I spent WAY too much time with someone who really wanted something entirely different in life and in a relationship than I did. What I learned is I will not do that again just because it is...hmmm...easier to explain than I'm single with a child and not terribly interested in finding Mr. Right (or wrong) at the moment.
I'm enourmously happy to be alone right now. I have my daughter of course, but I mean no romantic relationship.
We are really taught to believe that we NEED something else. That we can't be entirely complete if it's just us. That there has to be SOMEONE in our lives at all times, or if not, it's because we're nuts or something's wrong. I just drove for two days through the mountains listening to various easy listening stations...and country, rock...etc etc. All of which say the same thing. "I am not complete by myself. I really need you to make me happy."
In two such songs the men offered to do EVERYTHING for the woman. One man wanted to choose a lady and buy her clothes, give her credit cards, put her up in an apartment...take her out to eat, get her nails done, her hair done, get her a car, a yacht, and finally (of course) lay her down.
In another such song the man isn't nearly as eloquent, but more to the point. "Here's some money."--literally. I nearly drove off the road laughing and Madison yelled from the back seat, "What's so funny?"
So here we are, willing to beg/steal/borrow/buy our way into some nookie and a reprieve from alone. But I have to say, that I spent some of the loneliest years of my life so far, as a married woman. Yet surprisingly, as a single mother, I don't seem to feel lonely at all. Alone occasionally, but not lonely.
Thus my current philosophy, "It's not enough to have someone around, just to have someone around."