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#1 Old 05-31-2005, 08:06 AM
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I know I don't really post on here that often. i am more of a reader. I just wanted to tell everyone that my father has passed. I just needed some kind words. Thank you all for listening.

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#2 Old 05-31-2005, 08:28 AM
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I am very, very, sorry to hear that. I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you right now. Hang in there and take time to grieve.
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I am so sorry.

You have my condolences.
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#5 Old 05-31-2005, 08:44 AM
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My deepest sympathies to you and your loved ones.

My best friend lost her father 2 years ago. Its very, very hard. But I can honestly say that time does heal. It was very, very hard on her, but in time, the happy memories can come without the hurt. I hope that you find strength in the love of the people around you. Please take care and if you need to talk more, we are listening.

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I am so sorry to hear about your father. My thoughts are with you.
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#7 Old 05-31-2005, 09:05 AM
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Thank you all, It has been a long time coming. He was suppossed to die 30 years ago, but he has held on much longer.
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#8 Old 05-31-2005, 10:25 AM
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My condolences. So sorry for your loss.
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#9 Old 05-31-2005, 10:34 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear that - you have my deepest sympathies for your loss.
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#10 Old 05-31-2005, 03:49 PM
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I am sorry for your loss.
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Oh Corey

lots of hugs and strength your way. I'm sorry to hear about your father

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I'm so sorry for your loss. If you'd like recommendations of books about how to navigate the grieving process I've been reading some good ones lately.
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#13 Old 05-31-2005, 04:02 PM
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Oh no...

I am very sorry to hear this. I lost my father 2.5 years ago in a car accident, and it really rocked my sense of stability in the world.

Here is something that a friend of mine told me about the grieving process, that made me feel a bit better.

At first, your life is a shotglass, and your grief is a golf ball. Your life isn't even big enough to contain the huge size of your grief.

As time goes by, your glass gets a bit larger. It becomes a juice glass, and finally that ball of grief can just barely be contained. There isn't a whole lot of room for anything else yet, though.

More time goes by, and now your glass is even larger. That ball of grief is the same size, but now there's a little room around it for movement.

Yet more time goes by, and now your life is a pint glass, and the ball of grief is still there, but now there is a whole depth of your life that has filled in around it.

As time continues to pass, your life grows larger and larger. That ball of grief is always there, it is always the same size, and it never goes away. But that's okay, because you grow around it, you get used to it, and you learn to carry on with it still there.

I don't know if that will help you any...it did help me to realize that I never *would* get over this grief, that I will always carry it around with me. It let me get rid of the stress of trying to recover from it and let me just feel how I feel without trying to change it. I think I've probably reached pint glass stage now, lol. My life *has* grown. It WILL get better.

I wish you comfort and blessings. These days will be hard, but they will get easier in time.

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I'm so sorry.

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I'm sorry for your loss

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Coop, that's a really apt metaphor. Thanks for posting it.
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#18 Old 05-31-2005, 10:40 PM
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I am really sorry for your loss. Losing the parent of the opposite sex is often the harder loss. Both of my parents died in the '90s.

One thing that I found helpful was a grief therapy seminar offered by a local church. It allowed me to learn about the grief process and to share experiences with other people who were grieving. In other words, it was a support group as well as a class. I hope you can find something similar in your community.

One book that was often mentioned during the course was Therese Rando's

How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies.

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I'm very sorry for your loss.
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#20 Old 06-01-2005, 12:19 AM
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That was really beautiful Coop.

I am so very sorry for your loss Sxyveggie,I will pray for comfort and love in your time of need.I hope you are surrounded by friends and family and memories of your Dad.I cant imagine what you are going though right now,but know you are not alone.Biggest Huggs to you you Hun (((((huggs))))))
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I am so sorry.
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#22 Old 06-01-2005, 04:05 AM
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I'm so sorry.

I wont try and say that I know how you feel, because grief is different for every person, but I remember when my mum died how I felt. It is difficult, and I'm sure this post isn't very comforting at the moment, but in a while it will begin to get better.

Again, I'm sorry.
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i, too, am sorry for your loss. I have not lost my parents yet, but i am aware of their mortality. It certainly scares and upsets me.

I wish you all the best in this grief process.
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#24 Old 06-01-2005, 10:46 AM
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Thank you all for your kind words and your thoughts, the funeral is friday, so it will be hard again. At this moment i am coping fine.
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#25 Old 06-01-2005, 11:20 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. My parents have both died. I'm glad you are alright now. The funeral may be emotionally hard, but maybe a good closure. Peace and blessings for you.
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Soo sorry to hear about your loss sxyveggie... Don't know what to say.... just take care of your self and stay close to those that you love.

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#27 Old 06-01-2005, 04:04 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss

I lost my father 6 months ago, I can understand how hard this must be for you.

My thoughts are with you.
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