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#1 Old 08-24-2003, 03:27 PM
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I'm so annoyed and confused! I just had a pretty immature and pointless argument with my best friend. A bit of background info. She slept over last night and this morning before she went home she came into the living room with a glass of water and started splashing me and my sister with the water. Ok my parents are away and I thought was a bit of a disrespectful thing for her to do as I was the one who'd have to clean it up and really, you don't do that sorta thing at other people's houses, do ya? Anyway so my sis ran away but she kept doing it and then my sis decided to get revenge and started doing it back. so they were in the kitchen making a mess and the floor is vinyl so it got wet. I was really tired already and loadsa house work to do already...so anyway here;s the conv. PLEASE TELL ME IF I WAS OUTA LINE! OR IF SHE WAS? just tell me exactly what you guys think! I want another view. Thanks!!
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#2 Old 08-24-2003, 03:30 PM
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BTW I am jen and she is the "I see your.."



I see your true colours shining through. says:

sorry for throwin water today-i kno u were annoyed about it

Jen says:

it's ok

Jen says:

was waiting for you to apologise

I see your true colours shining through. says:

how rude

Jen says:

karyn I'm not being rude

I see your true colours shining through. says:

jenny it was only water and it wasnt harming u

Jen says:

You knew it annoyed me, so you should have apologised

Jen says:

yes but I was the one who had to clear it all up

I see your true colours shining through. says:

i didnt understand how u where annoyed?

Jen says:

I had enough other things to clear up in the house

Jen says:

I was tired

Jen says:

So I didn't want more

I see your true colours shining through. says:

I DIDNT ask u to clear it up-i wld hav but chorst was in the kitchen with the water

Jen says:

Well you should have told me that

I see your true colours shining through. says:

JENNY

Jen says:

It doesn't matter now anyway. I accept your apology

I see your true colours shining through. says:

i wld hav cleared it up after

Jen says:

so you said.

I see your true colours shining through. says:

no well i think its rude of u

Jen says:

I also think it was rude of you

Jen says:

so let's just leave it.

Jen says:

I wasn't cross with you, I was just a bit annoyed.

I see your true colours shining through. says:

i dont understand it-it was water

Jen says:

So i see no reason why you should think

Jen says:

i was rude

Jen says:

yes but I was tired and I told you to stop and it was my house and you didn't stop when I asked you to.

I see your true colours shining through. says:

jenny u hav obviously been in a huff with me all day so i think u took it too serious

Jen says:

I don't want to talk about this please, it's in the past, so shush

I see your true colours shining through. says:

ok well then dont talk to me again

Jen says:

no karyn I haven't been. I was fine until then and I wasn't even in a huff / cross then, I was jut a little annoyed

Jen says:

oh don't be so immature of course I want to talk to you

I see your true colours shining through. says:

annoyed over nothin!!!

Jen says:

no, you don't see it how I do so just forget it!

I see your true colours shining through. says:

no well i dont want u to talk to me cuz its plain rude!

Jen says:

I am over it now so get over it too

Jen says:

fine I won't then

I see your true colours shining through. says:

ok!

I see your true colours shining through. says:

im serious about this-its very immature of u to react like this

I see your true colours shining through. says:

bye

Jen says:

I never even did reacty

Jen says:

earlier I just cleared it up. i never acted cross or rude to you karyn.

Jen says:

How did I?

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O yea thats why u hav been in a bad mood all day

I see your true colours shining through. says:

chorst said!

Jen says:

I haven't been in a bad mood!

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BYE

Jen says:

well she's obviously got it wrong then cos im not cross

Jen says:

karyn i am in now way at all in a bad mood

Jen says:

I have no idea where she got that from!

I see your true colours shining through. says:

u hav put me in a very bad mood and i dont want to talk to u and by the way ur sister did take part in it too!

Jen says:

yes i know she did

Jen says:

but im not angry at you, I never was!!

