Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Lovettsville, VA and Portland, OR
I think that in online dating, nobody has access to the things about you that are truly amazing, the things that really drew in the last guy who fell in love with you. Words and pics on screen can tell you a lot, but they can't get at the real stuff. So when someone online acts like they think you're amazing, they're really just signaling how badly they want to be with somebody. Relationships that begin online are so disposable, people bail far earlier than they normally would, and for trivial reasons. It's not like you're best moves didn't work, you never got that far. So often they are done before they start. An online breakup should never mess you up as bad or for as long as a real-world breakup might. You don't sound messed up about this, but it's possible to be, it's just unnecessary. Despite the red flags, I think it's smart to put being vegan upfront, it scares off the guys it should be scaring off, and clears the deck for the real possibilities.