This is a rant...My brother (37) and I (33) have become close over the past couple of years. So close in fact that when his fiancee left him, my dogs and I opened our tiny home to he and his dog for six months free of charge. When he and his ex were settling their jointly owned property equity, I co-signed on his loan so he could qualify on his own for the house and pay her out. All of this I gladly did, because he's my brother and was in a difficult situation, and was hurting. I've taken days off work to help him do plumbing repairs and hang a 12'x14' drywall ceiling because it caved in from the bathroom leak above. I have watched his dog so he could go out of town without the extra expense. I took him to Las Vegas for Christmas. A couple of months ago I asked him if he wanted to go with me to see the Dead shows that were within driving distance from our town. The answer was yes, so I bought the tickets (8) total ~ 4 shows, and booked hotel rooms for the 4 nights. I'm thinking "cool, our little summer get away/reunion". So the shows start this coming weekend (8/7-8 and 8/13-14) and for two weeks I've been calling to say "hey dude, if you're still going with me maybe we should talk, if not, let me know so I can try to sell the tix before I hit the road". He calls last night, after I called him 3 times yesterday and says "bad news, I'm not going" and offers a very lame excuse. I wanted to SCREAM. I've got $ tied up in tickets and hotel reservations set up. In all fairness, he's helped me out quite a bit in my life, don't get me wrong. I do things because he's my bro, and he's family. I don't expect anything from him but common courtesy. Am I being unreasonable?