I'm wondering how everyone elses child measured up at their 1 year exam. Could it possibly be that I'm lacking something in his diet? He's eating mostly vegetarian right now, his dad has been giving him tiny bits of fish and poultry after the doctor complained about his weight. This doesn't seem to be fattening him up though.
This is typically what Ares' eats in a day:
Breakfast: 1 Yo-Yo baby yogurt drink, 1 egg scrambled, 1 piece of toast w/ vegan margarine, half an orange
Snack: 6 oz milk, a few crackers or a sandwich cookie, chopped veggies
Lunch: 6 oz milk, half a sandwich, other half of his orange, chips (usually Cheetos or something equally gross), some sort of cut up veg (favors broccoli)
Dinner: 6 oz milk, whatever the family is having, smaller portions. Last night it was fast food. He had a grilled cheese sandwich and some french fries. Not exactly healthy, but not exactly what we eat every night.
Before bed: 6 oz milk
is the milk that he's having breastmilk, whole milk, or just 2%/skim? because i would go for whole milk, possibly a milk-based formula (which i would make myself), or breastmilk (if you still make it, you can pump it and serve it if you'd prefer not to breastfeed).
and, i wouldn't worry too much if he doesn't have any "failure to thrive" symptoms. sometimes, a doctor may say "underweight" to indicate that he's below average for his age group, and not mean it as a medical diagnosis in any way. sometimes, they use it to coerce/scare someone into doing something that they want (such as introducing meat into the diet). sometimes, it's a real diagnosis indicating that the child needs something more.
overall, the diet seems pretty low in fat for a baby diet--so you might consider adding in good fats like avocados and such. but otherwise, it looks good to me.
If you want more information about the sorts of food that are healthy, have a look at Vegetarian Diets for Children: Right from the Start
I definitely would not add more concentrated sources of fat or protein to Ares' diet. Even leaving out the dinner as you say it was atypical, he's got around 45% of his calories from fat (mostly animal fat) and at 40+ grams, more than an adult's requirement for protein (mostly animal protein). You could consider switching the animal fat to vegetable fat, but don't just add the avocadoes or nuts on top of what he's already getting.
You probably need to know that my perspective is based on being a dietary vegan for health. So I'm going to be naturally more prejudiced against the milk, eggs and cheese that you're feeding him. :-) I made completely opposite choices than you with my kids - they are allowed some meat (a few times a week) but never ever any dairy. Just thought I should let you know where I was coming from so you could feel free to take my comments with as much salt as you like!!
Oh, and another thing - they revised all those growth charts to reflect the fact that we're fatter from children than we used to be. They reflect actual weight distribution and that has little to do with what weights are healthy. I believe there are several pounds' difference between the older ones and the current, which would have put Ares right in the middle.
He's been drinking organic whole milk since he was about 11 months old along with formula that he had left over. He is out of formula now, so he's just been having the organic whole milk. I was going to start introducing soy milk because no one else in the house hold drinks milk.
I was thinking the same thing though. He may be "underweight" because today American's are a lot larger than we used to be. My mom said I was Ares' size/height when I was a year old, and the doctor never once said I was underweight.
I'm just worried because he was talking about possibly giving Ares' pills so he would be the correct size for his age. Maybe I should shop around for a new doctor that is OK with me feeding my child a vegetarian diet?
One thing about my son (and me) is that we are solid, but thin. Meaning, I look like I weigh about 115 lbs, but I actually weigh 130. My son is a bean stalk, even with a "slim" waist band, we still need to use the adjusters to tighten it. He is 46" and 46 lbs. He looks as though he would be a feather, but he is a heavy little kid when you pick him up.
I really wouldn't worry at this point. 19lbs. at a year is fine. If he was 18-24 months, then I might start worrying a little. My friend's DD is a teensy little girl. My 11 month old DD is almost as tall as her 2 year old. Their weight is almost the same as well!! Mom is petite, both kids are petite, the doctor has made no indication that her child is anything other than healthy.
