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#1 Old 02-27-2011, 09:46 PM
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I just made an online profile for a vegan dating website. I have never made an online thing like this before. I always though online dating was for desperate people and I could always meet someone in person - esp at my age (I'm 21). However after 2 years of the duds looking for one night stands at bars I'm out of ideas, also out of patience lol. Does making this profile scream "desperate"?

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#2 Old 02-27-2011, 09:57 PM
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No. Just inquisitive. Nothing wrong with that.

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Nope! I have signed up for a few sights in the past.

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#4 Old 02-27-2011, 11:45 PM
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I've also been on a dating site for a year or so (I'm 23) but I've stopped my profile because for me the cliché proved true: people on dating sites are all disordered in some way (what does this say about me lol). I met some people there, even my ex-boyfriend, but let's just say he isn't my ex now without reason.

However ofcourse this doesn't have to go for every dating site, and I hope you can find what you seek. It's always worth giving it a try.

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#5 Old 02-28-2011, 02:05 AM
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Having an online profile doesn't make you desperate, it just widens your horizons!

I met my DH online, and it's our 9 year anniversary next month. Its the same month as his 6 month veg anniversary too.
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Online dating is not desperate. It's just another way to meet people.

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I've been online dating for a while and I know what you mean - there's definitely still a bit of a stigma attached. But hey, everybody you'll meet online is online dating too, so it's not like they'll judge you for it! I've actually had really good experiences online. I've had a lot of first dates that didn't go anywhere, but all with interesting, normal guys that I never would have met otherwise, and I've had a few things that have developed into longer term relationships or at least good friendships.

Of course, I've also had creepy messages from total losers, but as long as you don't engage with those ones (and always meet for the first time in a public place), you should be fine.
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not desperate at all. It's just another way to meet people. I dated someone I met online for 2 years. It didn't work out but he's a great guy. Good luck and have fun!

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Thanks guys =] i feel better about signing up to the site now. And all your experiences meeting people are good inspiration that I will meet someone.

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imho it's not that much different than meeting people in the flesh. You're going to meet morons, but you're also going to meet some great people. The difference is that you initially meet through a computer. And to be honest, I've met a lot stranger people in person than I have online.

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Well i'm hoping if they get to know mw online first they will be less likely to sleep with me once or twice then bail. I'm just sick of people only wanting in my pants.

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people on dating sites are all disordered in some way

People who go to bars and clubs are also all disordered in some way. I think worse.
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Well i'm hoping if they get to know mw online first they will be less likely to sleep with me once or twice then bail. I'm just sick of people only wanting in my pants.

No, you don't hope they get to know you, you MAKE them fall in love with you first, and then you let them in your pants! Then there's no bailing cos they come to the realisation that they just can't live without you.

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I've done the online thing.


The best lay I've ever had (sorry DF[iance]) was from a date online.

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#15 Old 02-28-2011, 09:50 AM
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No, you don't hope they get to know you, you MAKE them fall in love with you first, and then you let them in your pants! Then there's no bailing cos they come to the realisation that they just can't live without you.

I like the sounds of that

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People who go to bars and clubs are also all disordered in some way. I think worse.

Exactly and I'm sick of it!

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People who go to bars and clubs are also all disordered in some way. I think worse.

I said that for me personally the clichè proved true, which is something else than you just quoted, because it turns it into my experience, and not a fact I also said, that it's never a bad idea to try something like this.

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Since I met my boyfriend of 3 years online I'm all for it! We didn't meet through a dating site but through a shared network on Facebook, but the principle is still the same and I know a lot of people who have had success with Plenty of Fish too. Actually, come to think of it I had another relationship that started online too, that one didn't work out obviously but it was fun while it lasted and I don't regret it.

The way I see it getting to check someone out online streamlines the process a ton. Rather than chatting up whoever looks attractive at a bar and hoping you have something in common you can choose who to talk to based on pictures and a whole profile with their interests, you can even talk online or over the phone first and see how you vibe. It really cuts down on awkward first dates, that's for sure!

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#18 Old 02-28-2011, 12:36 PM
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I've had success with online dating in the past. Two long-term bfs (longterm for me = approx 1 year and up?). They're are ex's, but it really was just a case of realizing we weren't as compatible as hoped for. But that can happen with any relationshis, regardless of how it came to be. So I say go for it! It's a great way to meet people. Just remember, there WILL be some not-so-impressive people, and since online dating allows a much speedier process of meeting people, it may seem like there are a lot, but don't despair!

