "the omni guys who respect them" as you put it.
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actually, i take it back, i'm not totally in the dust, i have been seeing jill for a fairly long time.
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see, exactly, what's the deal man? all the veggie girls are dating the "omni guys who respect them" when vegan guys like us get left in the dust.



Believe me guys, the Veg*n girls would much rather a veg*n guy like yous, than the omni who respects their beliefs, thing is, it's hard to find the veg*n guys...especially close to home etc!
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actually, i take it back, i'm not totally in the dust, i have been seeing jill for a fairly long time.



Hhahahaa good one

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i really like my boyfriend but i think i would prefer it if he were a veg*n. my parents and brother (especially my brother) can give me a really hard time about my veg*nism and its really hard to deal with. he's never insulted me or questioned me about it, but he's never openly supported me either.

p.s. jill seems like a lovely girl.
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actually, i take it back, i'm not totally in the dust, i have been seeing jill for a fairly long time.



I didn't get that really..



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