I am curious about other people's experiences with dating, especially things like where you've met any vegetarians/vegans in real life, as well as any experiences with dating clubs/online dating/boards, etc.
I've been out of the loop for almost 10 years now, and am going through a very ugly divorce. Obviously as I have no idea how long this will drag out, i'm not in any position to date right now... but even if I was, I wouldn't really know how to go about it.
Although my soon-to-be-ex (I hope!) is vegan, it's about the only thing we have in common, as I'm a pretty strict vegetarian who occasionally eats cheese. He has some pretty severe personality disorders (NPD, BPD), which he refuses to get help for, and has affected everything. I have 2 vegetarian boys, 6 & 8, and can't imagine really dating as a vegetarian, much less with kids. While I do have friends that are not vegetarian, they're pretty cool about it, since I'm the only one who cooks- and they'll eat whatever they didn't have to cook, lol. Any personal relationship would absolutely have to be with a vegetarian, as I'm turned off physically by people who aren't
Because there are few, if any, vegetarians where we live, I can't see that at some point I'd just 'run into' anyone to date... so I'm assuming the only other option is dating services online? There's no possibility that I could start off with anyone who isn't already vegetarian- although all of my previous relationships (besides this one, and it was one of the biggest reasons we even got involved to begin with) were with 'friends'...who became vegetarians as a requirement to date. As far as I know, they are all still vegetarian... but where I'm at now in life, and with 2 children, I don't think I'd have the patience to work with someone who isn't already vegetarian, like I did in the past.
I guess I'm trying to gauge how difficult it will be to 'begin' dating once I'm single again, if/when I feel ready to. I don't have a problem staying single, and I'm not even sure I'll want to.... to be honest, I wouldn't even qualify what's been going on with my ex for years as being a 'relationship'... so I'm not really worried that I'll have to deal with any of that 'rebounding' divorced people have to be careful about. It would be nice, though, to just accidentally run across some great vegetarian person, and have them be the 'right' person to start something up with... but think the odds are slim to none.
That would mean the only other option would be to be 'actively' seeking a partner by getting into all the online dating clubs, right? Or is there some other way to go about being open to it, and to be 'in the right place at the right time'? The few online dating services seem like a lot of work- like dedicating a lot of time committing to the effort. Maye I'm just lazy in wanting someone to just 'fall into my lap' after a while?
I'd appreciate hearing stories of how/when you met your partner, or if you've done any kind of online dating, how your experience went.
Because of the situation I'm in now, and the fact that at this point I'm not even sure I want to get involved with anyone soon, it would be nice to just find some online friends (M/F) to chat with, be entertained by... that preferably are vegetarian... not so important for 'friends', but I've been a vegetarian for so long that I don't get much enjoyment in debating vegetarian issues, which non-vegs seem to like so much.
I've rambled on too much, I'm sure, so I'll end this by saying that I'd like to hear any stories/experiences other vegetarians can share regarding relationships.