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#1 Old 12-14-2015, 05:20 PM
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I need to get this off my chest. My brother is an avid omnivore. He eats burgers and fries almost every day. He also eats bacon for breakfast. He makes fun of me when I get upset (I don't say anything, but I tend to avoid him) and calls me self-righteous even when I make factual arguments.

I get very emotional, but I don't rant. I merely make a statement (something like it's better for the environment or for your health). He just says that "it tastes good". If my father (also a vegan) or I make a vegan meal, he wont eat it. He also burps all the time.

Last night, I made a meal for us, but he didn't eat it and ate cookies instead. I had to eat alone. I don't know what to do, but his behavior really upsets me and I feel like I need to vent.
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Although I don't know how old your brother is, he sure doesn't seem very mature. That being the case, don't engage him! You know he's going to tease and goad you into arguments, so don't take the bait. Refuse to discuss it - he's just looking for a way to bug you. (That's what brother do really well - especially when they're immature!)

But, also don't let him spoil your fun! You've made a decision to follow a path that means something to you - you should enjoy this time!!! Learn to make some really wonderful dishes for you and your father, and don't expect your brother to be impressed - he won't be. Just keep cooking, keep learning and keep true to what you know to be right. One day, your brother will respect you - he might never go vegan, but he'll respect how you stood your ground, and took control of your life.

Most of us live with or have to deal with omnis on a regular basis. In my experience, they won't change just because you change, they have to have a change of heart too. I hope your brother does, but you have to realize that it's likely he won't. So don't let it make you unhappy.

It is our choices that show what we truly are far more than our abilities. ~A. Dumbledore
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Your brother sounds insufferable. Maybe this is something that will improve with time. Until then, concentrate on yourself. Don't offer him meals, don't engage, and and come up with a succinct, sharp statement to shut him up whenever he won't leave you alone-- something about his eating corpses, maybe. Something gross and off-putting but 100% true. You could also switch on video of a slaughterhouse while he's eating breakfast, if you want to fight immaturity with immaturity. 👿
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Although I don't know how old your brother is, he sure doesn't seem very mature. That being the case, don't engage him! You know he's going to tease and goad you into arguments, so don't take the bait. Refuse to discuss it - he's just looking for a way to bug you. (That's what brother do really well - especially when they're immature!)

But, also don't let him spoil your fun! You've made a decision to follow a path that means something to you - you should enjoy this time!!! Learn to make some really wonderful dishes for you and your father, and don't expect your brother to be impressed - he won't be. Just keep cooking, keep learning and keep true to what you know to be right. One day, your brother will respect you - he might never go vegan, but he'll respect how you stood your ground, and took control of your life.

Most of us live with or have to deal with omnis on a regular basis. In my experience, they won't change just because you change, they have to have a change of heart too. I hope your brother does, but you have to realize that it's likely he won't. So don't let it make you unhappy.
You're right. I'll just have to focus on what I'm doing. I wanted him to like my food, but I don't think he will come around in that regard. Thank you for the advice.

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Your brother sounds insufferable. Maybe this is something that will improve with time. Until then, concentrate on yourself. Don't offer him meals, don't engage, and and come up with a succinct, sharp statement to shut him up whenever he won't leave you alone-- something about his eating corpses, maybe. Something gross and off-putting but 100% true. You could also switch on video of a slaughterhouse while he's eating breakfast, if you want to fight immaturity with immaturity. 👿
Haha, I don't think he would be happy about the video. Yeah, I'll just say I wont talk about it and leave if he doesn't take the hint. Thanks.

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Great advice. I plan on it.
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