Originally Posted by Wolfie
Has she been checked out for autistic disorder or PPD?
I was going to ask the same thing - I just wasn't sure if that had been mentioned somewhere previously, since I was guilty of not reading all the posts.
You might want to read some of the stuff by Leslie E. Packer and "rage attacks" or sometimes called Intermittent Explosive Disorder" (IED). I don't think it's a specifically diagnosed disorder yet but there's a lot of interesting stuff out there about it that might be helpful.
I still think respite needs to be looked into. You CAN find something if you look, and often they will take both siblings even if just one has issues. So use the time to go shopping, nothing wrong with that.
As for you and your husband "needing" time away from the kids, your post rings loud and clear with the needs for exactly that, regardless of how much you think you do or don't. You're doing them a disfavor by not meeting your needs as well. You cannot care for your child adequately if you are tired, stressed, and don't have time for adult communication. You don't have to go "out" - There are tons of free things that people can do, even just 1/2 an hour of free time will make tremendous difference.
Finding your way around can be difficult, even with a GPS (personally I cannot use them for ANYTHING!!). I was a serious basket-case with driving and used to rely on people for all my travel away from home; but time and circumstance and a divorce have FORCED me to have to drive and now I can pretty much find anything, even in the big, bad and BUSY city!! It was terrifying at first but SO worth it! It gets better with trying and practice.
You are obviously able to write and communicate and use the computer. Google or other map services are a great resource and the directions are spelled out step-by-step and easier to follow than you might think.
Isolating yourself may feel like the easiest thing to do but in the end will hurt your child(ren) and their growth and development, AND eventually serve to make you feel more helpless and out of touch with life.
If not social groups (which I still think you could work into the day somehow) how about places where people are, but you don't have to actually talk to them... the playground, the park, the beach, the lake, botanical gardens, duck ponds, places that are free of charge but might provide a new and different atmosphere for you and your kids?
How about (Don't hate me for this!!) the indoor playground at a (gasp!!!) fast food restaurant? All you need to buy is a cup of coffee, seriouly, and you can take the kids for an hour or so... Works even in bad weather and there's a place for you to sit and watch without them in your face... maybe a nice activity for them after you go to the gym...
I don't know, just some ideas...