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#1 Old 01-22-2013, 09:16 PM
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My brother's birthday was earlier this month (January), and we have: 1 egg allergy, 2 lactose intolerants, 1 soy allergy and 1 gluten allergy. I made my brtoher a white cake with white frosting (his choice) and his wife asked if it was a gluten free vegan cake--it was. She declined a piece, although I suspect it's because her sister and her sister's fiancee both are gluten free vegans by choice (it's trendy--??), rather than allergies, and their relationship (My SIL and her sister) has always been...roller coaster up and down. How do I handle it in the future that my brother doesn't miss out on family functions, and everyone gets to participate, and my SIL isn't such a pain in the...


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#2 Old 01-22-2013, 09:29 PM
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I don't understand the problem.
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Well at a birthday it's the good time you pass with your loved ones that is important, not that everyone eat a piece of cake. Too bad for her if she refused.

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Well at a birthday it's the good time you pass with your loved ones that is important, not that everyone eat a piece of cake. Too bad for her if she refused.

This. If there are allergies involved especially, there is little you can do. I'm sure the cake was delicious, too bad she let nutty prejudices stop her from trying.
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Well, gluten-free cake might not be to her liking. She has probably tried it before due to her knowing the other gluten-free family. Sometimes people want to save 'treat foods' for something they'd really like. I know I hold out for vegan chocolate personally. grin.gif
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Make something raw with nuts, seeds, fruit.

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#7 Old 01-23-2013, 09:03 AM
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Make something raw with nuts, seeds, fruit.

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I have kind of the same issue, I have family members who refuse to eat things at family events just because they are stubborn, don't let it bother you, if the birthday boy liked it, that's all that matters
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Your sister in law can refuse to eat something without having to explain herself. You also can refuse to eat something without having to explain yourself. I'm sure most of we vegetarians have refused certain foods - I know I have. The polite thing for you to do is simply accept her refusal and serve the people who want some of your cake.
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#10 Old 01-23-2013, 04:43 PM
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All right. Thanks,you guys. It's just too bad...perhaps she did have something Gluten free and not to her liking (trust me, GF is hard to do). She was polite about her refusal, just...I try to do a good job so everyone can enjoy dessert, and was sorry she didn't want any.

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