The only thing I would say, is to omit things like cheetos, sandwich cookies and french fries from your baby's diet, and replace them with things like string cheese, fruit (many restaurants will sub fruit for fries), cottage cheese, avocado, whole grain bread with a little agave nectar or fruit spread...maybe some almond or cashew butter. I'm telling you, feeding your LO junky food this young, is going to set you up for the frustration of your life. I waited until my son was a few years old before I allowed the junky stuff, and it's all he wants to eat now (at 5). It's a struggle every single day....and I don't even buy junk food!!! I'm holding off MUCH longer with my DD, if I can.
Don't stress...hang in there!
We're both fairly thin. I weighed 95lbs at 5'3 until I became pregnant with Ares, now I'm at 115lbs. His dad is 5'9 and weighs 140lbs.
The sandwich cookies we are giving him aren't terrible. They are organic/vegan "oreo" type things. He gets those maybe twice a week. The cheetoes, I know those need to stop though. It was an accidental thing he even had some. Now, he's hooked and everytime he sees a bag of cheetoes he grabs for it. The french fries are a very rare thing. If we eat out at someplace that substitutes fruit, we do that instead. The local diner in town doesn't even have fruit on the menu lol. Usually his dad ends up eating a good portion of his fries. He has maybe 5 fries cut into small pieces.
We stocked up on some healthier high fat snack foods when we went shopping last night. I got some yogurt covered raisins, cheese chunks and a few other things.
I don't know how concerned I should actually be because my doctor hasn't said anything like "you need to feed him THIS way" or "fatten that kid up!" He didn't even schedule him to come in ahead of time because of his weight. He's still just going in for his shots.
He's a really tall kid, so he's in 18 MO clothing, the pants just don't fit around the waist very well unless they are stretchy. I've mostly been buying him one piece outfits that are shorts/shirts built on together because his waist is even too small for the 12 MO clothing, but he's tall. Do they make baby belts?
I haven't seen any, but you can make them easy. You can use thin neck ties, wide grosgrain ribbon, or wide shoe lace fabric. Then, you go to the fabric store and find the 'D' rings or belt clasps. Cut your belt material to correct length, then loop the material into the chosen clasp, sew...voila!
So I relaxed, laughed at the Doctors, and said they would be ahead of the charts in no time... My point is that sometimes you have to trust your gut. Dr.'s are knowledgable, sure, but they don't always know (or have time to know or remember) the WHOLE story.
It sounds like you and your husband are on the smaller-framed side and your child's growth pattern is reflecting that. I would relax and not worry, you're feeding your son perfectly healthy food and as long as the Dr. isn't in a panic about malnutrition or not seeing any pregression in growth, then you're fine.
Why would you expect it to? For the most part, calories are calories, whatever their source.
"If you want to know where you would have stood on slavery before the civil war, don't look at where you stand on slavery today, look at where you stand on animal rights." - Paul Watson.
Every animal you eat
was running for her life
first, considering that both parents are "ectomorphs" i'm less likely to be concerned about this situation. so, you'll have to ask yourself (your spirit) about that--tofu-n-sprouts style.
second, if you do think he needs a bit more, then consider changing out one of his milks for formula. it's a bit more "stick to the ribs" and so it might help for the next weigh in. if you want to switch to a non-animal milk, i suggest a good, fatty one like almond milk (more fat than rice, oat, soy). fortified almond milk would probably be a good idea.
another option is to consider poi. poi is a fermented hawaiian food (fermented taro root), and is used in the culture as a form of formula. i believe that taro dream can ship it to you, and it's pretty amazing stuff. you could switch out one of the milks for this, or just use it as a regular food and take out something else (as it seems he gets enough to be satisfied). it's also great for adults, so you might find the whole family get addicted (it's about the consistency of yogurt)!
Keep in mind that the little chart that they use judges your child in comparison to other peoples children. Most of our population is overweight. They make us look unhealthy skinny when we are actually the healthy ones.
Ares seems to be eating a pretty healthy diet, so I wouldn't worry too much. There is a HUGE range of "normal", and if you and your hubby are naturally thin, it's not too odd that he is too.
Fritemar, your son eats tons more than my daughter does. He's just fine.
Don't let the doctors screw with your head. If you think he's eating good and he's healthy, don't worry about it.
Kids get so active by 1 year old, they burn off a lot, just keep giving him those calories to burn, his body will keep growing just fine.