Jen says:

I have no idea why you think I was, and i am not in a bad mood I have had a good day reading and cooking, I haven't been in a bad mood

Jen says:



I see your true colours shining through. says:

well u said u hav been waiting for me to apologise just for droppin sum water on the floor

Jen says:

no karyn I just think that it was a little bit of a disrespectful thing to do

Jen says:

but I wasn't cross

Jen says:

I wouldn't have been cross if you didn't say sorry

Jen says:

but I was glad you did, that's all

I see your true colours shining through. says:

o my word

I see your true colours shining through. says:

ur too sensitive

Jen says:

now just calm down and see my point of view please

I see your true colours shining through. says:

NO

I see your true colours shining through. says:

go away

Jen says:

I could say the same about you

Jen says:

ok then can we agree to disagree

I see your true colours shining through. says:

u r sooo flippin rude

Jen says:

karyn, I am the one being polite here.

I see your true colours shining through. says:

jenny u r very rude without knowing it

Jen says:

well i don't mean to be so I'm sorry

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and by the way explain why u were "annoyed" at me?

Jen says:

but I don't see how i am, I am not cross with you, I never was, so why are you so mad at me?

I see your true colours shining through. says:

u were

I see your true colours shining through. says:

i dont think i can spk to u at all

I see your true colours shining through. says:

u hav made me so mad

Jen says:

I was a bit annoyed because I invited you to stay over at my house and we had a great time and then you spilt water on us and that was fine but then i had enough of it and It was my house, so I thought I had the right to tell you to stop, and I did so, but you didn;t stop and that annoyed me a bit, ok?

Jen says:

well you get mad too easily then cos I'm not mad.

I see your true colours shining through. says:

i did stop!

I see your true colours shining through. says:

jenny u hav been mad all day

Jen says:

I haven't!

Jen says:

you haven't been here all day I am not mad, I haven#'t been AT ALL

I see your true colours shining through. says:

i wld not care if u poured water all over my house it wld be different if it was juice

I see your true colours shining through. says:

i dont believe that for a second

Jen says:

yea but you're not me..you are different..

Jen says:

karyn i am not cross

Jen says:

i haven't been at all today

Jen says:

my sis just thinks i am but im not at all honestly

I see your true colours shining through. says:

well i am becus u put me in a bad mood

I see your true colours shining through. says:

BYE

Jen says:

now you can believe i am cross if you want, but im not

Jen says:

I don't us not to be friends becauyse of this karyn it's ridiculous

I see your true colours shining through. says:

i am not spkin to u again until u giv me an apology becuz it was mean of u

Jen says:

you are the only cross one, I am not cross with you!

I see your true colours shining through. says:

i shudnt hav said sorry

I see your true colours shining through. says:

bye

Jen says:

i already ssaid sorry



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i already ssaid sorry



Jen says:

further up

Jen says:

i already ssaid sorry



I see your true colours shining through. says:

u make us fall out over simple thing

I see your true colours shining through. says:

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bye

Jen says:

well i am sorry again, if you took my way of dealing with this the wrong way. I didn;'t mean to be rude to you but I am not cross with yuo and I NEVER was!

Jen says:

no karyn, I do not make us fall out, there has to be two to make us fall out, you cannot entirely blame me.

Jen says:

now, I've apologised can you accept that?

I see your true colours shining through. says:

well i said sorry and u said i was waiting for that apology all day

I see your true colours shining through. says:

THat was rude u didnt need to say that

I see your true colours shining through. says:

u cld hav just said thanks

I see your true colours shining through. says:

or sumthin

I see your true colours shining through. says:

and by the way im not laffin

I see your true colours shining through. says:

u r probably but im not

I see your true colours shining through. says:

u hav hurt me

Jen says:

yea I said It's okay

Jen says:

I said I was wating for you to say sorry which I was..I just hoped you would say sorry that's all

Jen says:

im sorry if it was rude

Jen says:

It didn't sound rude to me!

Jen says:

and no karyn i am not laughing

Jen says:

I don't see how I have hurt you but sorry!

I see your true colours shining through. says:

well i think its very silly cuz i mean ur big sis was involved in it too and she was chasing me with the water and i said ok lets stop now and she stood there with the water and kept splashin me

I see your true colours shining through. says:

thanks for ruining my day

Jen says:

yes I know. I am also waiting for her to apologise, but I know she won't

Jen says:

cos she never does for things she does.

Jen says:

I am not cross with her or you, I have been nice to her all day, I made her tea for her and all.

