I became tangled up in an online "relationship" with someone. I had met him on LiveJournal through a forum we were involved in and he started commenting on my journal entries. We became friends. We remained friends for six years, but over time we began to get more involved. It was not a romantic type of relationship. But I felt emotionally wrapped up in this person and found myself thinking about him all the time, and he was trying to help me through a rough patch in life, but the more I learned about him, the more I suspected he had a very serious mental illness. He didn't ever tell me much about his life, but I put pieces together from what he shared. Sometimes things got too intense and I shut him out a few times, only to allow him back in later. I was too invested and emotionally attached. Then one day he left Livejournal altogether without warning. Deleted his account. He never told me, didn't say goodbye. Just left. I had his personal email from exchanges we had had so I emailed him to see what was going on but never heard back and I suspect he changed his email. It hurt really badly for a long time, and I am still not completely over it. That's the thing about online stuff. This guy is from England, halfway around the world from me. It is easy to erase people from your life this way, online. But it can have a tremendous impact on a person's emotions and thoughts etc. I never though one could become so attached to others online, or that online relationships could be so intense and affect a person so much. But they really can. The strange thing is I have never even seen a photo of this guy in the six years I knew him online. I had no idea what he looked like other than he gave me some general stats and his age. Everything I knew was through words.
Be very careful with online relationships, especially if you are in a vulnerable state.
That said, my Dad was involved in a long distance relationships with someone. They wrote back and forth for years, had only seen eachother twice through mutual friends. Eventually they got married and she immigrated from Canada to the U.S. and now they live together happily for the last twelve years.
In the end, only kindness matters. - Jewel
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