Wow...old thread...I know...
I was searching VB
for a thread on phobias, and came across this one. I'd really like to know how things are going now... Any better??? I certainly hope so...
I would like to comment on the part about the 'episodes' instantly stop when someone (OP) picks up the phone to call for help.
People do sometimes use disabilities as a way to manipulate others, but it's not fair to think that when it stops with the phone pick up (in my opinion). Think about a child that's crying...deep emotional distress... And the parent says "You better stop crying this instant or else ____(insert scary punishment here)______!!!!!" And the child is able to suck up his/her tears and return to normal out of fear of punishment.
That doesn't mean the distress wasn't truly real, or that the child just wanted attention (some do, though)...but consequences can force you to instantly bottle up emotions.
As for your hubby, I'd think that since he really doesn't want treatment, an emergency call for help would, in his mind, have very negative consequences, so he'd better suck it all back in!
An another note, I can relate to not wanting treatment for a phobia. I have two that DO interfere with my life, but I'm so used to them that I don't see a need to change. I function just fine in spite of them, but I do have to occasionally explain to people why I'm ____(insert odd behavior here)___.
Anyways, give us an update!