Now let me just sound like a mother for a moment. Make sure to be safe! No private info to strangers! And if you take it the next step and decide to meet face to face, make sure it's in a public place!
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Since I met my boyfriend of 3 years online I'm all for it! We didn't meet through a dating site but through a shared network on Facebook, but the principle is still the same and I know a lot of people who have had success with Plenty of Fish too. Actually, come to think of it I had another relationship that started online too, that one didn't work out obviously but it was fun while it lasted and I don't regret it.

The way I see it getting to check someone out online streamlines the process a ton. Rather than chatting up whoever looks attractive at a bar and hoping you have something in common you can choose who to talk to based on pictures and a whole profile with their interests, you can even talk online or over the phone first and see how you vibe. It really cuts down on awkward first dates, that's for sure!

Plenty of fish is good too? my friend told me to use it but that was before I made this one on a vegan network. I guess I could try the omnivorous world wide web while I'm dabbling in the vegan one (seriously one vegan in my area and i listed Toronto not a small area.)

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Now let me just sound like a mother for a moment. Make sure to be safe! No private info to strangers! And if you take it the next step and decide to meet face to face, make sure it's in a public place!

Haha you dont sound like a mother at all everyone has been telling me that.

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Plenty of fish is good too? my friend told me to use it but that was before I made this one on a vegan network. I guess I could try the omnivorous world wide web while I'm dabbling in the vegan one (seriously one vegan in my area and i listed Toronto not a small area.)

Yeah, it's pretty good. I never actually made a profile myself but I lurked and observed my friends getting a lot of dates with it. You can just put that you're vegan and meeting another vegan (or someone who's cool with it) is very important to you, that should weed out the rabid carnivores.

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Well, with our ever-changing lifestyles. Technology has made it convenient for people to also find their potential love online.

BUT, personally I wouldn't do it because the concept is a bit scary. You never know if the person is a 70 yr old perv pretending to be in their early 20's. I'm not sure if you ever watch "Catfish" the movie/documentary? Try googling it, you'll know what I mean.
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BUT, personally I wouldn't do it because the concept is a bit scary. You never know if the person is a 70 yr old perv pretending to be in their early 20's.

You can work that out by what they talk about before you meet them. Ask them the right questions, you'll know.








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You can work that out by what they talk about before you meet them. Ask them the right questions, you'll know.








Yep, that's true. You can even chat with them over webcam at first to make sure they are who they say they are and of course when you meet for the first time do it in a busy public place so you can flee if necessary.

Honestly it's a lot safer and more reliable than having a friend set you up on a blind date or going out with someone you meet at a bar, you already have an idea of what the person is like and how well you'll get along before ever meeting.

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Honestly it's a lot safer and more reliable than having a friend set you up on a blind date or going out with someone you meet at a bar, you already have an idea of what the person is like and how well you'll get along before ever meeting.

Or, who they *present* as themselves anyway. I don't think it's safer or more reliable than dating a friend of a friend.

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It is safer but... its never happened for me lol. And the last time it did the guy was a jerk so i stopped listening to my friends about it lol.

I just joined plenty of fish cause my buddy said its good just chicks never message guys back so he stopped using it, and i can see why theres so many messages lol

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Or, who they *present* as themselves anyway. I don't think it's safer or more reliable than dating a friend of a friend.

Well, it's harder to fake a webcam conversation, they'd have to actually hire an actor to play them. And if even after you chat with them online and talk to them on the phone and over webcam you meet in a public place and it turns out to be an old perv who got his son to pretend to be him or something like that it's easy enough to turn around and leave without ever talking to them.

I guess it's as safe as meeting a friend of a friend really, the important part is being in a public place when you meet them in real life for the first time. I would say it's more reliable though because you get so much information right off the bat, you're not just showing up and hoping you get along and have shared interests you already know you do and you know what you can talk about.

Before I ever met my boyfriend for the first time we spent about 3 months chatting online, we talked about music, movies, politics, religion, pet peeves, you name it, and he was really funny and insightful and we were passionate about so many of the same things. When we finally met we were already friends and I felt so comfortable with him, within another month we were dating and we were living together a few months after that. I still love being with him and talking to him and whenever anything interesting happens he's the first person I want to share it with

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That makes more sense to me. My ex boyfriend and I met at a bar, and it didnt work out. and because of the chemistry we had I feel that it almost got in the way of the getting to know each other part. And the relationship didn't work out - after a year. and we both got really hurt from it.

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Not at all! I met my first serious boyfriend online (MySpace) and we were together for 5 1/2 years. I met my new and AMAZING man on OkCupid I love online dating because you can filter through people and get to know them before meeting them in person.
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I find it odd and rare when I hear about couples that didn't meet online first. It's so common now that it seems that's how most people find friends and significant others.
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