ohhhhh.. wonderful people... thank you zillions for your opinions and time. I love to hear what you guys have to say. And.. kids... don't be fighting with each other now...specially over me
(heheh... just kidddding!)
Well, taking all your suggestions together, I confronted him a second time. The first time, he simply apologized for keeping me out of the loop and said, it was a last minute plan and that while he was running errands they had spoken (don't know who called who yet) and made plans to meet up cos she cancelled out on the plans the night before. Well, she didn't know I was going to be there that night so her cancelling her plans had nothing to do with me.. she had been driving for 3 hours and was too tired. Apparently.
So I was upset and my imagination was running wild as to why he hadn't told me. so I told him that my mind is still not at ease by yesterday's events and that I felt like he was being sneeky. He said, the main reason he didn't tell me was cos he KNEW I would get upset & angry. Which I responded by saying that, more than making me angry, it hurt and me made me distrust him. So he apologized for making me feel that way and guranteed me another thousand times that their relationship was over 3 years ago and that I have nothing to worry about. He also asked me what I wanted him to do, and I said, in the future, that I would like to atleast know or be included in any of their plans together. Which he agreeded to.
Then to seize my insecurities, he said all sorts of cute stuff like how I've been his best friend this last year and how he always thought of me first when things come up, and all sorts of soppy stuff, that actually put my mind at ease
He's a good boy and I know he was being genuine.
The good news is...I do know for a fact (or do I???
) that he has told me the other times they've met up and stuff they talk about. The bad news is this ex girl friend who for the last 4 years lived in the east cost is from today onwards coming back home to California and the same city we're in FOR GOOD!!!!! yeah, sure made my day knowing that!
Apparently he didn't know that until yesterday either and thought she was in town just for a few days as usual and wanted to say hi before she left and that's why he met up with her...
OKay.. did you guys really want to know all this information about my little drama episode?? I try to keep my life 'drama free' as much as possible but ones in a while they just creep up. But either way... just wanted to say thank you everyone.. and I think the boy and I have resolved this and can move forward. It feels much better that we worked it out than being obsessed over this and being miserable.
Communication really is the key.