And what's up with these charts making us all feel guilty about "what percentile my baby is in" anyway????? Screw it, just feed your kid and be happy.
"One meal, soon forgotten, in exchange for a whole life." Author Unknown
"Fur is worn by beautiful animals and ugly people"
You might tell dad that flesh isn't going to fatten up your kid, but the nasty bugs like Listeria and E Coli in flesh might make Ares sick. My baby gets all the fat he needs from avocados, beans, occasional plain organic soy yogurt (no history of food allergies in my family, and no sign of food sensitivity in any of the 25+ foods he is currently eating) and from breast milk.
Hi there. I feel your concern but not to worry. I just came from my daughter's wellness visit. She is just two weeks shy of being one. She weighed just under 17 lb. She is breastfed, vegetarian and just plain little. I do not feed her any foods with corn syrup, sugar, high fructose corn syrup or anything with artificial additives. She only eats organic veggies and loves them!
The charts they are using to compare babies are based on the "American Diet". If more than half of the babies were overweight or worst, obese, wouldn't it make since that yours is "underweight"? What does that mean in today's American standards anyway? I bet you in other countries your baby or mine would not be considered underweight. I'll bet cha!
My pediatrician said as long as she's reaching her milestones we don't need to worry.
She's not a big eater and has never had meat (and has a dairy allergy.)
The problem is not that we all seem to have "small" or "underweight" babies, but that we live in a culture where people seem to be proud of or not really understand the implications of having larger babies. Most of those babies will grow up to be large adults with many health-related issues and conditions. It is crazy to know that baby food companies, such as Gerber, puts corn syrup in BABY FOOD!!! Ok, so let's get them addicted right from the start so we can create a drug-dependent society. Do yourselves and your babies a favour and stay away from any type of corn syrup or sugar for that matter. It won't be long before sugar finally gets classified as a drug. Peace.
Try plotting his measurements on the WHO (world health organization) growth charts. You are right that our charts are slightly inflated. I have a friend who was just told this at her son's 1 year check up. He was only 18 lbs 11 oz and 28 1/2 inches. Doctor told her to give pediasure (she's still nursing!) because he was underweight, only about the 5% for his age. When I showed her the WHO growth charts, he was actually between the 25th and 50th percentile. And he's chubby! 19lbs at a year is on the smaller side but it's not like ZOMG failure to thrive!!! And since you and dad are smaller...he's going to be too. My friend and her husband are small people.
I think you should consider switching doctors. I know that may sound somewhat extreme, but if your doctor knows you are vegetarians or vegans or whatever, they may be biased against you. This happened to me. My first 2 kids were off-the-charts tall, and by the time they were almost one, they were both over 20 lbs. My son weighed 26lbs at 17 months old, but he caught a stomach virus that month and lost a pound (documented at this same dr's office), so that when we went in for his 18 month check-up and he weighed 25.5lbs, the doctor tried to diagnose him as FAILING TO THRIVE. Which was ridiculous and I fought him about it. Though later when I thought about it, I remembered that he had diagnosed my daughter as Failing to Thrive at 18 mos because she had not gained weight since one (she was walking and running and meeting all motor and intellectual milestones and my husband is 6'3" and weighs 145), but I was young and a first-time-mom then and I didn't know enough to disagree. We were lacto-ovo then and that doctor instructed me to give her sippy cups of milk all the time, and make it chocolate or strawberry flavored to make her want to drink it all the time. She gained 2lbs in a month.... and then he said we needed to watch her weight because she was getting "fat". WTF
Anyway, we switched doctors over an entirely unrelated debacle and when my younger son was born full term, but pretty small, and weighed only 18-19lbs at 1 (heck he's almost 3 and definitely weighs less than 30lbs.), the new doctor said he was fine and healthy and "some babies are just smaller than others.. not every baby is meant to be enormous".
So, sorry for the novel, but like I said, you may want to look into switching.
Doctor says soy... is NOT milk. 0o0
But she eats quite a lot: bread, cakes, biscuits, noodles...
Read some suggestions here. I hope it works. I'm gonna try giving her some junk foods and some chocolate/strawberry flavoured milk. Time to change our formula milk's brand too...