i started liking one of my friends (he's not a close friend, he's just a normal friend). I'm not really sure how long I have liked him. I just realized on thursday I had a small crush on him. I was on a band trip over the weekend and was hanging out with 4 people. 2 guys, 2 girls. One of the guys and I were clicking in a friendly way. One of the nights we were there the other guy told one of the girls that he thought the guy liked me, and it dawned on me that he was probably right. He ended up sitting by me on the bus ride home so we talked a lot. There were small seats so we were touching a lot, and i sort of liked it. I guess I was sort of starting to get a crush on him also. Band the next day was a free period and the guy and the two girls and I hung out in the same area. I started being able to see myself actually liking him, Ryan. I don't really know him that well because he goes to the other high school in our school district. The girls go to the same school and said he is really nice, and cool. On monday the first guy Matt was really flirty, and friendly, and my crush on him got bigger. I didn't really talk to Ryan the next day in band but I saw him looking at me a few times. That is what has gone one with him pretty much all week, where as the other guy Matt (who I am almost positive likes me) has been all flirty and stuff. It seems like it would be an obvious choice, pick the first guy. But from my past experience I have learned I never stay friends with my ex's, and since Matt is one of my friends I would hate to see that happen. With Ryan I wasn't really friends with him so I wouldn't really care if we weren't friends afterwords. I am afraid that I will lead both of them on, then one of them will ask me out, and I would end up feeling like I had been playing the other one, or realize I had been acting like i liked the guy, then realized I didn't like him when he asked me out. I still sort of knew with this whole guy thing, and I have never liked 2 guys at once and had both of them liking me also. How do you guys choose? I have made the whole pro and con list for both of them. Matt did have the most pro's but I am terrified about loosing him as a friend if it didn't work out.