Let me preface that I my family, its just hard to stand them in large amounts.
My dad is visiting. I love my dad. He's been here since Saturday and will be here until Saturday morning after Thanksgiving. We're 4 days into a one week visit. Now, my mother is a junkie and I've cut ties with her so there's no parental support there so I rely on my dad for all of it. However, all he does is play video games and watch tv. I'm not exaggerating, he quit his job in 2002 when I was away at college and hasn't worked since. In doing so, he stopped paying my college credit card without telling me which has left a mark on my credit report, but that's another story. So he's been out of work for 6 years, at first I fought with him about it (fought doesn't look spelled right?) but we got past it. Now though, he's not looking for work at all, doesn't have any money, lives with my grandmother and literally plays videogames in his room and watches tv all day and all night. He doesn't shower unless he's going out to eat with her, and doesn't brush his teeth. So now his teeth are gross and he smells. This coming from the cleanest person I knew growing up.
So he's visiting me. He brought his computer and set up shop in my guest room and has been *****ing to me about the internet being too slow at my house for his game, the lack of meat I'm feeding him, why I'm not married yet, why aren't I married yet, I should be saving more money, I should be wearing slippers in the house (seriously, my house, and I'm 24). He's driving me nuts. And he smells and I'm pretty sure his teeth need to be pulled. That, and his conversations consist of video games or putting me down.
Last time he visited, he came up to take me to the doctor during my whole colitis thing as I needed a driver for the anesthesia for the colonoscopy, and I yelled at him afterword for making fun of me for not feeling good after the procedure. So he got really mad at me and said something like 'jump down my fing throat why don't you' and didn't talk to me for a day. Last time I tried to bring up the whole not working, what's he going to do when grandma dies, why don't you go to the dentist thing, the same thing happened. I've tried every way I know of to talk to him and he won't listen.
He's supposed to meet Brian's (my other half's) family tomorrow for thanksgiving. I'm nervous. He puts me down a lot and makes bad jokes (like, sexual bad jokes, not not-funny jokes) or jokes about my health (the colitis namely, which is NOT FUNNY). I think he's gotten kinda perverted since this videogame addiction. He comments at the Cialis commercials and it just makes everyone uncomfortable.
So what the hell do I do. I'm crying now just writing this out. I do love my dad and he's the only parent I have, and given that he didn't talk to me for a month after the Christmas I yelled at him for quitting his job, I just don't know what to do. I don't want Brian's parents to hate him, and I don't want him to tell them personal things like I often crap blood or crashed the car when I was 17 going to see a secret boyfriend in Philly. I also really wish he'd get a job and go to the friggin dentist. So do I just deal with it and hope I don't get visits very often, do I risk talking to him and him writing me off again, or what.
edit: I'm an idiot with a back button and put this in the wrong section. As much as I feel like this is a health issue sometimes as I'm losing my mind, can someone super nice move it for me <3 <3.