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#1 Old 06-16-2011, 05:24 PM
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I'm living with my sister in a new city. I'm not sure I fully realised how difficult it will be to live with her. I feel she's condescending and overly-critical - undermining my much-needed confidence to get out and start over. I gave up lots of really close friends in order to move country. Now, I know only family here.

I'm living in Vancouver - i've been before and I could quite easily live here (it's a great city when people aren't rioting in it...) I wish I could find new people.

I'm not sure what to do.
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#2 Old 06-16-2011, 05:29 PM
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This sounds silly, but it is something that I can offer...
Take cooking classes, go for walks in a park, or around the city. Volunteer for things that interest you. If you have a job there strike up conversations with co workers. I would suggest bars and clubs and nightlife, but in my experience, you don't tend to find people you'd want to really get to know in these places. Of course not everyone is bad by any means! Again, its just in my experience. Don't be shy! Get out of the house! It doesn't seem like you want to be there anyway with the way your sister is treating you. And I am sorry for that. I know it must be rough. But just put your self out there. It is hard, uncomfortable, and can make you feel volunerable, but it will be worth it and help you to meet new people!
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I'm glad to see you back!

I agree with the notion that you should get out of the house as much as possible. Explore your new surroundings, go to museums, sit at cafes and read, even if you're by yourself. You won't meet anybody sitting at home.

What is your day-to-day life like there? Are you working? Taking classes?
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Try a new sport. I know curling is big in Canada, give it a whirl. Try meetup.com. There should be several meetups involving anything and everything you can think of. Join a church, temple, synagog, etc. My mother belongs to a senior center, and that's one thing they asked her. Not "what religion are you?" but "Do you have a support system in case you need one?" Good luck with everything, and I hope you enjoy Vancouver. Sorry about the Stanley Cup.

Anytime I think I'm perfect, I remember that my cousin lives on an island, and I've never walked over to visit her.
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#5 Old 06-16-2011, 11:27 PM
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Veg Fest is this Sunday! Come on down and meet some people!

http://www.vegfestvancouver.com/

"If we could live happy and healthy lives without harming others... why wouldn't we?" - Edgars Mission
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#6 Old 06-17-2011, 07:48 AM
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Oh yeah, you should hang out with Werewolf Girl!
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#7 Old 06-17-2011, 05:33 PM
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Thanks for the encouragement. I think it's just a lumped-together cocktail of new changes. I think i'll be fine - I highly appreciate the support. I passed my university degree with a 2:1 today - A big weight off my mind. Now I can explore the city as suggested.

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Take cooking classes, go for walks in a park, or around the city.

This helped!

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I'm glad to see you back!

Thanks, it's been a while. I'm taking classes but not for a while.

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Veg Fest is this Sunday! Come on down and meet some people!

http://www.vegfestvancouver.com/

This is a really great idea - I might just do!
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I wanna go to Vegfest, but I'm on the island and I'm working sunday

Also, you'll be included as soon as you complain about the riots
Oh, and try the Foundation on 7th and Main. Not very great service, but the food there's pretty decent, and not so expensive. I recommend, if you haven't tried. If you have and it wasn't your type, then, well, nevermind
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I'm sorry you're feeling this way! I've missed you. There's a lot of good advice here.

"Yes! Live! Life's a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death!" Auntie Mame
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There's a lot of good advice here.

There is! I'm feeling a lot more positive.
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