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#1 Old 08-21-2014, 01:10 AM
 
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Cool Coming out as a vegetarian vs Coming out as gay

I've done one of these things (the vegetarian one).I know someday I will have to do the other one.But what I'm asking you is which one do you think is harder?Personally I think coming out as gay is much harder.Mostly because sexuality is a very personal thing, its who you love.
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I think it largely depends where you live. I don't personally know anyone who would care about someone being gay in my hometown. However during my time in japan I have heard people say that it would be gross to have a gay friend. I don't really understand why but that's just the way it is there.
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Coming out is a very personal thing and can be difficult or easy depending upon circles moved in and family "politics".
In some professions and social scenes being both gay and vegetarian is a definite plus whereas there are huge áreas where both are seen as positively outlandish and not to be tolerated.
Only you will know if coming out as homosexual is going to be easy or difficult. I wish you well if and when you make the decisión.

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I'm vegan, and my brother is gay. From what I can tell, coming out as gay is harder initially, because it's more of a "shock" for those you tell. Long-term though, it seems homosexuals have a lot more support that only gets stronger with time. Whereas coming out as vegan, people aren't really phased at all at first, but gradually become more and more defensive rather than supportive. Atleast that's my experience.

So yes, I would say for the "coming out" part, gay would be harder. But the hard part (in terms of how your loved ones act around you, not your own internal challenges, that I can't speak for) doesn't last long.

Best of luck!! Never stop being true to yourself!
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I'd say coming out as bi to a conservative Catholic family very concerned with health was a billion times harder. My personal anxiety and the initial reactions were the worst parts, but now- afterwards and in the long term- I felt soooo much better afterwards. Even the occasional freak-out by a parent that happens "OMG IS SHE A GIRLFRIEND GIRLFRIEND OF YOURS?" (and at this point I'm married to a guy, monogamous) really doesn't phase me because it's now their problem to have with an aspect of me, it's not my problem with an aspect of me that I'm carrying around.
I will say after I came out, I wasn't running around telling them every time I went on a date with a girl or a guy or any of that- I keep my personal life very personal. I also tell very few people I'm eating vegan foods, so I haven't had any facebook freakouts after posting a pro-vegan photo or anything like that.
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I'm vegan, and my brother is gay. From what I can tell, coming out as gay is harder initially, because it's more of a "shock" for those you tell. Long-term though, it seems homosexuals have a lot more support that only gets stronger with time. Whereas coming out as vegan, people aren't really phased at all at first, but gradually become more and more defensive rather than supportive. Atleast that's my experience.

So yes, I would say for the "coming out" part, gay would be harder. But the hard part (in terms of how your loved ones act around you, not your own internal challenges, that I can't speak for) doesn't last long.

Best of luck!! Never stop being true to yourself!
I always thought it was odd that people reacted more to being vegetarian than being gay.I mean it is a good thing that people are more accepting of loving who you choose to love.It just shows that that little things like not eating meat can tip off some/most people.
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I am a vegan with a son who also happens to be gay. I live in the southern United States. Coming out as either can be difficult here. I must say though that I am very lucky that in spite of their conservative bent, all my family is extremely supportive and vocal where LGBTA issues are concerned. You want my redneck brother to kick your arse? Say something about his gay nephew.
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I am a vegan with a son who also happens to be gay. I live in the southern United States. Coming out as either can be difficult here. I must say though that I am very lucky that in spite of their conservative bent, all my family is extremely supportive and vocal where LGBTA issues are concerned. You want my redneck brother to kick your arse? Say something about his gay nephew.
It's always awesome to have a supportive family.
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