Well, I'm more comfortable telling a group of random people at a christian youth convention (where I was last weekend) that I was pansexual, than my oldest friends.
I feel like I need to change this soon, especially since one of them is moving 6 hours away in a little over a month.
You know the other day, after wondering if I had fallen into perceived heterosexuality for dating a cis-male, I turned to a new-ish friend of mine and asked, "What am I to you? Your gay friend or your straight friend?" He really surprised me and said, "Oh well neither, you're my pansexual friend."
I was totally floored that he recognized pansexuality as being it's own thing, and being totally cool with it. Moral of the story, the people that care about you can really surprise you!
[pan high five]
Am bisexual and Gender queer ( i want to change my user name but cant become a contributing member as it dont work at the moment )
"To my mind, the life of a lamb is no less precious than that of a human being."
I'm heterosexual but biromantic. Meaning I could have a romantic relationship with both sexes but only sex with one. Does that make me an LGBTQer? I feel the LGBTQ community generally ignores asexuals and, while I am not asexual (of course) I find their terminology useful in describing my own romantic and sexual orientations.
I often say I'm bisexual because thats the best approximation that most people are able to comprehend. However, I don't like that term because it reinforces the gender binary system which I tend to oppose.
Experience tells me that I'm physically most attracted to those who consider themselves women, but there were a few of those who consider themselves men also (actually, I'm in a 3+yr happy relationship with a guy :)).
What I absolutely love to see is some 'gender bending' (crossdressing and the like).
I'm not into labels but if I had to pick one I'd go with pansexual. If someone asks me I tend to say bi however as most poeple know what that word means. Not too long out of a serious, year long relationship and completely confused as whether I'm happy to be single or not.
I want to say bisexual or pansexual, even though I have never had a relationship with a woman, I find women and men attractive. When I see an attractive couple, I am staring at the man and the woman! It is a question I have been pondering for a while. I also agree with Kinseys studies. I was raised in a Christian household and was raised to believe it was wrong, so I think I suppressed it for a long time and now that I am in my 30's, it is really eating at me to come out of the closet. For the first time in my life I am actually considering dating a woman.
Add me to the list of proud LGBTQ Feminist Vegatarians!
"Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering" - Star Wars
I believe I am a (mostly) homo-romantic asexual. I say "mostly" because I can find men aesthetically attractive sometimes, but I can't imagine ever being romantically involved with a man. I don't recall ever being romantically attracted to a man like I have with women... although romantic attraction to women has been few and far between too (my last relationship was a decade ago). I'm mostly happy being on my own, minus a limited periods of loneliness. I've never been sexually attracted to anyone.
So my closest approximation would be either homo-asexual, or possibly aromantic-asexual? Labels are tricky things!
Traditional hetero here but my good wishes and hopes for happiness to all on the forum whatever their orientation.
Anyways, thought i'd give my two cents.
Don't discount the possibly of being gender queer! Unlike bigendered, which follows the idea of a gender binary, gender queer is all encompassing. I have. A few friends who are gender queer, and they dress and act how they feel without the need for a gender label. (although one of them has chosen a "hard" gender label to be used as default, but that label is a preference that he likes and has no apparent bearing on how he presents himself day-to-day). Just throwing that idea out there, as there is no need to "choose one". Whatever you do, make just do it because it will make you happy!
Gay, vegan male here. It's wonderful to see so many LGBT people on VB, and I didn't expect to see 35 pages, either. I've only read a little, but I have noticed a much larger gay/bi/pan population on the girl's side, so far. How intriguing! :)
Anyway, that's all from me, for now.
Now it's time to fight my way out of society's shackles
I am new to the board, just posted in the new members section. I also wanted to post here as I am a lesbian! Someday am hoping to find a good lady to appreciate my Vegan cupcakes - and cookies, and brownies, and everything else that comes out of my kitchen.