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varun 07-26-2015 07:27 AM

Musings of a new Dad-in-training
 
It was a perfectly calm Saturday last October, the weather was just right & the time was the festive season of Diwali, a festival of lights in my country. That Saturday changed my life forever, I became the dad of a very beautiful baby girl who looks just like her mom. I've read & heard this so many times that this moment will seem absolutely disorienting, a mix of every emotion hitting you all at once. In my case it was more of a punch in the face, I was ecstatic, scared, clueless, speechless and literally numb all at once. I even feared holding her, she seemed so delicate & precious even though I never wanted to let her go. I've heard this bit before many times as well, and true to it almost like a dad-switch was turned on I adapted to my new role faster than anything I've even done in my life.

The first 2 weeks made me understand what love meant, a different form of love. I know I love my wife more than anything else on this earth but this was different, it felt like a surge of emotions, feelings of being there all the time for the baby, dedicating each passing minute to making decisions for her. I'd ask myself questions in my head each night as I sleep, questions like how best to make her happy each day, about what we should feed her, whether we should teach her about the concept of "God" or let her figure it out herself as I did. Maybe I'm just too much of a thinker to live in the moment but I knew that this love is gonna keep me awake more than a few nights all my life.

One of the questions that is relevant to this forum is "what should we feed her". It was a no-brainer as far as I'm concerned, I have always been a vegetarian all my life as also my wife (who used to be an occasional white-meat eater). I see so many to-be-parents and new parents asking this question and my answer is simple.. I love my daughter so much that I will do everything I can to keep her happy. Vegetarianism is the best diet for a baby, a toddler, a kid, a teen, an adult, you name it. As long as any child learns early on to take a well-balanced diet like vitamins, fibre, calcium, protein etc which are found bountiful in veggie diet, they should have no problems growing up healthy. Love for animals & people both, in my opinion is one of the most beautiful things a human being can learn and nothing is better than starting off as a veggie to do so. This is my new-daddy story. What's yours?

no whey jose 07-26-2015 10:30 PM

Oh @varun I don't know if it's the pregnancy hormones or your lovely writing, but this post hit me "right in the feels," as they say. [emoji24] I can't wait to meet our little one! [emoji177]

Necter 07-27-2015 04:09 AM

pretty selfish to have a kid in this world man

LedBoots 07-27-2015 04:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Necter (Post 3728609)
pretty selfish to have a kid in this world man

No, it is not. All creatures on earth have the urge to procreate. It is a personal decision, and I think Varun's new little vegan girl could be the one to save the world. [emoji173]

Naturebound 07-27-2015 04:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Necter (Post 3728609)
pretty selfish to have a kid in this world man

Wow, ok. varun is starting his child out as a vegetarian child and is expressing a profound love for his baby girl. He is advocating that a vegetarian lifestyle is the best way to raise a child. And this is selfish?

I agree that we need to control our human population on this planet. The world is overcrowded as it is. But c'mon, kids are going to happen. No need to shame a person over it. varun is doing far more than most people do as parents and humans inhabiting this planet. And also, as someone who was personally castrated at a young age and never got a chance to even consider having a child, I know the pain of not having experienced birth and motherhood on such a natural and profound level. Adoption has not been an option for me for a variety of reasons. At least have a little compassion towards others. That's a pretty important thing to have for our planet too you know?

Necter 07-27-2015 04:48 AM

?
 
And also, as someone who was personally castrated at a young age

What? u were castrated?

Naturebound 07-27-2015 05:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Necter (Post 3728649)
And also, as someone who was personally castrated at a young age

What? u were castrated?

Yup, I had both ovaries removed, uterus, fallopian tubes, cervix (woke up from surgery only expecting to lose my uterus and cervix). Females can also be castrated. http://www.thefreedictionary.com/castrated

Back to the original subject, Necter, I am interested in your views on fatherhood.

Necter 07-27-2015 05:27 AM

glad you asked...not today, not tommorow, not ever IN. THIS. LIFE.

Is that clear enough for you?

Necter 07-27-2015 05:32 AM

#childfree

no whey jose 07-27-2015 06:06 AM

There's nothing wrong with making the decision not to have children (particularly if you're responsible about it) but being "childfree" doesn't grant you the right to act like a douche.

Also, hashtags don't work here.

Naturebound 07-27-2015 06:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Necter (Post 3728665)
glad you asked...not today, not tommorow, not ever IN. THIS. LIFE.

Is that clear enough for you?

Quote:

Originally Posted by Necter (Post 3728665)
glad you asked...not today, not tommorow, not ever IN. THIS. LIFE.

Is that clear enough for you?

I agree with No Whey Hose, it's fine to prefer not to have children. In fact it's great that more people are choosing this route. But there is no need to be so harsh and judgmental towards those who do choose to be fathers, especially when they are raising vegetarian children.

Also, how do you feel about your own father as far as bringing you into this world? I ask this as my own father is visiting from out of state for the weekend, and at this point I am going to bow out of the conversation and go visit for the day. :)


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