You have to hear RedWingsFan's point, though. Ignoring those who oppose you will only lead to continued polarization, rather than finding common ground that everyone can live with.
Personally, I'm in favor of civil unions. Honestly, I was "married" in what amounted to a civil union. I think of marriage as primarily a religious institution. My bond to my wife is a legal one recognized by the state, with a Humanist service conducted on the beach in the presence of my family. No Church, no God, etc. I think everyone should be allowed this right so they can share the same rights as heterosexual couples do. If you don't want to call it marriage, I couldn't care less, because we're talking about an institution as opposed to rights. So, while I'm in favor of gay marriage, I'm perfectly happy with civil unions with all the equivalent rights, and to call all "marriages" civil unions in the eyes of the government, saving marriage as either a religious bond over and above the civil ceremony, or (and) a simple term of usage. Calling someone civilly united is weird and cumbersome, and joined gay couples are likely to be called married, even if their official status in the eyes of the government is not worded that way (which is why I think all couples, gay or straight, should use the same terminology within the government's scope). Over time, gay couples will simply be called "married," because it's just easier, and no one will split hairs anymore.