Love the offbeat bride. http://offbeatbride.com/
I read that blog and the offshoot, offbeat mama almost daily! The book is pretty awesome as well. I will forever be a fan of Ariel's after learning her favorite music festival is the one my fiance and I met at- Shambhala in BC.
A practical wedding http://apracticalwedding.com/
is also an amazing blog, full of great posts and even greater discussions about things that aren't normally covered on other wedding blogs.
For budgeting ideas, http://2000dollarwedding.com
is great, but not only for that.
Do put your wedding party on your invite list, cause you need to include them in the headcounts for food, favors etc.
When it comes to doing things on a budget I have read lots online and some of the most useful advice I've been finding while planning my own wedding is to:
Figure out what is important to you, and spend money on that. If food is important, and you don't care much about photos or a videographer or something, then put more money towards food.
You don't have to include all the things that the wedding industry wants you to include. You don't have to have favors for everyone, or get your make up and hair done professionally.
Use your friends talents!!!
DIY can sometimes wind up being more expensive. Doing it together is where it's at. We have my stepmom as our photographer (she is semi pro anyway, and has a great eye). We have friends catering the event at cost (my fiance catered theirs, and everyone pitched in). My dad knows so many musicians, our music is gonna be free and rocking. We have a friend bartending for tips and some free drinks.
Sometimes a wedding coordinator will save you money, if you are using a lot of vendors- they can help you find the best deals and take away a lot of stress. We're spending money on this because it was especially important for us to have a fun and stress free day!
You don't have to have a full dinner for a wedding reception. You can have an afternoon cake and champagne reception, or a lunch [email protected]
, or hor d'eurves with just beer and wine. You don't have to have a full bar. You can have a cash bar, or what we call a twoonie bar in Canada (drinks are 2 dollars, usually paid with 2 dollar coins, called twoonies) or donations only, or no bar at all.
It's your day and it can be anything you want it to be, but most importantly- it's about celebrating your love and marriage, and what it looks like doesn't matter, and what you spend on it doesn't matter. The important thing is you'll be getting married to your loved one, and having a wicked party to celebrate.