I see your true colours shining through. says:

but jenny it wasnt ur problem-we dont need to say sorry to u! u werent in charge

Jen says:

so..sorry karyn if i upset you and sorry for being rude or whatever i didn't mean it at all, right now i have things to do so i better go, and you can decide whether you want to accept my apoglogy and realise how silly this argument has been. I;'ll talk to you later

Jen says:

I am more in charge that my sis cos i do the house work. she doesn';t really.

I see your true colours shining through. says:

no but i dont need to say sorry to u

I see your true colours shining through. says:

it shud be to ur sis

I see your true colours shining through. says:

if anyone

I see your true colours shining through. says:

not u
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#3 Old 08-24-2003, 03:32 PM
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Jen says:

If you don't need to say sorry to me, can I ask why you did earlier then?

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becuz i knew u were annoyed!

Jen says:

but the thing is karyn, I was not actually annoyed.

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and can i ask why u expected me to?

I see your true colours shining through. says:

im sure u were cuz ur sis said u were in a bad mood all day

Jen says:

nope

Jen says:

she's got it wrong

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im goin bye



Well if you've got this far in this post then wow your eye's must be sore!! thanks for reading! ha!
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#4 Old 08-24-2003, 04:07 PM
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ok I just realised how very massive that thread was soo..I'm not really expecting anyone to read or reply. But feel free to if you are REALLY bored!
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#5 Old 08-26-2003, 05:41 AM
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[personally, i find the repitition of "i see your true colors" as annoying. It holds no real meaning, you don't explain it, and it seems snotty and like you're trying to incite her or manipulate a certain reaction.



it's probably enough to say "you annoyed me, here's why, please don't do it again." and then accept her apology. The rest is unnecessary and only breeds resentment.



think about why you kept doing it. If you kept doing it to make her angry or for some revenge purpose, then obviously it was going to cause suffering or anguish. Since this is harmful to her and your relationship, why do it? If you want peace, you have to act peaceful.
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hehe oh sorry maybe I should have made it more clear that "I see your true colours shining through" was my friend's user name. We've sorted out the problem now and made up anyway
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hehe oh sorry maybe I should have made it more clear that "I see your true colours shining through" was my friend's user name. We've sorted out the problem now and made up anyway





ah! my bad! i'm glad that it sorted itself out!
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my honest opinion is... It was just water, if its water i couldnt care less. it evaporates and goes away. now if there was papers u didnt want wet, well thats a different story. over reaction if water
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my honest opinion is... It was just water, if its water i couldnt care less. it evaporates and goes away. now if there was papers u didnt want wet, well thats a different story. over reaction if water

Nah I dont agree with that! Even though its water its still going to make a mess! And it can make the carpet go funny..

If it were me I would have been rather annoyed...

Especially since you were the one that had to clean it up...

I think you handled that conversation with your friend well..

And it seems she was over reacting...

Well thats just my opinion!

Im glad you've sorted it out!
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thanks guys!! hehehe...me and her do argue a lot so, it was just another silly argument really.
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Couple months late but hey. Whatever. Haha. I think its obvious, but I find it rude that she was splashing water all over the place. Its not that its water, but its more of her lack of respect for being in someone elses house, and not even noticing. She is the one who blew it out of porportion, not you. Dont worry. May I ask what "cross" means? I really have no clue.
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oh my goodness, were we supposed to read that whole entire conversation all over splashed water? Sorry, I know I'm being insensitive. But since you've made up and it's 4 months later and I'm sure the water's dry now, I found it found it funny in hindsight. Glad all is well, hope you're still friends. Moral of the story, don't cry over spilled milk, or water. Anyways, Cross = upset...
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I dont think its just crying over spilled water, its that she was doing it and she told her to stop, and she didnt, pretty rude considering she wasnt in her own house, and it wasnt her property, and she didnt even clean it up. Thanks for the cross clarification.
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Exactly. Even if there was no mess to clean up, the friend still disrespected Veganmuncher by not obeying her request to stop. When you're in someone else's house, it's their choice what happens in said house, and if you don't like it, you should leave.
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People shouldn't have such long user names.
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I was foolish enough to read it. Skimmed the last parts tho. Least they made up.

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Exactly. Even if there was no mess to clean up, the friend still disrespected Veganmuncher by not obeying her request to stop. When you're in someone else's house, it's their choice what happens in said house, and if you don't like it, you should leave



agree. I would've gotten mad if my friend done that. But I cool quickly. It's not that its just water its not respecting the host when she said stop.
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